Matt Paknis Leadership Development

  56 years later, can you pick us out from our 2nd Grade, Central Ave, Ms. Piccuto, class pic?  Deidre Covington, Alan Sallie

"Selfishness and greed, individual or national, cause most of our troubles." — Harry S. Truman  "Abusive management practices like bullying and sexual harassment routinely feed on income inequality." - Johanna Rickne #selfless #generous #honest #Respect #equal #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #fair #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #humility  Predatory bullying is more prevalent in economies with aggressive, 0 sum, top down cultures, like in the United States, where power and salary disparities between organizational reporting relationships and titles, not always based on competence and merit, are significant.

"We are not enemies, but friends. We must not be enemies." - Abraham Lincoln "The majesty of citizenship holds no distinction of race, class, or faith, gender or background." - Donald Trump "...the first wish of my heart was, if parties did exist, to reconcile them." - George Washington "It's important we talk with each other in a healing way, and not to wound." - Barack Obama  #friends #Citizen #reconciliation #healing #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #love #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #Neighborly

"Recognition is the golden key unlocking the treasure chest of human potential." – Oliver Westwood "Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." – Voltaire "The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated." – William James #recognize #appreciate #potential #excellence #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #thank #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #love

"The main reasons for the growth and institutionalization of corruption are: a culture of secrecy with lack of transparency..." - Phashant Bhusan "A corrupt judge does not carefully search for the truth." - Horace "Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth." — Buddha #transparency #justice #truth #expose #clean #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #trust #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #character

"Insults are the last resort of an insecure fool trying to appear confident." - Dustin Woodward "The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury." – Marcus Aurelius "A gentleman will not insult me, and no man not a gentleman can insult me." – Frederick Douglass #highroad #boundaries #protection #laughter #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #calm #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #standup  During the early phases of workplace bullying, indirect and discrete types of behavior prevail; for example, sly comments & insults no one else but the target witnesses from the bully. More direct acts appear later.

"My concern is not whether God is on our side. My great concern is to be on God’s side, for God is always right." - Abraham Lincoln “When one of us falters, we all falter. When one of us rises, we all rise.” – Barack Obama “Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” – John F. Kennedy #Godisgood #RiseUp #courage #purpose #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #effort #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #direction

"Without feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?" — Confucius "The best organizations are the best because they have the best culture." — Tony Hsieh "Share our similarities, celebrate our differences." — M. Scott Peckl #Respect #culture #similarities #differences #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #love #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #thrive

In 100% of organizations where toxic power and control dynamics manifest as bullying, abuse, pedophilia, and discrimination, those in leadership roles are aware of the abuse, yet fail to address, stop, or report it to legal authorities.   All bullying and abuse is rooted in a bully's, and co conspirators', fear of being exposed as incompetent frauds.  The most talented, and decent, people trigger this fear, and are targeted. So, the best people are often bullied. "When you see something that is not right, not fair, not just, you have to speak up." — John Lewis #dignity #respect #equality #decency #talent #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #protect #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #SpeakUp

"Don't leave inferences to be drawn when evidence can be presented." - Richard Wright "Facts are always friendly; all evidence one can acquire, in any area, leads one much closer to truth." - Unknown "If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain #evidence #facts #truth #freedom #justice #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #expose #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #SpeakUp  Objective bullying evidence, like emails, photos, videos, recordings (where 1 party consent laws apply), etc. is critical to prove workplace abuse.  In addition, there is great strength and credibility with workplace bullying and abuse witness testimonies.

"We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools." — Martin Luther King, Jr. "We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided." — J.K. Rowling "Unity is strength… when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved." — Mattie Stepanek #live #together #strength #unity #teamwork #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #love #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #collaboration

“People want to know they matter.” – Les Brown "No job is worth your sanity or health. Let’s focus on what you can control." - Chris Pine "Like toxic relatives, toxic colleagues are best kept at a distance." — Suzy Welch "I see how you're treated; just know I’m here for you." - suggested “The culture didn't align with my values. I found a better fit to thrive.” - Leonardo Montini #sanity #health #values #control #fit #thrive #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #choices #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #culture

"Ethical people operate with transparency, making it impossible for hidden agendas and complicity to thrive. Bullies target Integrity-driven people as they, by nature,  threaten, intimidate, and expose corrupt organizations and toxic / phony individuals." - Barbara Kellerman #ethics #transparency #integrity #ExposeTruth  #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #courage #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #SpeakUp

The worst bullying manager I’ve known conducted his assaults in private sans witnesses. This was intentional.  #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #protest #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #SpeakUp  "Be isolated, be ignored, be attacked, be in doubt, be frightened, but do not be silenced" - Bertrand Russell “The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people.” — Dr Martin Luther King Jr

"America was not built on fear. America was built on courage, on imagination, and an unbeatable determination to do the job at hand." — Harry S. Truman "It is a good thing to keep in memory the greatness of the nation's past; but it is only a good thing if it spurs us on to make greater the nation's present." — Theodore Roosevelt #courage #Imagination #determination #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #unity #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #greatness

"It isn't about what's wrong with you, it's about what happened to you." - Bruce D. Perry "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." — Rumi "Trauma changes you forever, but it doesn't have to destroy you." — Lundy Bancroft "You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." — Marcus Aurelius #healing #recovery #light #grit #transcend #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #truth #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #evolve

"Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame." - Benjamin Franklin "Toray sought and was granted a subpoena for the book's publisher, Post Hill Press, (tortious interference) to review drafts and communications regarding the book." - ECF, Rhode Island "Toray Plastics (America), Inc. voluntarily dismissed all claims with prejudice against Matthew Paknis in a Rhode Island federal lawsuit, according to a report by Godbout Law. The case, filed in December 2018, was dismissed 51 months after initiation. Paknis did not sign a settlement agreement or pay any money to the company." #justice #truth #rights #AbuseOfProcess #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #Equality #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #Karma

"Do not be silent; there is no limit to the power that may be released through you." — Howard Thurman  "Build dikes of courage to hold back the flood of fear." — Martin Luther King, Jr.  "The mark of admiration: steadfastness in the face of trouble." - Ludwig van Beethoven #SpeakUp #power #courage #steadfast #grit #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #strength #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #fight  Victims and targets who make bullying observations and claims are often stigmatized as troublemakers or whistleblowers, even though breaking the silence by exposing and stopping bullying and abuse is most courageous and admirable.

"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power." - Abraham Lincoln "Leadership consists of nothing but taking responsibility for everything that goes wrong." - John F. Kennedy "Adversity introduces a man to himself." - Albert Einstein #character #responsibility #adversity #grit #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #strength #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #dignity

"You always have the right to have no opinion." — Marcus Aurelius "Don't let someone else's opinion of you become your reality." - Les Brown "My psychiatrist told me I was crazy and I said I want a second opinion. He said okay, you're ugly too." - Rodney Dangerfield #Choice #Observation #facts #truth #freedom #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #liberty #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #AprilFools