Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"We all have mental models: the lens through which we see the world that drive our responses to everything we experience. Being aware of your mental models is key to being objective." - Elizabeth Thornton "Mental models are deeply ingrained assumptions, generalizations, or even pictures of images that influence how we understand the world and how we take action." - Peter Senge #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." - Voltaire "Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important." - Vikrant Massey #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Given the following three choices—lack of recognition, lack of money, and lack of challenge—85% of employees who’ve left an organization state it’s because they didn’t feel appreciated or recognized. #LeadersArentBullies

"The greatest deception (people) suffer is from their own opinions." - Leonardo da Vinci "Petty (people) are eager to make boasts, yet desire that others should believe them. They  enthusiastically engage in deception, yet want others to have affection for them. They  conduct themselves like animals, yet want others to think well of them." - Xun Kuang #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Trust is built with consistency." - Lincoln Chafee "I believe fundamental honesty is the keystone of business." - Harvey S. Firestone "Trust has to be earned, and should come only after the passage of time." - Arthur Ashe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Good managers don’t #micromanage , and they are not overly critical of subordinates. Employees need to know when they perform below or above expected levels and how to correct or sustain this performance with constructive feedback based on observations and facts.

"If an organization values innovation, you can assume it's safe to speak up with new ideas, leaders will listen, and your voice matters." - Adam Grant "When entire companies embrace a growth mindset, their employees report feeling far more empowered and committed; they also receive far greater organizational support for collaboration and innovation." - Carol S. Dweck #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Ken Blanchard "When we make progress and get better at something, it is inherently motivating. In order for people to make progress, they have to get feedback and information on how they're doing." - Daniel H. Pink #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Effective managers are committed to providing constructive and objective performance feedback to achieve desired outcomes.  They demonstrate rational behavior and respect for their employees. #LeadersArentBullies

"I dream a world in which each of us walks with the knowledge of how beautiful - and valuable - is each human life." - Jacqueline Novogratz "Things gained through unjust fraud are never secure." - Sophocles "When we live in a world that is very unjust, you have to be a dissident." - Nawal El Saadawi #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." -William James "Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. This frees us from unnecessary stress." - Melody Beattie #leadersarentbullies May Thanksgiving bring you much peace, love, joy, and reduced stress.  When stress goes unabated, it compromises a target’s mental health, and when unseen psychological trauma is caused by unsafe, stressful work conditions, it’s every bit as damaging as physical injuries. #Stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

 

“You cannot solve a problem until you acknowledge that you have one and accept responsibility for solving it.” - Zig Ziglar #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"PTSD occurs following a trauma that was so awful that in retrospect you don't understand how you survived. What that causes is an extreme feeling of vulnerability that you get past but that doesn't go away." - Mark Goulston #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact An early Swedish study among 64 victims of bullying at work attending a rehabilitation program concluded that 65% of the patients suffered from PTSD. #LeadersArentBullies

"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars." - Og Mandino "Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness." - Desmond Tutu "There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." - Edith Wharton #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Don't let people disrespect you. My mom says don't open the door to the devil. Surround yourself with positive people." - Cuba Gooding, Jr. "If you surround yourself with love and the right people, anything is possible." - Adam Green #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying victims report increased psychological distress: anxiety, depression, negative emotions, and overt anger. In the workplace, high levels of burnout and emotional exhaustion are common. #LeadersArentBullies

"No talent, no self-denial, no brains, no character, are required to set up in the fault-finding business. Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealousy, and envy. Only God can shape a flower, but any foolish child can pull it to pieces." - Og Mandino #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity." - Dalai Lama "Corporate social responsibility is measured in terms of businesses improving conditions for their employees, shareholders, communities, and environment." - Klaus Schwab #stepup #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact A leader who cares about balancing the bottom line with running a respectful  and #transparent enterprise is enlightened.  They value equitable results, processes, and relationships, and understand how eliminating and preventing bullying “contains costs."

"Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work though difficult problems." - Gever Tulley "In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." - Dalai Lama "Hope lies in dreams, in imagination, and in the courage of those who dare to make dreams into reality." - Jonas Salk #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

“When people are emotionally invested, they want to contribute.” - Simon Sinek “Employees engage with employers and brands when they’re treated as humans worthy of respect.” - Meghan M. Biro #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Presentee-ism describes how bullied and abused workers, who cannot find another job with equivalent pay, behave. They stay, show up daily, but present only in body and not in spirit or mind. They are the antithesis of “engaged” workers.

"When there is no sharing of power, no rule of law, no accountability, there is abuse, corruption, subjugation and indignation." - Atifete Jahjaga "This world of ours... must avoid becoming a community of dreadful fear and hate, and be, instead, a proud confederation of mutual trust and respect." - Dwight D. Eisenhower #leadersarentbullies #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Even the largest avalanche is triggered by small things." - Vernor Vinge "Prevention is better than cure." - Desiderius Erasmus #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact One relatively minor bullying incident involving operational level workers can avalanche into a deleterious global organizational disaster when an organization is rife with aggregate, independent, abusive behaviors.  Like a spark, it can set afire a hostile and threatening working culture. #LeadersArentBullies

"In every crisis, doubt or confusion, take the higher path - the path of compassion, courage, understanding and love." Amit Ray "In prehistoric times, mankind often had only two choices in crisis situations: fight or flee. In modern times, humor offers us a third alternative; fight, flee - or laugh." Robert Orben #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence." - Peter A. Levine "Character in leadership is the most important balance for leadership. Without character, leaders have no safety. Leadership has no protection without character." - Myles Munroe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact The most common target response is to discuss the bullying experience with colleagues. This debriefing time is non productive and can be traumatic, casting a negative and harmful pall on the organization's culture. This can destroy an organization. 

"We are in this life to enlarge the soul, liberate the spirit, and light up the brain." - Tom Robbins "Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you." - Walt Whitman #leadersarentbullies #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"The predator wants your silence. It feeds their power, entitlement, and they want it to feed your shame." - Viola Davis "Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." - Elie Wiesel "Never be bullied into silence. Define yourself." - Harvey Fierstein #healthyworplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact The most commonly accepted definition to-date of bullying, is when“one or more targets, repeatedly over a period, are exposed to negative acts conducted by one or more predators.” #LeadersArentBullies

"Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain't goin' away." - Elvis Presley "Confidence... thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live." - Franklin D. Roosevelt #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent." - Isaac Asimov "Nothing good ever comes of violence." - Martin Luther "Bullying is caused by the bully's insecurity." - Shay Mitchell "You can't be against bullying without actually doing something about it." - Randi Weingarten #HealthyWorkplace #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact The International Labor Office (ILO), a UN Agency, states “workplace bullying is one of the fastest-growing forms of workplace violence.” #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculture

"A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity." - Robert A. Heinlein "One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest." - Maya Angelou #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"In individuals, insanity is rare; but in groups, parties, nations and epochs, it is the rule." - Friedrich Nietzsche "Health is not valued till sickness comes." - Thomas Fuller "It is madness for sheep to talk peace with a wolf." - Thomas Fuller #HealthyWorkplace #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #psychologicalsafetyatworkact The sickest workplaces tolerate, and even encourage, bullying behaviors, hostility, and aggressiveness, resulting in an exasperated and deflated workforce. #LeadersArentBullies

"Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom." - Theodore Isaac Rubin "The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism." - Norman Vincent Peale "I pay no attention whatever to anybody's praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings." - Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Trauma has the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine "To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day." - Winston Churchill "In law a (person) is guilty when they violate others' rights. In ethics, if they only think of it." - Kant #HealthyWorkplace #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Workplace bullying destroys #effectiveness and #efficiency . It wastes time, energy,and money. It is a de-motivator, a poor human resource practice, and workplace abuse violates the constitutional and inalienable rights of US Workers. #LeadersArentBullies

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." - Bryant H. McGill "To be one, to be united is a great thing. But to respect the right to be different is maybe even greater." - Bono "For good ideas and true innovation, you need constructive human interaction." - Margaret Heffernan #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame." - Benjamin Franklin "Empires (corporations) implode from within due to their excesses." - Gad Saad "Where an excess of power prevails, no one is safe in their opinion, their person, their faculties, or possessions." - James Madison #leadersarentbullies #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact The combination of productivity loss by victims and work groups and the resultant costs regarding interventions by third parties amounts from anywhere between $30,000 and $100,000 per year for each individual workplace bullying and abuse case. #HealthyWorkplace