Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." - Alice Walker "Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent than the one derived from fear of punishment." - Mahatma Gandhi #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct  #DignityatWorkAct Workplace bullying includes exposure to repeated and enduring negative acts where a formal or informal imbalance of power / authority exists between the involved parties. #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculture  

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." - Voltaire "There are two things people want more than sex and money... recognition and praise." - Mary Kay Ash #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends." - John 15:13 NIV #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityatWorkAct Dan Olweus, defines schoolyard bullying as: “...aggressive behavior or intentional harmdoing by peers, carried out repeatedly and involves an imbalance of power, either actual or perceived, between the victim and the bully.” #LeadersArentBullies

"This world of ours... must avoid becoming a community of dreadful fear and hate, and be, instead, a proud confederation of mutual trust and respect." - Dwight D. Eisenhower #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Camaraderie doesn't happen by accident; developing  sense of trust, accountability, and togetherness around team goals requires intentional effort." - Don Yaeger "When there is no sharing of power, no rule of law, no accountability, there is abuse, corruption, subjugation and indignation." - Atifete Jahjaga #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Schoolyard bullies who are not held accountable for abusing others often become bullying adults who continue to do what they learned to do best to get what they want—terrorize others. #LeadersArentBullies

"Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness." - Desmond Tutu "There is always strength in numbers. The more individuals or organizations that you can rally to your cause, the better." - Mark Shields "All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence." - Martin Luther King, Jr. #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

“Safety has to be everyone’s responsibility… everyone needs to know that they are empowered to speak up if there’s an issue.” – Captain Scott Kelly “The greatest responsibility of a leader is to give your people  grounded sense of hope for the future” – Bob Chapman #StepUp #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct In bullying environments, complicit, colluding relationships with corrupt executives undermine worker health, safety, and productivity. #LeadersArentBullies #healthyworkplaces

“After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.” ― Judith Lewis Herman “Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods.” ― Peter A. Levine I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” – Walter Anderson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup  #DignityAtWorkAct

"Truth will ultimately prevail where there is pains to bring it to light." - George Washington "Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain't goin' away." - Elvis Presley #HealthyWorkPlaces #StepUp #LeadersElevateThoughtandConduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies hate to be objective. It requires honesty and truth, unwelcome traits in their distorted power-control universes. #LeadersArentBullies

"Work is a way of bringing order to chaos, and there's a basic satisfaction in seeing that we are able to make something a little more coherent by the end of the day." - Alain de Botton #HealthyWorkPlaces #StepUp #LeadersElevateThoughtandConduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Work is a way of bringing order to chaos, and there's aWork basic satisfaction in seeing that we are able to make something a little more coherent by the end of the day." - Alain de Botton #HealthyWorkPlaces #StepUp #LeadersElevateThoughtandConduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies thrive on subjectivity and flawed mental models. Don’t let them get away with it. Insist on transparency and accountability with clear goals, roles, processes, and rules of engagement. #LeadersArentBullies   

"The true hero is one who conquers (their) own anger and hatred." - Dalai Lama "No true hero ever believes that they are one." - Neal Shusterman "I prefer a real villain to a false hero." - Killer Mike #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"The first step in solving a problem is to recognize that it does exist." - Zig Ziglar "The first step in the evolution of ethics is a sense of solidarity with other human beings." - Albert Schweitzer #healthyworkplaces #StepUp #Leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityatWorkAct Good leaders and organizations can buck workplace bullying with clear processes to identify and report abusive behaviors, shared objectives and accountability, clear roles and responsibilities, credible reporting avenues, and healthy relationships. #LeadersArentBullies

"When you've been abused daily and you see people humiliated and harassed, you just get tired of it." - Claudette Colvin "The purpose of whistleblowing is to expose secret and wrongful acts by those in power in order to enable reform." - Glenn Greenwald #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." - George Bernard Shaw "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi #HealthyWorkplaces #StepUp #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityatWorkAct Good organizations recognize the need to change an institutionalized, toxic, culture of workplace bullying.  The first step is to recognize and acknowledge bullying behaviors and aggression are not normal, routine, acceptable, or deserved. #LeadersArentBullies #betransparent

6 Signs You Are the Bully at Work

"Miracles are a retelling in small letters of the very same story which is written across the whole world in letters too large for some of us to see." - C. S. Lewis #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Bullies use fear and intimidation as their primary weapons." - Tanushree Dutta "Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy." - Norman Vincent Peale #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Workplace bullying includes, but is not limited to, behaviors such as intimidation, public humiliation, offensive name-calling, social exclusion, and unwanted physical contact. #LeadersArentBullies

"There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn't." - John Green "A warm smile is the universal language of kindness." - William Arthur Ward #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"When I see something unjust, I have to intervene - it's hard for me to watch the underdog suffer." - Kristen Bell "In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King, Jr. #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #DignityatWorkAct About 72% of the US employees polled report being aware of workplace bullying; they were either bullied or they observed another employee being bullied. Yet, only 13% of these witnesses do anything to address the abuse. #LeadersArentBullies #timetochange

"The moral (strength) test of government (or of any organization ) is how it treats those who are in the dawn of life, the children; those who are in the twilight of life, the elderly; and those who are in the shadows of life, the sick, the needy and the handicapped." - Hubert H. Humphrey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be." - Ralph Waldo Emerson #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #healthyworkplaces #stepup #DignityatWorkAct Bullying does not liberate or inspire. True leaders do both. Good bosses encourage, motivate and value their workers. #LeadersArentBullies

"People are afraid of things they don't understand. They don't know how to relate. It threatens their security, their existence, their career, image." - Bill Laswell "The coward only threatens when he is safe." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Life without liberty is like a body without spirit." - Khalil Gibran #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying violates the basic tenets of the United States Constitution, namely, each citizen’s right to “Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness.” #LeadersArentBullies

"A good decision is based on knowledge and not on numbers." - Plato "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor E. Frankl #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Nothing brings me more happiness than helping the most vulnerable people in society. It is a goal and an essential part of my life - a kind of destiny. Whoever is in distress can call on me. I will come running wherever they are." - Princess Diana #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Successful leaders create safe environments where people can trust—where they know people are there to protect them when they are vulnerable, where everyone is dedicated to making each other safe and better. #LeadersArentBullies

"Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke." - Benjamin Disraeli "You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor." - Aristotle #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"What's most authentic about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love,  to be greater than our suffering." - Ben Okri "Success is to be measured not by the position one has reached in life as by the obstacles overcome." - Booker T. Washington #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct People are more apt to fear the ramifications of dealing with the dark than to celebrate the light and truth.  Organizations can heal from bullying and abuse scandals when leaders clear out perpetrators and demonstrate healthy values, beliefs, and behaviors. #LeadersArentBullies

"I think bullying is for insecure and weak people." - Latto "You can't be against bullying without actually doing something about it." - Randi Weingarten #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"Research indicates that employees have three prime needs: Interesting work, recognition for doing a good job, and being let in on things that are going on in the company." - Zig Ziglar "The first step in solving a problem is to recognize that it does exist." - Zig Ziglar #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies seek to find what’s “wrong” with people in their lives. Healthy leaders seek to find what’s right. Bullies attack people.  Healthy leaders attack problems. #LeadersArentBullies

"At (their) best, (humans are) the noblest of all animals; separated from law and justice (they are) the worst." - Aristotle #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct