Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"As much as we need a prosperous economy, we also need a prosperity of kindness and decency." - Caroline Kennedy #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct    #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying targets tend to be honest, ethical, and pro-social. They see their jobs as more than a means to earn a paycheck. Bullies tend to pick on someone who thinks / acts independently and refuses to kowtow—who's typically a veteran worker, highly skilled, and well-liked.

"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give." - Winston Churchill #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"Fools ignore complexity. Pragmatists suffer it. Some can avoid it. Geniuses remove it. Simplicity does not precede complexity, but follows it." - Alan Perlis #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Workplace bullying in global organizations occurs for several reasons: increased worker diversity, increased dispersion of employees to distant geographic locations, lack of management experience in new markets, and management needing more advanced skills.

"Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures (or an organization postpones short term results) for long-term values." - Joshua L. Liebman "Caring - about people, about things, about life - is an act of maturity." - Tracy McMillan #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Bullies misjudge and equate niceness as weakness and go in for the kill. Sincere and unsuspecting targets are caught off guard by a bully’s attacks. They wonder, Why me? "Tough times never last, but tough people do." - Robert H. Schuller #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Truth is universal. Perception of truth varies." – Bohdi Sanders "Lies are convenient when the truth is unfathomable." – Courtney M. Privett #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons." - Denzel Washington Merry Christmas! #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Workplace victims are not weak, timid, or spineless as often portrayed by complicit and conniving managers who want to hide bullying. Bullying targets are usually highly skilled, ethical, honest, and well-liked.

" The essence of lying is in deception, not in words." - John Ruskin RCC, BSA, PSU...... #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 Toned it down a bit this year. A supervisor’s leadership style plays an important yet complex role in determining whether bullying is perceived as a workplace problem. #LeadersArentBullies "Relationships with management are the top factor in employees’ job satisfaction. They are also the second most important determinant of employees’ overall well-being." - McKinsey #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Leadership is the ability to facilitate movement in the needed direction and have people feel good about it." - Tom Smith  #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullying undermines retention, productivity, goodwill, morale, and innovation.  #LeadersArentBullies "Invariably, micromanaging (and bullying) result in four problems: deceit, disloyalty, conflict, and communication problems." - John Rosemond #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. Three times is enemy action." - Ian Fleming #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Federal anti-bullying laws and support can determine how an organization prevents and stops bullying. They influence whether a bullying target can expect legal support and protection. #LeadersArentBullies "Government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the Earth." - Abraham Lincoln #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Only criminals and bloodsuckers reward bad behavior." - Ted Nugent #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." – Benjamin Franklin #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct  Healthy environments and strong leaders establish anti-bullying policies to protect workers. They take reports of maltreatment seriously and address & correct demeaning behaviors. Bad companies allow bullying to fester, stating the behavior is  not illegal.

"If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people." - Virginia Woolf #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"A leader leads by example, not by force." --Sun Tzu #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct A supervisor’s leadership style plays an important yet complex role in determining whether bullying is perceived as a workplace problem.  

 "Cowards only threaten when they are safe." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life." - Marilu Henner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Expectations and stress are highly correlated. The bigger the gap between expectations & reality, the greater the stress. Workers who experience steady and predictable management behaviors and practices are less likely to consider themselves stressed and working for bullies.

"Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets." - Paul Tournier "The people who can keep a secret may be wise, but they are not half as wise as people  with no secrets to keep." -  E. W. Howe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Due to constant belittling, bullied employees don’t feel worthy of better treatment! This lack of self-worth is an effect of, and inadvertently rewards, a bullying boss. #LeadersArentBullies “For to be free is to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.” - Nelson Mandela "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor E. Frankl #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"Our moral, religious, and political traditions are united in their respect for the dignity of human life." - Robert Casey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Life, liberty, the pursuit of #happiness...it’s all manipulated in abusive organizations to bestow power and happiness on the few, the misguided, and the bad folks in control. #LeadersArentBullies "Not only is self-regulation largely a fantasy, but repeated scandals across multiple industries have proved that companies are fundamentally incapable of self-regulating for the greater good." - Maelle Gavet #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct 

 "The only difference between a hero and the villain is that the villain chooses to use that power in a way that is selfish and hurts other people." - Chadwick Boseman #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

When workers do not have concrete goals, roles, or processes, yet bosses hold these workers accountable for arbitrary and unrealistic results, tensions run high resulting in conflict and  scapegoating, while trust is lost. #LeadersArentBullies "Some societies are run by insane people for insane objectives. I think we're being run by maniacs for maniacal ends and I am apt be put away as insane for expressing that. That's insane." - John Lennon "Clarity of vision is the key to achieving your objectives." - Tom Steyer

 "Your past is not your potential. In any hour you can choose to liberate the future." - Marilyn Ferguson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

When bullying is an institutionalized part of leadership and an accepted managerial practice, the organization is sick. #Management behaviors in these unhealthy work environments are extreme—either too aggressive or too casual. Inconsistency allows bullying behavior to fester. "Trust is built with consistency." - Lincoln Chafee #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Truth will ultimately prevail where there is pains to bring it to light." - George Washington #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Researchers found job insecurity and role stressors, like low job autonomy and high workload, are associated with being both a perpetrator and a target of workplace bullying. #LeadersArentBullies "Autonomy leads to empowerment. We work hard to maintain a balance between collaboration and cooperation and independence." - Bobby Kotick #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 "My own definition of leadership is this: The capacity and the will to rally men and women to a common purpose and the character which inspires confidence." —General Montgomery #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullying is a very durable behavioral style, largely because bullies get what they want—at least at first. Resist and find strength in numbers. #LeadersArentBullies "There is always strength in numbers. The more individuals or organizations that you can rally to your cause, the better." - Mark Shields #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 "Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important." - Vikrant Massey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

A bully may target someone who does well, who is recognized, or who is promoted at work. Bullies often becomes jealous of a talented person who triggers the bullies' fears of inadequacy and frustrations with themselves. #LeadersArentBullies "Most bad behavior comes from insecurity." - Debra Winger #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #DignityAtWorkAct

 "A garden requires patient labor and attention. Plants do not grow merely to satisfy ambitions or to fulfill good intentions. They thrive because someone expended effort on them." - Liberty Hyde Bailey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 People who push others around are often driven by a need for power. It takes a conscious decision to bully.  Taking pleasure in having power over, and controlling, others is a choice. #LeadersArentBullies "We cannot always control everything that happens to us in this life, but we can control how we respond. Many struggles come as problems and pressures that sometimes cause pain. Others come as temptations, trials, and tribulations." - L. Lionel Kendrick #stepup

 "A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out." - Shannon l. Alder #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 Happy Thanksgiving! "Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." - Marcel Proust #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct In thriving organizations, people are happy to share common values.  These core beliefs are reinforced by their behaviors, the physical plant, and all transactions.  Related results, processes, and relationships reflect the health of a workplace culture.

"The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine "A lot of people who have experienced trauma at the hands of people they've trusted take responsibility, and that is what's toxic." - Hannah Gadsby #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullying is erroneously branded as “conflict” or a mere “difference in personality styles.” Both are true, but bullying is also a form of violence and assault. #LeadersArentBullies An assault is the act of inflicting physical harm or unwanted physical contact upon a person. In some legal definitions, a threat or attempt to commit such an action. It is both a crime and a tort and, therefore, may result in criminal prosecution, civil liability, or both.

"A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep."  - Saul Bellow #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"There are no secrets that time does not reveal." - Jean Racine #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct  #DignityAtWorkAct When a person behaves in a certain way, either positive or negative, it is because they are willing, able, and allowed. People change behaviors for two reasons: to experience pleasure, and to avoid pain. Bullies create environments where people keep secrets to avoid pain.

 "You will never get the truth out of a  (workplace bully) narcissist. The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain." - Shannon l. Alder #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"People leave when they don't feel appreciated. That's why we've made recognition a really high value. Our business is people-capability first; then you satisfy customers; then you make money." - David Novak #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Eradicating bullying is not just a “nice thing to do,” it’s a “must do.” Trust me. The survival of organizations in the twenty-first century depends on it.

 ...yet only 12% of these aware employees do anything to respond. "In the struggle against inhumanity, don't try to be the last person standing, be the first person standing." - Abhijit Naskar #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"(Those) who do not bellow the truth when (they) know the truth make (themselves) the accomplice of liars and forgers." - Charles Peguy #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Most bullies know they won’t be punished, and incompetent or unethical HR associates and managers conceal and tolerate bullying environments, realizing targets have little legal precedent or leverage to protect themselves.  #LeadersArentBullies

"With the right culture and values, people can accomplish great things." - Tricia Griffith "Culture is the process by which a person becomes all that they were created capable of being." - Thomas Carlyle #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

#UnpopularOpinion: Those who take no immediate action to address and stop bullying, and who fail to discipline bullies at work, will (should) be liable for punitive damages for knowingly allowing malicious and oppressive tortious acts.  How do you know you are valued at work? "Let's not be afraid to speak the common sense truth: you can't have high standards without good discipline." - William Hague #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 "Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive." - Jamais Cascio #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom - how great is that?" - Soledad O'Brien #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct  Bullies survive by making subordinates feel trapped, at fault (#gaslighting), and unempowered, compliant rather than committed.  In healthy organization,  everyone is encouraged to take accountable risks and to lead.  What behaviors are  rewarded in your organization?

 "I always believe that the elders in my family (society) are the reason for my (our) success." - R. Madhavan "Slow down and think about the lessons of the elders." - Maya Soetoro-Ng #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct