Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"There are forms of oppression and domination which become invisible - the new normal." - Michel Foucault "Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm." - Abraham Lincoln #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct A relatively small negative behavioral impact at the worker/operational level can steamroll into a destructive global organizational disaster when aggregate, independent, negative bullying behaviors combine into a hostile and threatening working culture.

"Respect and inclusion are not political opinions. They are non-negotiable human rights - hard fought and secured in America." - Andy Dunn #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Safety brings first aid to the uninjured." - F.S. Hughes "An incident is just the tip of an iceberg, a sign of a much larger problem below the surface." - Don Brown "It takes leadership to improve safety." ' Jackie Stewart #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct The International Labor Office (ILO), a UN Agency, states, “workplace bullying is one of the fastest-growing forms of workplace violence.” #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculture

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." - Bryant H. McGill #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"History teaches that war (and bullying) begins when governments (and executives) believe the price of aggression is cheap." - Ronald Reagan May peace return to Ukraine's people. #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct The sickest work environments tolerate, and even encourage, bullying behaviors, hostility, and aggressiveness, resulting in an exasperated and deflated workforce. #LeadersArentBullies

“Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people.” – Barbara Bush #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Mt. Hope Bridge connecting Bristol and Portsmouth, RI. On a micro-level, employees claim harassment and bullying at work is a more crippling and devastating problem than all other work-related stressors combined. #LeadersArentBullies (Workplace) Violence is violence. (Workplace) Trauma is trauma. And we are taught to downplay it, even think about it as child's play." - Tarana Burke #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 "Respecting every individual is very important. It starts with respecting elders regardless of profession." - Michael Clarke #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"I think most people don't react well to being screamed at (bullied). It's counterproductive." - Dick Wolf #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct It should be unsurprising that workplace bullying in the United States costs organizations as much as $14K per employee per year in lost performance.

"Keep your temper. A decision made in anger is never sound." - Ford Frick "A good decision is based on knowledge and not on numbers." - Plato #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

  Speaking of great costs, the emotional and physiological damage induced by workplace bullying extracts a significant human cost, with obvious organizational implications in the form of sickness and absenteeism. "Someone who has experienced trauma also has gifts to offer all of us - in their depth, their knowledge of our universal vulnerability, and their experience of the power of compassion." - Sharon Salzberg #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Bullies are always cowards at heart and may be credited with a pretty safe instinct in scenting their prey." - Anna Julia Cooper "The coward only threatens when he is safe." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"An extensive Oxford University  study into happiness and productivity has found that workers are 13% more productive when happy." - Said Business School  The combination of productivity loss by workplace bullying victims and work groups and the resultant costs regarding interventions by third parties amounts from anywhere between $30,000 and $100,000 per year for each individual case.

"But constant experience shows us that every (person) invested with power is apt to abuse it, and to carry his (or her) authority as far as it will go." - Montesquieu #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Prevention is better than cure." - Desiderius Erasmus "Treatment without prevention is simply unsustainable." - Bill Gates #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Having a credible and effective method for managing complaints and intervening in #bullying cases inhibits aggressive, bullying behaviors and reduces defenseless target anxiety.

"Caring - about people, about things, about life - is an act of maturity." - Tracy McMillan #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullying prevails due to organizational tolerance. 95% of respondents in one workplace bullying study administered by UNISON, claimed that bullying was caused by the fact that “bullies can get away with it” and “victims are too scared to report it.” "Silence is complicity. Speak now or surrender your ground." - Michelle Malkin "History has always judged silence and complicity harshly in these times of moral consequence." - Pramila Jayapal #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"The opposite of anger is not calmness, its empathy." - Mehmet Oz "Human nature is complex. Even if we do have inclinations toward violence, we also have inclination to empathy, to cooperation, to self-control." - Steven Pinker #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Robin: "Is it Spring?" “Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” ― John F. Kennedy "The only thing worse than training your employees and having them leave is not training them and having them stay." - Henry Ford #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct In most toxic workplaces, supervisory training is nearly nonexistent. No budget. No time. Few good skills taught. On the #jobtraining instead of consistent, uniform, and assessed job skill development is haphazard and transmits bad habits. 

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." - Walter Winchell #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Heron waving Everyone is afraid to confront “the golden child” bully, the boss’s favorite. HR misapplies the tools of traditional conflict resolution (i.e., mediation, arbitration, intervention). Even if HR does come through, it’s almost always the wrong solution for the actual problem. "Nepotism is the lowest and least imaginative form of corruption." - Daniel Alarcón "At the root of every form of ungodliness, injustice, nepotism, selfishness, every rivalry and competitive jealousy, is the monster called greed." - Sunday Adelaja #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 As witnessed during the great resignation... "Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important." -  Vikrant Massey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies derive most of their support from HR. It's a club, a clique, a veritable wagon train that defensively circles the wagons when one of their “own” is accused. #LeadersArentBullies "I believe that cronyism is nothing more than welfare for the rich and powerful, and should be abolished." - Charles Koch #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 "(People) maintain balance, poise, and sense of security only as (they are) moving forward." - Maxwell Maltz #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"I think we all have empathy. We may not have enough courage to display it." - Maya Angelou #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Workers have difficulty empathizing or identifying with a bully’s target or victim until the bully’s wrath focuses on them. Then, they never again want to be a target. #workplaceculture  

 "While seeking revenge, dig two graves - one for yourself." - Douglas Horton #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Clients and public audiences agree: workplace —that is, abusive supervision, bullying, incivility, social undermining, and interpersonal conflict—has increased over the past seven decades, like from "Father Knows Best" to "Family Guy". "(People) must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love." - Martin Luther King, Jr. #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Definitions have evolved over time but, fundamentally, resilience is understood as referring to positive adaptation, or the ability to maintain or regain mental health, despite experiencing adversity." - Helen Herrman #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct