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Appreciate and Recognize

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 "Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important." - Vikrant Massey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Security

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A bully may target someone who does well, who is recognized, or who is promoted at work. Bullies often becomes jealous of a talented person who triggers the bullies' fears of inadequacy and frustrations with themselves. #LeadersArentBullies "Most bad behavior comes from insecurity." - Debra Winger #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #DignityAtWorkAct

Thrive

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 "A garden requires patient labor and attention. Plants do not grow merely to satisfy ambitions or to fulfill good intentions. They thrive because someone expended effort on them." - Liberty Hyde Bailey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Choose Well

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 People who push others around are often driven by a need for power. It takes a conscious decision to bully.  Taking pleasure in having power over, and controlling, others is a choice. #LeadersArentBullies "We cannot always control everything that happens to us in this life, but we can control how we respond. Many struggles come as problems and pressures that sometimes cause pain. Others come as temptations, trials, and tribulations." - L. Lionel Kendrick #stepup

Support Targets

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 "A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out." - Shannon l. Alder #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Happy and Thankful!

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 Happy Thanksgiving! "Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." - Marcel Proust #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct In thriving organizations, people are happy to share common values.  These core beliefs are reinforced by their behaviors, the physical plant, and all transactions.  Related results, processes, and relationships reflect the health of a workplace culture.

Transform and Resurrect

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"The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine "A lot of people who have experienced trauma at the hands of people they've trusted take responsibility, and that is what's toxic." - Hannah Gadsby #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Safe and Protective

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Bullying is erroneously branded as “conflict” or a mere “difference in personality styles.” Both are true, but bullying is also a form of violence and assault. #LeadersArentBullies An assault is the act of inflicting physical harm or unwanted physical contact upon a person. In some legal definitions, a threat or attempt to commit such an action. It is both a crime and a tort and, therefore, may result in criminal prosecution, civil liability, or both.

Rational and Objective Thought

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"A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep."  - Saul Bellow #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Willing, Able, and Allowed

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"There are no secrets that time does not reveal." - Jean Racine #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct  #DignityAtWorkAct When a person behaves in a certain way, either positive or negative, it is because they are willing, able, and allowed. People change behaviors for two reasons: to experience pleasure, and to avoid pain. Bullies create environments where people keep secrets to avoid pain.

Truth and Sacrifice

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 "You will never get the truth out of a  (workplace bully) narcissist. The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain." - Shannon l. Alder #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Appreciate

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"People leave when they don't feel appreciated. That's why we've made recognition a really high value. Our business is people-capability first; then you satisfy customers; then you make money." - David Novak #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Eradicating bullying is not just a “nice thing to do,” it’s a “must do.” Trust me. The survival of organizations in the twenty-first century depends on it.

Be the First Standing

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 ...yet only 12% of these aware employees do anything to respond. "In the struggle against inhumanity, don't try to be the last person standing, be the first person standing." - Abhijit Naskar #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bellow the Truth

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"(Those) who do not bellow the truth when (they) know the truth make (themselves) the accomplice of liars and forgers." - Charles Peguy #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Most bullies know they won’t be punished, and incompetent or unethical HR associates and managers conceal and tolerate bullying environments, realizing targets have little legal precedent or leverage to protect themselves.  #LeadersArentBullies

Healthy Relationships

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"With the right culture and values, people can accomplish great things." - Tricia Griffith "Culture is the process by which a person becomes all that they were created capable of being." - Thomas Carlyle #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Hold Accountable for High Standards

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#UnpopularOpinion: Those who take no immediate action to address and stop bullying, and who fail to discipline bullies at work, will (should) be liable for punitive damages for knowingly allowing malicious and oppressive tortious acts.  How do you know you are valued at work? "Let's not be afraid to speak the common sense truth: you can't have high standards without good discipline." - William Hague #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Resilience

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 "Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive." - Jamais Cascio #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Empower

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"Believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom - how great is that?" - Soledad O'Brien #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct  Bullies survive by making subordinates feel trapped, at fault (#gaslighting), and unempowered, compliant rather than committed.  In healthy organization,  everyone is encouraged to take accountable risks and to lead.  What behaviors are  rewarded in your organization?

Wisdom

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 "I always believe that the elders in my family (society) are the reason for my (our) success." - R. Madhavan "Slow down and think about the lessons of the elders." - Maya Soetoro-Ng #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Simple and Supported Reporting Processes

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Employees and school children should not have to police their organizations. They need direction and support to report / address abuse and bullying.  Healthy leaders and organizations enable and allow reporting with simple processes / mantras like: “See something, say something.” "We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light." - Plato "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." - Martin Luther King, Jr. #leadersar entbull ies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Maturity

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"Never gonna understand why people get so defensive, hostile & offended over choices others make that have absolutely no effect on their life." - Nitya Prakash #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct https://t.co/h6hh83YXrq  

Please Join Us Wednesday November 10 @ 3 pm est / noon pst

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Please join Megan and me tomorrow,  November 10, at 3 pm est, noon pst, and 8 pm London time, discussing workplace culture!  All are welcomed! Tomorrow my friend @mattpaknis and I are holding a 30-minute session on @Clubhouse about Workplace Culture. We will discuss four questions in determining the health of your organization's workplace culture. Hope to see you there! https://t.co/1y2kfLEvvQ #WorkPlaceMentalHealth

Transparency and Light

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"There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." - Edith Wharton #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct When employees and families with children choose to only affiliate with good and decent organizations, and to report the egregious behavior in bad organizations, bad behaviors will start to cease. #Transparency is essential. Evil prospers in the shadows.

Apply Reason

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"As human beings, we all mature physically from childhood to adolescence and then into adulthood, but our emotions lag behind.' - Bernard Sumner "The sign of an intelligent people is their ability to control their emotions by the application of reason." - Marya Mannes #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Positive Beats Negative

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"Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results." - Willie Nelson #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct #Resilient people acknowledge reality and the problem and look for positive outcomes and options. Ask yourself: am I approaching this with positivity?

Courage

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 "The coward only threatens when he is safe." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Inward Significance

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"Things are not always as they seem; the first appearance deceives many." - Phaedrus "The aim of art is to represent not the outward appearance of things, but their inward significance." - Aristotle #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies and bullying organizations leverage false appearances. They go to great lengths to appear competent or appealing or decent to those in power, yet bullies use intimidation and fear and abuse to control their employees / associates. #leadersarentbullies

Strong and Secure

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"I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It's the bully who's insecure." - Shay Mitchell #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Sustain Success

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"Greed is not a financial issue. It's a heart issue." - Andy Stanley Bullying is a greedy emotional reaction used for power and control. #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Do you know of organizations who put short term profits ahead of their employees’ and society’s safety, health, peace, and well-being?  Demand organizations measure and achieve healthy and sustainable consumer and employee outcomes.

Peace with Facts

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"Our souls may lose their peace and even disturb other people's, if we are always criticizing trivial actions - which often are not real defects at all, but we construe them wrongly through our ignorance of their motives." - Saint Teresa of Avila #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct