Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"When your brain is flooded with too much stress, it can shut down your thinking and decision-making skills, making it hard to respond to a situation in a logical way." - Dr. Aditi Nerurkar "It's like having your worst nightmare that you always try to block out come to the forefront of your mind and you're forced to re-live it." - Jonathan "Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection. That's why healthy relationships are difficult for wounded people" - Ryan North "Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory." - Bessel van der Kolk #stressrelief #trauma #healing #together #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #peace

“Truth is generally the best vindication against slander.” - Abraham Lincoln "The wheels of justice turn slowly, but grind exceedingly fine."-  Proverb "The moral arc of the universe is long, but it bends toward justice." - Martin Luther King Jr. #truth #vindication #justice #grind #grit #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #transparency

Document and record to, if possible, objectify notable worker behaviors and performance outcomes. This prevents workers from feeling  performance assessments are biased. Without objective metrics, it's difficult to silence suspicions of nepotism, favoritism, and retaliation. #facts #transparency #Credible  #Metrics  #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #truth #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #Justice  "You are entitled to your own opinion, not to your own facts." - Daniel Moynihan "Without facts, you can't have truth." - Maria Ressa "A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity." — Dalai Lama "Truth never damages a just cause." — Mahatma Gandhi

 

"A mistake repeated more than once is a choice." - Paulo Coelho "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." - Leo Tolstoy "The only proper way to eliminate bad habits is to replace them with good ones." - Jerome Hines "It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them." - Benjamin Franklin #Change #culture #habits #Rewards #results #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #peace  #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth  

“It takes something more than intelligence to act intelligently.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky "Ten percent of life is what happens to you. Ninety percent is how you respond to it." - Jalen Hurts "Listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply." - Stephen Covey #Peace #response #listen #maturity #control #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"A lot of the problems in the world come about because people talk about each other instead of to each other." — Ronald Reagan "Let both sides explore what problems unite us instead of belaboring those problems which divide us." — John F. Kennedy #collaboration #unity   #solutions #peace #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"The people who are bullying you, they're insecure about who they are, and that's why they're bullying you." - Mitt Romney "In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you." - Jesus, Matthew 7:12 "In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity." -  Albert Einstein #identity #security #bekind #opportunity #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #truth   #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #justice  

A violation of constitutional rights is the act of a government official, acting under "color of law," who willfully deprives a person of a right or privilege protected by the Constitution. Toray and a colluding RI Federal Judiciary violated my rights to free speech and to a fair trial. "A right delayed is a right denied." - Martin Luther King Jr. 's "The rights of every man are diminished when the rights of one man are threatened." - John F. Kennedy #justice #rights #freedom #speech #trial #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

Subjects who described receiving constructive improvement performance feedback from managers who do not bully state they use the feedback to do their best and to make improvements. #feedback #Excel #refine #succeed #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth  "Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Ken Blanchard "We all need people who will give us feedback. That's how we improve." - Bill Gates "There is no failure. Only feedback." - Robert Allen

"A house divided against itself cannot stand." – Abraham Lincoln “If we do not want to die together in war, we must learn to live together in peace.”-  Harry S. Truman "If (people) were angels, no government would be necessary." – James Madison #peace #together #angels #government #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"The truth is the light and the light is the truth." - Ralph Ellison "There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in." - Leonard Cohen "Education is the movement from darkness to light." - Allan Bloom #truth #light #education #motivation #energy #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #justice  

"Corporations have been enthroned and an era of corruption in high places will follow." - Abraham Lincoln “Impunity becomes the very foundation upon which systems of corruption are built.“ - Rigoberta Menchú "The fight for justice against corruption is never easy. The price we pay is well worth holding on to our dignity." - Frank Serpico  #corruption #fighter #justice #dignity  #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth" - Henry David Thoreau "Our lives improve only when we take chances – and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves" - Walter Anderson. #truth #honesty #Risk #Growth #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #integrity Honest performance feedback is necessary to learn and to grow into and with a job....When feedback is given without petty berating and irrational attacks and is based on observable and agreeable facts; workers are more apt to strive for excellence.

"Leadership is not merely a position of authority, but a moral responsibility to inspire, guide, and empower others with integrity and empathy." - Caneel Joyce "Search others for their virtues, thy self for thy vices." - Benjamin Franklin #moral #inspire #empower #integrity #virtue #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new." - Socrates "To change a culture, the leaders have to change the messages people receive about what they must do to fit in." - Fred Kofman "Change your thoughts and you change your world." - Norman Vincent Peale #change #thoughts #actions #rewards #Build #leadersarentbullies #choices #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #energy

"Anyone can be falsely accused of a crime. Everyone accused of a crime deserves a fair trial." - John Garamendi "If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter." - George Washington

"There are bad owners (managers). A dog treated badly, shown no love, will act this way. Shown kindness and hope, they're fine, just like people." - Cesar Millan "Humans are free to choose their response in any given set of circumstances, to choose their way." - Viktor E. Frankl #choices #response #kindness #hope #love #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth   Bullying policies, like leash laws, must apply to all dogs or everyone from the board of executives to a chief executive to field and front-line staff, and from directors to team leaders.

  Thank you Veterans, for protecting our freedoms.  Pictured are Pointe du Hoc, where 18 year old American Soldiers first broke through enemy lines on D Day and my Grandfather Edmund Bowen, a WWI Combat Veteran and one of NJ's first State Troopers.   Personal thanks also to my father, Army Veteran William Paknis and my father in law, Navy Veteran Robert Zaunere.  

"You try to do what will have the best consequences for all of those affected." - Peter Singer "Play fair, be prepared for others to play dirty, and don’t let them drag you into the mud." -  Richard Branson "Most good relationships are built on mutual trust and respect." - Mona Sutphen #vitality #results #process #relationship #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth "Most good relationships are built on mutual trust and respect." - Mona Sutphen #vitality #results #process #relationship #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth  

“The corporations have money, power, and influence. Our sole weapon is public outrage.” - David Mitchell "All the rights secured to the citizens under the Constitution are worth nothing, and a mere bubble, except guaranteed to them by an independent and virtuous Judiciary." - Andrew Jackson #power #outrage #independent #virtue #truth #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #justice

"Where civil society is welcomed, communities are more safe, more secure, and more prosperous." - Ben Rhodes "I have no idols. I admire work, dedication and competence." - Ayrton Senna #civilsociety #safety #security #prosperity #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth When a bullied employee approaches, reassure them the bullying will be dealt with appropriate and professional confidence and competence.

"And just as the terrorist seeks to divide humanity in hate, so we have to unify it around an idea. And that idea is liberty." - Tony Blair "If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself." - Henry Ford #unity #together #peace #harmony #strength #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"A great (person) is hard on themself; a small (person) is hard on others." - Confucius "Strong people stand up for themselves, but stronger people stand up for others." - Suzy Kassem "It is a sign of high maturity to rise to the level of self-criticism." - Martin Luther King, Jr. #greatness #strength #maturity #selfcriticism #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"You wanna know people are held accountable if they engage in misconduct and that no one is above the law." - Eric Schneiderman "The predator wants your silence. It feeds their power, entitlement, and they want it to feed your shame." - Viola Davis #accountability #justice #SpeakUp #equality #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth #ReportAbuse

“Tend to the people, and they will tend to the business.” - John C. Maxwell “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” - Benjamin Frankli “The safety of the people is the highest law.” - Marcus Tullius Cicero “Tops is the health and safety of its people.” - Ralph Nader #safety #health #ReportAbuse #justice #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth Safe, trustworthy, efficient, consistent, effective responses to bullying are critical in establishing healthy workplaces.

"Most public polling is reported from a topline, horserace-type perspective. It does nothing, or at best very little, to illuminate the day's news." - Joel Benenson "Without such a lively sense of responsibility, a free press may readily become a powerful instrument of injustice." - Felix Frankfurter #FreePress #independent #truth #Narrative #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #justice

"An objective truth and individual reason are feared (by bullies) above all." - Jimmy Johnson "Traumatic events challenge an individual's view of the world as a just, safe and predictable place. Traumas that are caused by human behavior commonly have more psychological impact than those caused by nature." - American Psychological Association #safety #justice #freedom #speech #trial #leadersarentbullies #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth

"There is no greater tyranny than that which is perpetrated under the shield of the law and in the name of justice." - Montesquieu "Justice delayed is justice denied." - William E. Gladstone "I think the first duty of society is justice." + Alexander Hamilton #justice #equality #freedom #speech #trial #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #truth