Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"Educate and inform the whole mass of the people... They are the only sure reliance for the preservation of our liberty." - Thomas Jefferson #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Use training to ensure all employees are offered consistent information describing the organization’s anti-bullying values and bullying response policies.

"Managers tend to blame their turnover problems on everything under the sun, while ignoring the crux of the matter: people don't leave jobs; they leave managers." - Travis Bradberry #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"To those who abuse: the sin is yours, the crime is yours, and the shame is yours. To those who protect the perpetrators: blaming the victims only masks the evil within, making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest." - Flora Jesso #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces   #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct In many interpersonal conflicts, both parties are accountable for the rift. This is not true with bullying and abuse. The perpetrator is always responsible. Successful leaders’ make certain bullying is not permitted in their organizations; their cultures do not tolerate abuse.

"For good ideas and true innovation, you need respectful human interaction: conflict, argument, debate." - Margaret Heffernan "Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners." - Laurence Sterne #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"We look for personal characteristics to predict success, like  perseverance in facing challenges. We look for the ability to influence and motivate others with shared values, strong problem-solving ability, and leadership." - Wendy Kopp #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Separate people from the problem. Identify, define, and address the problem with the approach both parties desire. Do not attack the other  person. Manage the problem.

Our Civil Canadian Northern Neighbors are outpacing the USA and OSHA in acknowledging and addressing workplace bullying. Well done, eh! https://www.ccohs.ca/oshanswers/psychosocial/bullying.html

 "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. " - Margaret Mead #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"The greatness of a (person) is not in how much wealth (they) acquire, but in (their) integrity and (their) ability to affect those around (them) positively." - Bob Marley #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Leaders build trust. They make vulnerable workers feel safe. They generate a positive spark and cycle of effectiveness. They shed light on bullying with transparency and self-awareness. They have integrity. #LeadersArentBullies

 "Violence is violence. Trauma is trauma. And we are taught to downplay it, even think about it as child's play." - Tarana Burke "The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"If there is such a thing as good leadership, it is to give a good example. I have to do so for all the Ikea employees." - Ingvar Kamprad "A good example is far better than a good precept." - Dwight L. Moody #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying is not tolerated in healthy organizations.  Their officials  are consistent and transparent in evaluating whether employees are bulled. All employees are expected to   treat each other with dignity and respect.

"We must not allow other people's limited peceptions to define us." - Virginia Satir #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." - Bryant H. McGill #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Building an organization with continuous learning and vitality requires everyone be a learner who appreciates opposing perspectives. It requires respect to influence others to check mental models and suspend listening obstacles.

"Leadership is getting players (workers) to believe in you. If you tell a teammate you're ready to play as tough as you're able to, you'd better go out there and do it. Players (workers)  will see right through a phony. And they can tell when you're not giving it all you've got." - Larry Bird #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"Learning never exhausts the mind." - Leonardo da Vinci "Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive." - Jamais Cascio #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethought andconduct #DignityAtWorkAct A critical difference between thriving organizations and those struggling to survive is the capacity to learn from circumstances, experiences, and the message the environment is sending. #LeadersArentBullies

Yet only 13% of those aware of bullying address it. Fear of retaliation and of becoming the next target discourages reporting bullying, but this must change. "In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

"The best advisors help in three ways: they encourage assessing an  issue from multiple angles; they help balance short-term tugs with important long-term priorities; and they ask tough questions to reach the best solution." - Margo Georgiadis #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Leaders who stop or prevent bullying balance their attention across, and impact, 3 performance dimensions: Leading team results, managing personal development, and coaching healthy relationships.  #LeadersArentBullies

"The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can." - Neil Gaiman “Stories constitute the single most powerful weapon in a leader’s arsenal.”  - Dr. Howard Gardner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Cormorants gazing towards Cuttyhunk "I believe the root of all evil is abuse of power." - Patricia Cornwell #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct People who transcend workplace #bullying stop the cycle.  They identify and condemn distorted fears and criticisms. They align with mentors who exude—and infuse in others—positive energy. They thrive and realize desired outcomes with healthy relationships and ethical processes.

"Education must lead us from the irresponsible opinion to true responsible judgment." - Ludwig Mies van derby Rohe "Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset." - Saint Francis de Sales #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passions, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." - John Adams "Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not his own facts." - Daniel Patrick Moynihan #healthyworkplaces   #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct When dealing with a bullying incident, focus on facts. Understand, respect, and explore worker complaints and perspectives. Get the full story/picture. Cite specific observations and behaviors. Avoid jumping to conclusions and being hijacked by emotions. #LeadersArentBullies

"A coward is much more exposed to quarrels than a (person) of spirit." - Thomas Jefferson "A dog barks when his master is attacked. I would be a coward if I saw that God's truth is attacked and yet would remain silent." - John Calvin #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Relationships feed on credibility, honesty, and consistency." - Scott Borchetta "Trust is built with consistency." - Lincoln Chafee #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Document, record, and address performance inconsistencies. If workers are evaluated with varying standards, acknowledge and shed light on the inconsistency's cause, whether it's nepotism, favoritism, or passive-aggressive retaliatory behaviors.

"I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It's the bully who's insecure." - Shay Mitchell "Bullying is never fun, it's a cruel and terrible thing to do to someone. If you are being bullied, it is not your fault. No one deserves to be bullied, ever." - Raini Rodriguez #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help." - Abraham Lincoln “Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a person’s growth without destroying their  roots.” – Frank A. Clark #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Subjects use performance feedback to strive to make improvements when the feedback is constructive and when its offered by healthy supervisors who do not bully. #LeadersArentBullies

"The battleline between good and evil runs through the heart of every (human)." - Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn "The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people." Martin Luther King, Jr.  "Good people do not need laws to tell them to act responsibly, while bad people will find a way around the laws." - Plato #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Cormorants watching a regatta When we improve, it is inherently motivating. In order for people to make progress, they need feedback on how they're doing." - Daniel H. Pink "True intuitive expertise is learned from prolonged experience with good feedback on mistakes." - Daniel Kahneman #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Honest improvement feedback, based on rational, objective, and realistic criteria is essential to learn and to grow in a job.... When feedback is given without petty berating or irrational, immature, attacks; workers strive to improve their performance.

"No (person) is above the law and no (one) is below it: nor do we ask any (person's) permission when we ask (them) to obey it." - Theodore Roosevelt #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying policies should apply to everyone from the board of executives to a chief executive to field and frontline staff, and from directors to team leaders.

"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi "That's how I was taught. That's how I was raised, to ignore the stupidity, continue on and do what I need to do." - Bubba Wallace #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Empower yourself. You need confidence because bullying belittles. It takes away confidence, and nobody deserves that." - Bill Goldberg "A great leader has the ability to inspire and empower us to address problems and find the answers." - Abhijit Banerjee #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Employees who disclose they were bullied at  organizations dedicated to empowering workers to  identify, address, prevent, and transcend bullying are reassured the abuse will be met with appropriate, effective, quick, and professional responses. #LeadersArentBullies

"You prove your worth with your actions, not with your mouth." - Jean Paul "It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." - Mark Twain "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." - Epictetus #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct