Thursday, February 28, 2019

When the Bully is the Boss


"When the Bully is the Boss" by Benedict Carey is an interesting article, assessing workplace bullying from academicians' perspectives.

From my practitioner, researcher, and survivor perspective, healthy yet tough bosses create thriving organizations where everyone feels safe with trust.

Bullies exploit and hurt the vulnerable with attacks, by throwing them under the bus, or by hanging them out to dry. This is all done because the bully fears his or her incompetence is threatened, or will be exposed, by an unassuming, yet talented target.

Thus, the most talented and gifted employees, instead of being celebrated and modeled, are targeted and attacked by bullies and often leave. All this useless pain and suffering exists solely to satisfy a bully's distorted and disturbed needs to control a threat to his or her incompetence.

Bullies are in for it for themselves.

Healthy leaders uplift thoughts and conduct with transparency, self inspection, and selflessness.

"Bullying bosses undermine their own teams. Morale and company loyalty plunge, tardiness increases and sick days are more frequent." In one of my book's,
case studies, one bully's behaviors cost a plant over $500,000 a month.

It's time to demand good leaders.

@nytimes
#antibullying
#healthyleadership
#thrivingorganizations

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Influencing Healthy Behaviors and Thriving Organizations

Below please find a condensed letter sent from a mom whose son attended my recent talk on:

A. Being Responsible with Healthy Decisions,

B. Leading while Uplifting Thoughts and Conduct, and

C. Building a Team with Trust and Safety.



It was offered to Boy Scouts and their Adult Leaders to help troops Thrive with Healthy Leadership Practices.

This 1.25 hour long program included engaging stories, activities, and tools highlighting these three topics.

This program has been embraced by international audiences of all ages and professions. Feel free to contact me to discuss or arrange comparable engagements. Thanks for your consideration.


"Good Morning Matt,

I am writing to thank you for your presentation at the Boy Scout meeting yesterday. You seemed to reach my son.

He came home from the meeting inspired and motivated and very excited to talk about what he had learned. He was so impressed with you, from your handshake to your stories at Brown to the group exercises.

Why am I so appreciative? I feel like I am in a constant battle with my son over healthy nutrition vs. just eating to put on pounds for sports as seems to be the norm at his school.

Also, I've been in this struggle to get him to see the importance of balancing his sports and academics.

He came home from the meeting last night, shared about it over dinner and got busy with his studies. After hearing you, he believes he can bring up his B's and C's to A's and B's and it's him wanting it and doing it, not my husband and I nagging him.

I know that he has the ability to do this and he was able to use what you talked about to change his course. I know it was one night but I also know that when this young man decides to do something, he is all in.

Thank you so much for reaching him in a way we could not.

Feel free to connect with us to reinforce this motivation at any time.

Sincerely,
A Loving Mom"

Saturday, February 23, 2019

Overcoming Abusive Organizations and People


Debilitating organizations can change and thrive with healthy leaders who:

1. Detect,

2. Address,

3. Prevent, and

4. Transcend bullying and abusive practices.

#healthyleaders
#thrivingorganizations
#overcomeabuse

Sunday, February 17, 2019

It's Time to Demand and Select Healthy Leaders!


McCarrick and Paterno lived as demigods into their 80's when light exposed their deceptive power and control, manifested in false appearances, and used to exploit and abuse children. True strength and toughness is characterized by leaders and organizations who protect and elevate their most vulnerable with self inspection and critique, selflessness, transparency, and honesty. It's time to assure healthy leaders are selected to help everyone thrive. Life is too short to tolerate bullies.