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Appreciate

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"Managers tend to blame their turnover problems on everything under the sun, while ignoring the crux of the matter: people don't leave jobs; they leave managers." - Travis Bradberry #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Stand Up for the Innocent

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"To those who abuse: the sin is yours, the crime is yours, and the shame is yours. To those who protect the perpetrators: blaming the victims only masks the evil within, making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest." - Flora Jesso #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces   #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct In many interpersonal conflicts, both parties are accountable for the rift. This is not true with bullying and abuse. The perpetrator is always responsible. Successful leaders’ make certain bullying is not permitted in their organizations; their cultures do not tolerate abuse.

Innovate with Respect

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"For good ideas and true innovation, you need respectful human interaction: conflict, argument, debate." - Margaret Heffernan "Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners." - Laurence Sterne #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Solve Problems

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"We look for personal characteristics to predict success, like  perseverance in facing challenges. We look for the ability to influence and motivate others with shared values, strong problem-solving ability, and leadership." - Wendy Kopp #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Separate people from the problem. Identify, define, and address the problem with the approach both parties desire. Do not attack the other  person. Manage the problem.

Oh Canada!

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Our Civil Canadian Northern Neighbors are outpacing the USA and OSHA in acknowledging and addressing workplace bullying. Well done, eh! https://www.ccohs.ca/oshanswers/psychosocial/bullying.html

Commit to Change

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 "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. " - Margaret Mead #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Integrity

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"The greatness of a (person) is not in how much wealth (they) acquire, but in (their) integrity and (their) ability to affect those around (them) positively." - Bob Marley #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Leaders build trust. They make vulnerable workers feel safe. They generate a positive spark and cycle of effectiveness. They shed light on bullying with transparency and self-awareness. They have integrity. #LeadersArentBullies

Transcend Trauma

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 "Violence is violence. Trauma is trauma. And we are taught to downplay it, even think about it as child's play." - Tarana Burke "The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Set an Example

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"If there is such a thing as good leadership, it is to give a good example. I have to do so for all the Ikea employees." - Ingvar Kamprad "A good example is far better than a good precept." - Dwight L. Moody #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying is not tolerated in healthy organizations.  Their officials  are consistent and transparent in evaluating whether employees are bulled. All employees are expected to   treat each other with dignity and respect.

Disregard Flawed Perceptions

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"We must not allow other people's limited peceptions to define us." - Virginia Satir #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Listen and Respect

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"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." - Bryant H. McGill #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Building an organization with continuous learning and vitality requires everyone be a learner who appreciates opposing perspectives. It requires respect to influence others to check mental models and suspend listening obstacles.

True Toughness

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"Leadership is getting players (workers) to believe in you. If you tell a teammate you're ready to play as tough as you're able to, you'd better go out there and do it. Players (workers)  will see right through a phony. And they can tell when you're not giving it all you've got." - Larry Bird #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Learn

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"Learning never exhausts the mind." - Leonardo da Vinci "Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive." - Jamais Cascio #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethought andconduct #DignityAtWorkAct A critical difference between thriving organizations and those struggling to survive is the capacity to learn from circumstances, experiences, and the message the environment is sending. #LeadersArentBullies

See Something, Please Say Something

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Yet only 13% of those aware of bullying address it. Fear of retaliation and of becoming the next target discourages reporting bullying, but this must change. "In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

Balance Results and Relationships

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"The best advisors help in three ways: they encourage assessing an  issue from multiple angles; they help balance short-term tugs with important long-term priorities; and they ask tough questions to reach the best solution." - Margo Georgiadis #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Leaders who stop or prevent bullying balance their attention across, and impact, 3 performance dimensions: Leading team results, managing personal development, and coaching healthy relationships.  #LeadersArentBullies

Tell Your Story

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"The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can." - Neil Gaiman “Stories constitute the single most powerful weapon in a leader’s arsenal.”  - Dr. Howard Gardner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Transcend Abuse of Power

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Cormorants gazing towards Cuttyhunk "I believe the root of all evil is abuse of power." - Patricia Cornwell #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct People who transcend workplace #bullying stop the cycle.  They identify and condemn distorted fears and criticisms. They align with mentors who exude—and infuse in others—positive energy. They thrive and realize desired outcomes with healthy relationships and ethical processes.

