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Who's Responsible for Good, or Bad, Results? – Part 2

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When something great ( Simone Biles ) , or horrible (recent shootings), happens, the outcomes depend on whether those involved are, or aren't: 1. WILLING, 2. ABLE, and/or 3. ALLOWED to act. #antibullying #healthyorganizations #leadership #lifeisprecious

Who's Responsible for Horrific, or Good, Outcomes? – Part 1

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This past week, young men in El Paso, Texas and Dayton, Ohio chose to commit mass murder. Also this week investigators stated the Boy Scouts of America, an organization claiming to be founded to uplift young male thought and conduct, chose to keep secret the names of hundreds of known pedophiles who chose to sexually assault young Boy Scouts on their watch. Who’s to blame?

Recent "Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies" Amazon Review

Did you know that workplace bullying is not illegal with regards to the EEOC's definition of unprotected classes? Most reports of bullying are ignored. And those who bully get away with it. It's a form of domestic abuse and harassment on the job. As someone who has personally experienced workplace bullying and mobbing, I can highly recommend Matt Paknis' book, Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies. Matt has done a comprehensive review of this form of psychological and emotional abuse on the job. Every organization and company could benefit from this insightful and excellent review of what bullying is, how to address it, and how to find solutions to protect every worker and business from the devastating and catastrophic impact that bullying creates, negatively impacting employees, teams, productivity, culture, and profits. I highly recommend this book for all business leaders and companies wishing to protect, enhance and ensure the quality, safety and reputation of the

Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies is now available as an audio book

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Just got word, for folks interested in listening to an audio version of my book , it's here to hear. Any questions, please me know. Enjoy!

Please Join Me at 3:00 pm on Saturday March 16, 2019 in Livingston, NJ

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Please join me at 3:00 pm on Saturday March 16, 2019 at the Barnes & Noble in Livingston, NJ . At this event scheduled to discuss my book, "Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies, How to Stop Abuse at Work and Build Exceptional Organizations" with other authors. It will be GREAT to see you! Thank you for your consideration.

Please Contact All American Speaker's Bureau, or me, to Schedule a Speaking Engagement

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Matt Paknis - Anti-Bullying Activist, Consultant, Former College Football Coach & Author, please access the attached link to book an engagement with Matt Please click either of the above to review Matt's profile.

When the Bully is the Boss

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"When the Bully is the Boss" by Benedict Carey is an interesting article, assessing workplace bullying from academicians' perspectives. From my practitioner, researcher, and survivor perspective, healthy yet tough bosses create thriving organizations where everyone feels safe with trust. Bullies exploit and hurt the vulnerable with attacks, by throwing them under the bus, or by hanging them out to dry. This is all done because the bully fears his or her incompetence is threatened, or will be exposed, by an unassuming, yet talented target. Thus, the most talented and gifted employees, instead of being celebrated and modeled, are targeted and attacked by bullies and often leave. All this useless pain and suffering exists solely to satisfy a bully's distorted and disturbed needs to control a threat to his or her incompetence. Bullies are in for it for themselves. Healthy leaders uplift thoughts and conduct with transparency, self inspection, and selflessne

Influencing Healthy Behaviors and Thriving Organizations

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Below please find a condensed letter sent from a mom whose son attended my recent talk on: A. Being Responsible with Healthy Decisions, B. Leading while Uplifting Thoughts and Conduct, and C. Building a Team with Trust and Safety. It was offered to Boy Scouts and their Adult Leaders to help troops Thrive with Healthy Leadership Practices. This 1.25 hour long program included engaging stories, activities, and tools highlighting these three topics. This program has been embraced by international audiences of all ages and professions. Feel free to contact me to discuss or arrange comparable engagements. Thanks for your consideration. "Good Morning Matt, I am writing to thank you for your presentation at the Boy Scout meeting yesterday. You seemed to reach my son. He came home from the meeting inspired and motivated and very excited to talk about what he had learned. He was so impressed with you, from your handshake to your stories at Brown to the group exercises.

Overcoming Abusive Organizations and People

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Debilitating organizations can change and thrive with healthy leaders who: 1. Detect, 2. Address, 3. Prevent, and 4. Transcend bullying and abusive practices. #healthyleaders #thrivingorganizations #overcomeabuse

It's Time to Demand and Select Healthy Leaders!

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McCarrick and Paterno lived as demigods into their 80's when light exposed their deceptive power and control, manifested in false appearances, and used to exploit and abuse children. True strength and toughness is characterized by leaders and organizations who protect and elevate their most vulnerable with self inspection and critique, selflessness, transparency, and honesty. It's time to assure healthy leaders are selected to help everyone thrive. Life is too short to tolerate bullies.

Thank you Providence Journal For Posting My op - ed, How to change abusive organizations

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Please click here: How to change abusive organizations and stop bullying

Combating Bullying and Abuse in School and College Sports for 40 + years; Author and Former College Football Player and Coach Outlines a 4-Step Program

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Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies Author Matt Paknis teaches coaches how to detect, address, prevent and transcend bullying MARION, Mass., Jan. 10, 2019—Reports of rampant bullying in school sports programs by coaches, officials and players resulting in injury, depression and even player deaths, have raised awareness of the need for education and preventative programs designed to protect youth. Matt Paknis, a leadership consultant, former college football coach and champion lineman who is himself a survivor of childhood abuse, teaches how to build healthy sports cultures that help student athletes thrive with a program to detect, address, prevent and transcend bullying. “It’s time to stop this devastating tailspin of bullying in America, starting with high school sports,” said Matt, author of the newly released book, Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies: How to Stop Abuse at Work and Build Exceptional Organizations. “The brutal hazing and locker room sexual abuse among high sch

Combating Childhood Abuse and Bullying for 50 + years; A Former College Football Player and Coach and Survivor Discusses How to Heal From and End Traumatic Childhoods

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Click here to learn more and to hear my 1-4-19 interview with NAASCA It was very edifying to talk with NAASCA's Bill, Mary, Carol, and Bobby on Friday night. Thank you for this opportunity. Below please find a few points culled from the interview and in reflection to help adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse integrate and transcend their significant childhood traumas. EDITOR'S NOTE: Here is a link to the "Stop Child Abuse Now" talk radio show where Matt appeard in early January: Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 2045 -- Special guest Matt Paknis Early intervention with a great counselor, deep love from my ailing mother and her friends, stopping the abuse, healthy involvement in sports, and in particular with football, great coaches, role models, teammates, and my striving for mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health helped me transcend long term exposure to four major childhood traumas; experiencing and witnessing domestic violence, sexual abuse, an

Combating Workplace Bullying and Abuse for 30 + years, and How Successful Leaders Build Trust - An Interview with Matt Paknis

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“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” - Martin Luther King, Jr. Thank you Ross Smith for writing this SHRM blog post . As written before on the SHRM blog, here and here, I believe trust is a critical component of successful teams and organizations. Matt Paknis has written a great new book, “Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies” and I wanted to get his perspective on the importance of trust – in organizations, on teams, and in life. Matt Paknis is a senior management consultant with six years of college football coaching and ten years of playing experience through five championship seasons whose focus is on lessening bullying in the workplace. He was a former assistant coach at Penn State under Joe Paterno and has spoken publicly about being abused as a child. Matt transcended childhood bullying and the death of his mother with teamwork and leadership. He has dedicated over twenty-five years of consulting to helping global cli

What Distinguishes a Championship Team?

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What Distinguishes a Championship Team? Clemson modeled it Monday night; the human spark of trust, love, creativity, humor, laughter, spiritual renewal, and awakening! These traits make any organization great and can't be suppressed by power or surpassed by AI (computers).

What separates great teams and organizations from posers?

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Brown teammates and the offensive linemen I coached there, at Penn State, and at URI were amazed to learn I was the sole three-year starter on three consecutive, 11-0, high school state championship football teams, consecutively ranked #3, #2, and after my senior season, #1 in the Newark (NJ) Star Ledger final top twenty poll. This, in part, was key to my resiliency and overcoming the death of my young mom. It also allowed me to receive scholarships and be recruited by prestigious universities. This gave me access, as a consultant, to thousands of organizations where, without fail, the four key factors distinguishing my great teams are embraced, demonstrated, measured, and rewarded by winning organizations, yet absent in the duds. These factors include: 1. Commitment – Everyone feels responsible for the success of the organization because the organization is committed to them. Crafts are mastered to near perfection because the organization provides ample resources, trainin