Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"There are three types of people out there; those who lean, those who lift, and those who lead. People who lean immobilize you; stay away from them. People who lift inspire you; keep them near. People who lead positively influence you; seek them out." - Farshad Asl #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychogicalsafetyatworkact  

"The tendency to aggression is an innate, independent, instinctual disposition in (humans)... it constitutes the powerful obstacle to culture." - Sigmund Freud "Unity is strength... when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved." - Mattie Stepanek #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychogicalsafetyatworkact “Aggression is the wrong way to use power. There are wonderful ways to be leaders without being aggressive,” says Debra Pepler, Ph.D. #LeadersArentBullies

"Masterpieces are not single and solitary births; they are the outcome of many years of thinking in common, of thinking by the body of the people, so that the experience of the mass is behind the single voice." - Virginia Woolf "Confidence isn't optimism or pessimism, and it's not a character attribute. It's the expectation of a positive outcome." - Rosabeth Moss Kanter #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychogicalsafetyatworkact

"People are afraid of things they don't understand. They don't know how to relate. It threatens their security, their existence, their career, image." - Bill Laswell #healthyworkplaces #steup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychogicalsafetyatworkact A bully often picks on someone who does well, whose talents are recognized, who's  promoted at work. Rather than celebrate others' successes, a jealous bully's fear of being exposed as an incompetent fraud, in comparison, fuels an attack on gifted people. #LeadersArentBullies

"Some people think that the truth can be hidden with a little cover-up and decoration. But as time goes by, what is true is revealed, and what is fake fades away." - Ismail Haniyeh “The time has come for honest (people) to denounce false teachers and attack false gods.” - Luther Burbank #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"A chain is no stronger than its weakest link, and life is after all a chain." - William James "The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others." - Albert Schweitzer #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct A  bully’s warped and narcissistic mental models, perceptions, and  criticisms often foster prejudice against the most vulnerable and least  represented members of society. #LeadersArentBullies

"Resilience is distinct from mere survival, and more than mere endurance. Resilience is often endurance with direction." - Eric Greitens "Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event." - Brian Tracy #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Really big people are, above everything else, courteous, considerate and generous - not just to some people in some circumstances - but to everyone all the time." - Thomas J. Watson #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  A person’s capacity to be aware of others’ feelings and the ability to manage these feelings, allow people with emotional intelligence to manage healthy relationships. Bullies don’t care about others’ feelings. Bullying bosses lack empathy. #LeadersArentBullies 

"As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others." - Marianne Williamson "A good teacher (leader) can inspire hope, ignite the imagination, and instill a love of learning." - Brad Henry #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Power is either obtained by fear of punishment or by acts of love. Love is a thousand times more effective and permanent than power  derived from fear of punishment." -Mahatma Gandhi "Power does not corrupt. Fear corrupts... perhaps the fear of a loss of power." -John Steinbeck #healthyworkplaces #StepUp #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact People who push others around are often driven by the need for power over gifted workers who trigger a bully's fear of being exposed as an incompetent fraud. It takes a conscious decision to abuse and bully, to enjoy having  perceived control over others. #LeadersArentBullies  

"It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts." - Robert H. Schuller #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"To be a utilitarian means that you judge actions as right or wrong in accordance with whether they have good consequences. So you try to do what will have the best consequences for all of those affected." - Peter Singer #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Misguided admiration, and fear, of power facilitates workplace bullying.  Corporations with individualized incentives encourage competition vs. collaboration.  In turn, society places inordinate importance on being in charge instead of being great. #LeadersArentBullies  

"Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than  obstacles may discourage you." - Ralph Marston "Good leaders take a little more than their share of the blame, a little less than their share of the credit." - Arnold H. Glasow #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  

"Camaraderie doesn't happen by accident; developing a strong sense of trust, accountability, and togetherness around team goals requires intentional effort." - Don Yaeger "Transparency increases credibility and accountability." - Park Won-soon #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact When workers do not have concrete and shared goals and accountability, roles, or processes, yet bosses hold these workers accountable for arbitrary and unrealistic results, tensions run high and conflict, scapegoating, and trust issues most definitely arise. #LeadersArentBullies

A bystander has the potential to make a positive difference in a bullying situation, yet only 13% of these US employees polled state they intervened to stop workplace abuse. "The care of human life and happiness, and not their destruction, is the first and only object of good government.”- Thomas Jefferson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"With the right people, culture, and values, you can accomplish great things." - Tricia Griffith "Behavior is the mirror in which everyone shows their image." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Let stated values and beliefs define an organization’s culture. Let positive behaviors and outcomes reflect the quality of the psycho-social work environment. #LeadersArentBullies

"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." - Alice Walker "The greatest deception (people) suffer is from their own opinions." - Leonardo da Vinci #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"To be silent is to be complicit." - Richard Edelman "If we sit by and become complacent and put our heads in the sand, we're complicit." - Shelley Morrison "When we see people bully, we are complicit in some way if we allow it to happen without intervening." - Martin Freeman #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Ending bullying lays squarely on the shoulders of management and executives. Because, in a bullying workplace, management knowingly and willingly puts their people in harm’s way. #LeadersArentBullies #endbullying

"Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles, discouragements, and impossibilities: It is this, that in all things distinguishes the strong soul from the weak." - Thomas Carlyle #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good people to do nothing." - Edmund Burke "You're either part of the solution or you're part of the problem." - Eldridge Cleaver #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact When no one is held accountable with consequence for abusive behaviors at work, this non-response is the same as condoning bullying in the workplace. #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculture

"Turnover can be one of the most expensive problems at a company." - Shawn Achor "Managers tend to blame their turnover problems on everything under the sun, while ignoring the crux of the matter: people don't leave jobs; they leave managers." - Travis Bradberry #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Violence is violence. Trauma is trauma. And we are taught to downplay it, even think about it as child's play." - Tarana Burke "You can't heal what you don't acknowledge." - Jack Canfield #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying may be mislabeled and downplayed as “conflict” or a mere “difference in personality styles.” These differences can lead to abuse, but bullying is distinguished as a power and control dynamic manifested with violence, assault, and demeaning acts. #LeadersArentBullies

"The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine "One of the most healing ways to overcome trauma is being seen (validated). Being seen doesn't have to mean that someone actually lays their eyes on you, although that certainly helps." - Timothy Morton #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Whistleblowing is exposing secret and wrongful acts by those in power to enable reform." - Glenn Greenwald "You can only protect your liberties in this world by protecting the other (hu)man's freedom." - Clarence Darrow "Freedom dies unless it's used." - Hunter S. Thompson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact When a person behaves in a certain way, either positive or negative, it is because they are willing, able, and allowed. People change behaviors for two reasons: to experience pleasure, and to avoid pain. Bullies create work environments where people keep secrets to avoid pain.

"The idea was to place myself in the presence of only those people who give off the warm, friendly vibrations which soothe the coating on my nerves. Life never was long enough to provide time for enemies." - Jimmy Breslin "Life is very interesting... in the end, some of your greatest pains, become your greatest strengths." - Drew Barrymore #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"For me, an area of moral clarity is: you're in front of someone who's suffering and you have the tools at your disposal to alleviate that suffering or even eradicate it, and you act." - Paul Farmer #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Eradicating bullying is not just a “nice thing to do,” it’s a “must do.” The survival of organizations in the twenty-first century depends on it. Laws may soon demand it. #LeadersArentBullies #healthyworkplace

"Transparency increases credibility and accountability." - Park Won-soon "Acknowledgement of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune." - William James "Sooner or later everyone sits down to a banquet of consequences." - Robert Louis Stevenson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psyshologicalsafetyatworkact

Bullying violates the basic tenets of the United States Constitution, namely, each citizen’s right to “Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness.” #LeadersArentBullies #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct "Those who won our independence... valued liberty as an end and as a means. They believed liberty to be the secret of happiness and courage to be the secret of liberty." - Louis D. Brandeis "Injustice in the end produces independence." - Voltaire #healthyworkplaces #stepup #psyshologicalsafetyatworkact

"Bullying is the result of an unequal (real or perceived) power dynamic." - Maria Konnikova "Everyone has seen bullying, and seeing it, has responded to it by joining in or objecting, by laughing or keeping silent, by feeling disgusted or feeling interested." - Octavia E. Butler "You can't be against bullying without actually doing something about it." - Randi Weingarten #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psyshologicalsafetyatworkact

"Do the right thing. It will gratify some people and astonish the rest." - Mark Twain  "Know what's important. Have the wisdom to do the right thing, the integrity to do it, the character to stand up to those who don't, and the courage to stop those who won't." - Mark Goulston #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psyshologicalsafetyatworkact Most bullies know they won’t be punished, and incompetent or unethical HR people conceal and tolerate bullying environments, realizing, until current legislation passes, targets have little legal precedent or leverage to protect themselves. #LeadersArentBullies

"The desire of gold is not for gold. It is for the means of freedom and benefit." - Ralph Waldo Emerson "Self-centered leaders manipulate when they move people for personal benefit. Mature leaders motivate by moving people for mutual benefit." - John C. Maxwell "Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships." - Michael Jordan #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psyshologicalsafetyatworkact