Rational Calm

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"Education must lead us from the irresponsible opinion to true responsible judgment." - Ludwig Mies van derby Rohe "Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset." - Saint Francis de Sales #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Focus on the Facts

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"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passions, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." - John Adams "Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not his own facts." - Daniel Patrick Moynihan #healthyworkplaces   #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct When dealing with a bullying incident, focus on facts. Understand, respect, and explore worker complaints and perspectives. Get the full story/picture. Cite specific observations and behaviors. Avoid jumping to conclusions and being hijacked by emotions. #LeadersArentBullies

Courage and Bravery

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"A coward is much more exposed to quarrels than a (person) of spirit." - Thomas Jefferson "A dog barks when his master is attacked. I would be a coward if I saw that God's truth is attacked and yet would remain silent." - John Calvin #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Consistency

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"Relationships feed on credibility, honesty, and consistency." - Scott Borchetta "Trust is built with consistency." - Lincoln Chafee #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Document, record, and address performance inconsistencies. If workers are evaluated with varying standards, acknowledge and shed light on the inconsistency's cause, whether it's nepotism, favoritism, or passive-aggressive retaliatory behaviors.

No One Deserves to be Bullied

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"I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It's the bully who's insecure." - Shay Mitchell "Bullying is never fun, it's a cruel and terrible thing to do to someone. If you are being bullied, it is not your fault. No one deserves to be bullied, ever." - Raini Rodriguez #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Heart to Heart to Help

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"He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help." - Abraham Lincoln “Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a person’s growth without destroying their  roots.” – Frank A. Clark #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Subjects use performance feedback to strive to make improvements when the feedback is constructive and when its offered by healthy supervisors who do not bully. #LeadersArentBullies

Speak Up and Address Abuse

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"The battleline between good and evil runs through the heart of every (human)." - Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn "The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people." Martin Luther King, Jr.  "Good people do not need laws to tell them to act responsibly, while bad people will find a way around the laws." - Plato #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Good Feedback

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Cormorants watching a regatta When we improve, it is inherently motivating. In order for people to make progress, they need feedback on how they're doing." - Daniel H. Pink "True intuitive expertise is learned from prolonged experience with good feedback on mistakes." - Daniel Kahneman #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Honest improvement feedback, based on rational, objective, and realistic criteria is essential to learn and to grow in a job.... When feedback is given without petty berating or irrational, immature, attacks; workers strive to improve their performance.

Every Bully Must Be Held Accountable

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"No (person) is above the law and no (one) is below it: nor do we ask any (person's) permission when we ask (them) to obey it." - Theodore Roosevelt #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying policies should apply to everyone from the board of executives to a chief executive to field and frontline staff, and from directors to team leaders.

Welcome, Include, Attend, Respect

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"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi "That's how I was taught. That's how I was raised, to ignore the stupidity, continue on and do what I need to do." - Bubba Wallace #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Empower

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"Empower yourself. You need confidence because bullying belittles. It takes away confidence, and nobody deserves that." - Bill Goldberg "A great leader has the ability to inspire and empower us to address problems and find the answers." - Abhijit Banerjee #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Employees who disclose they were bullied at  organizations dedicated to empowering workers to  identify, address, prevent, and transcend bullying are reassured the abuse will be met with appropriate, effective, quick, and professional responses. #LeadersArentBullies

Listen

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"You prove your worth with your actions, not with your mouth." - Jean Paul "It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." - Mark Twain "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." - Epictetus #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Fight Abuse with Simple and Effective Processes

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"With power comes the abuse of power. Where there are bosses, there can be crazy bosses." - Judd Rose "As a leader, you must drive effective communication and valued purpose." - Chris Fussell "Simple behavior and communication is more effective than complex." - Warren Buffett #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Safe / credible, efficient, consistent, effective responses to bullying are critical in establishing and maintaining healthy workplaces.

Genuine Concern

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"The only thing worse than a coach or CEO who doesn't care about his people is one who pretends to care. People can spot a phony every time." - Jimmy Johnson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thank You for Your Sacrifice

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Pont du Hoc, Normandy, France.  Thank you for your sacrifice.  Happy Memorial Day.

Involve and Learn

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 Happy Memorial Day! "Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.” – Benjamin Franklin “Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” ― John F. Kennedy #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Use training to ensure all employees are offered consistent information describing the organization’s anti-bullying values and bullying response policies. #LeadersArentBullies

Lift People Up

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"There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up."--John Andres Holmes #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Happy Memorial Day!

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Maturity

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"One of the greatest indicators of our own maturity is revealed in how we respond to the weaknesses, the inexperience, and the potentially offensive actions of others." - David A. Bednar #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct A healthy leader's behaviors and responses show employees the organization does not tolerate bullying.  It repels bullying.  This  leader is mature, rational, objective, realistic, equitable, and consistent when addressing problematic employee scenarios. #LeadersArentBullies

Embrace Talent

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A schoolyard bully targets children who trigger the bully's great fear of being ostracized for being different or unique.  A workplace bully targets talented employees  who trigger the bully's great fear of being exposed as an incompetent fraud. "We can forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when (adults)  are afraid of the light." - Plato #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Attack Problems, Not People

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"In these days of difficulty, we Americans everywhere must and shall choose the path of social justice...the path of faith, the path of hope, and the path of love toward our fellow (humans)." - Franklin Delano Roosevelt #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Separate people from the problem. Identify, define, and address the problem's root cause with an acceptable and credible approach. Avoid attacking people.  Dissect, dismantle, and destroy problems. #LeadersArentBullies

Protect the Vulnerable

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"If you truly believe in the value of life, you care about all of the weakest and most vulnerable members of society." - Joni Eareckson Tada "The best thing to do when you find yourself in a hurting or vulnerable place is to surround yourself with the strongest, finest, most positive people you know." - Kristin Armstrong #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Our Weakest Members Determine Our Strength

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We're only as strong as the way we treat our weakest / most vulnerable members. "but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea." - Matthew Chapter 18, Verse 6. Bible, English Standard. https://www.npr.org/2022/05/24/1101012028/southern-baptist-sex-abuse-list

Enlighten and Influence

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"Enlighten the people generally, and tyranny and oppressions of body and mind will vanish like evil spirits at the dawn of day." - Thomas Jefferson "Words that enlighten the soul are more precious than jewels." - Hazrat Inayat Khan #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Leaders build trust. They make vulnerable workers feel safe. They generate a positive spark to their organization's interpersonal cycle of effectiveness. They shed light on bullying with transparency and self-awareness. They have integrity. #LeadersArentBullies

Appreciate and Recognize

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"When leaders throughout an organization take an active, genuine interest in the people they manage, when they invest real time to understand employees at a fundamental level, they create a climate for greater morale, loyalty, and, yes, growth." - Patrick Lencioni "If you do not treat people with the respect they deserve, do not expect any kind of commitment to your productivity goals and target." - Ian Fuhr #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Acknowledge Abuse

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Lunar Eclipse II, Photo Credit: Vic Rubdi. "You can't heal what you don't acknowledge." - Jack Canfield "The real sin is ignoring bad behaviors, or worse, seeking to hide them." - Robert Zoellick #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leadersarentbullies #DignityAtWorkAct Healthy organizations are transparent and truthful when determining if their managers bully.  It is clear; bullying is not tolerated.  They respond to bullying with strong consequences, including termination.  Their leaders and employees are  respectful. #LeadersArentBullies

Light It Up

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"There's too much darkness in the world. Everywhere you turn, someone is tryin' to tear someone down in some way; everywhere you go, there's a feeling of inadequacy, or a feeling that you're not good enough. I want to bring a certain light to the world." - Alicia Keys #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct 

Take Action

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 Lunar Eclipse, Credit Vic Rubdi. "A person may cause evil to others not only by his/her actions but by his/her inaction, and in either case he/she is justly accountable to them for the injury." - John Stuart Mill #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Healthy employers consider bullying illegal, like assault. They respond to abusive workplace behaviors with the right values, beliefs, and behaviors.

Live Well

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"While seeking revenge, dig two graves - one for yourself." - Douglas Horton "The best revenge is to be unlike those who performed the injuries." - Marcus Aurelius "Living well is the best revenge." - George Herbert #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Learn

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"In times of change learners inherit the earth; while the learned find themselves beautifully ill equipped." - Eric Hoffer Learning is a lifelong process of keeping abreast of change. And the most pressing task is to teach people how to learn. - Peter Drucker #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct A critical difference between thriving organizations and those struggling to survive is the capacity to learn from circumstances, experiences, and the message the environment is sending. #LeadersArentBullies

Freedom and Unity

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"Never underestimate the power of jealousy and the power of envy to destroy. Never underestimate that." - Oliver Stone "You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind." - Mahatma Gandhi "Let us reject violence and selfishness which could destroy our country's unity." - Mwai Kibaki #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Balanced Outcomes

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"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." - Benjamin Franklin "It takes leadership to improve safety (and culture)." - Jackie Stewart #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Leaders who stop or prevent bullying balance their attention across 3 performance dimensions: Team results, personal improvement, and healthy relationships.

Earn Respect

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"It is not grey hair that makes one respectable but character." - Rana Gohar "Respect comes in two unchangeable steps: giving it and receiving it." - Edmond Mbiaka #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct