Monday, June 21, 2021

Playful Words and Deeds

Supervisors feel obligated to be on call 24 hrs/day, 7 days/week, as an extension of their bullying boss. There’s no time for these supervisors and their workers to ponder their contrived existence, to seek root causes and solutions, or to complain.

"Now this relaxation of the mind from work consists on playful words or deeds. Therefore, it becomes a wise and virtuous (person) to have recourse to such things at times." -- Thomas Aquinas 

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct


Sunday, June 20, 2021

Happy Father's Day!

 “At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” – Albert Schweitzer

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Friday, June 18, 2021

Pace and Inspire

Bullies tend to require excessive paperwork. This overwhelms workers and undermines production, so the bully can further critique workers for not doing their jobs. 


"When you're at the top you have to know how to delegate without putting the fear of God into people." - Ainsley Harriott

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct 

Celebrate Talent

 All workplace bullying is rooted in a bully's great fear of being exposed as an incompetent fraud. 

Celebrated in healthy workplaces, the most talented, decent, and well intended workers are targeted in abusive workplaces.  Their gifts trigger a bully's fears.

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thursday, June 17, 2021


Bullies demand useless reports they often don't read, yet they claim to be essential.  The reports often must be completed on time, forcing supervisors and workers to work excessive overtime.  #LeadersArentBullies

"I'm a tyrant that you should trust, and you should let me run your life, because I do know what is best for you." - Vermin Supreme

"More harm was done in the 20th century by faceless bureaucrats than tyrant dictators." - Dennis Prager

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct 

Wednesday, June 16, 2021

Love of Free Speech and Freedom

"(We) must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

"We should not have to experience the fear of intimidation or retaliation in the United States." - Mercedes Schlapp

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct


Monday, June 14, 2021

Miss Iris unloading lobster filled crates.

“The only thing worse than training your employees and having them leave is not training them and having them stay.” – Henry Ford

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces

Training is informal and not procedural so any mistake or misstep can be blamed on the worker. Bullied workers are set up to fail and often entrapped to knock their confidence.


Embrace Talent

"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius." - Arthur Conan Doyle

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Sunday, June 13, 2021


 "It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up." - Vince Lombardi

"You can do anything as long as you have the passion, the drive, the focus, and the support." - Sabrina Bryan

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces

Bullied workers are blamed, held accountable, and punished for not meeting irrational and unrealistic goals.   They are undermined with poor training, limited resources, and belittlement. They are not allowed to succeed or to address root causes to prevent similar problems.

Saturday, June 12, 2021


 "There are three things in the world that deserve no mercy, hypocrisy, fraud, and tyranny." - Frederick William Robertson

"Rather fail with honor than succeed by fraud." - Sophocles

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thursday, June 10, 2021

Make A Life.

 Kitchen window views.

“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.” —Dolly Parton

“No one on his deathbed ever said, ‘I wish I had spent more time at the office.’” — Paul Tsongas or Harold Kushner

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

In bullying organizations, workers are expected to sacrifice their life balance and be dumped on, while supervisors are pushed into the corner with no way out.


Listen and Disarm

 "When people express opinions that differ from yours, take it as a chance to grow. Seek to understand over being understood. Be curious, not defensive. The only way to disarm another human being is by listening." - Glennon Doyle Melton

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Wednesday, June 9, 2021

Please Review My 30 Years of Service

 If you are interested in exploring, in a condensed version, my posts and my 30 years in helping organizations uplift thought and conduct, please consider linking to my, "Matt Paknis Leadership Development's Blog" at:

Thank you for your consideration and on going encouragement!

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #dignityatworkact

Tuesday, June 8, 2021

Conquer Fears

Individuals in bullying organizations display PTSD symptoms. Like a deer in headlights, they freeze when bullied. It’s a fear-based, fight or flight, response, where criticism evokes memowries of a critical and abusive parent or bully. 


"Extreme fear can neither fight nor fly." - Shakespeare

"(They) who are not everyday conquering some fear have not learned the secret of life." - Emerson

"Avoiding danger is no safer than outright exposure.  The fearful are caught as often as the bold." - Helen Keller



 "Your mind shines brightest when you enlighten others; your heart, when you encourage others; your soul, when you elevate others; and your life, when you empower others." - Matshona Dhliwayo

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Monday, June 7, 2021

Calm Under Fire

"When adversity strikes, that's when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on." - LL Cool J

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullying managers leverage email, voicemail, text, cell phones and fellow bullies to communicate unclear and accusatory messages meant to put the target or recipient on defense and focused on the bully instead of production and healthy performance/functioning. 



Sunday, June 6, 2021

D-Day, June 6, 1944

The U.S. 2nd and 5th Ranger Battalions were given the task of assaulting the strong point early on D-Day.  The initial Ranger landing force of 225+ was reduced to about 90 fighting men who made it to the top of the cliff and, broke through the German held fortification, initiating the Allied Victory. 

Thank you for preserving our freedoms!

Smile Today

"They hate (and bully) you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you." - Shannon L. Alder

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Friday, June 4, 2021

Achievable Expectations

 "There's strong data that, within companies, the No. 1 reason for ethical violations is the pressure to meet expectations, sometimes unrealistic expectations." - Stephen Covey

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies create and either heroically put out their own fires, or they expect others to solve these problems, but a bully only passes on impossible problems, so those beholden to the bully fail to meet these unrealistic expectations. 



 "The tyrant grinds down his (subjects) and they don't turn against him, they crush those beneath them." - Emily Bronte

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Wednesday, June 2, 2021


"Give to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself." - Thomas Paine

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces
#leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies interrupt. They lack respect and consideration and fail to practice appropriate boundaries with their workers.



Critique Self

“Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” – M. Scott Peck

“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” – Karla Grimes

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct


Monday, May 31, 2021

Appreciate and Recognize

Given the following three choices—lack of recognition, lack of money, and lack of challenge—85% of employees who’ve left an organization state it’s because they didn’t feel appreciated or recognized.


"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." - William James

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Thank You

Thank you for preserving our freedoms with your ultimate sacrifice. 


 Yet only 12% of all bystanders intervene!

"Peace does not mean just to stop wars, but also to stop oppression and injustice." - Tawakkol Karman

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Sunday, May 30, 2021

Observations and Facts

“Coaches have to watch for what they don’t want to see and listen to what they don’t want to hear.” – John Madden

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Good and successful managers don’t #micromanage.  They do not demean, belittle, or overly criticize subordinates. They let employees know how they perform, and how to correct or sustain performance, with constructive feedback based on agreed upon observations and facts.

Saturday, May 29, 2021

Transparency and Facts

"The greatest deception (people) suffer is from their own opinions." - Leonardo da Vinci

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thursday, May 27, 2021


"When it comes to human dignity, we cannot make compromises." - Angela Merkel

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Effective and successful managers commit to providing constructive and objective performance feedback.  This  improves outcomes, demonstrates rational behavior,
and builds respect with their employees.


Step Up

 "An individual can make a difference, but a team can make a miracle." - Doug Pederson

"When you see corruption, when you see injustice, you speak up. You don't just shut up and say it's none of my business." - Manal al-Sharif

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Tuesday, May 25, 2021


 Bullying bosses harm healthy working cultures and their surrounding communities by eroding worker dignity and productivity. These losses extract significant emotional and financial costs.


"Kindness kindles kinship and kinship kindles a sense of community." - Abhijit Naskar

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduc #DignityAtWorkAct


 The way your employees feel is the way your customers will feel. And if your employees don't feel valued, neither will your customers." - Sybil F. Stershic

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Sunday, May 23, 2021


Managers who bully are destructive.  They alienate employees to the point where they no longer add value to the organization. #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculture

"The best bosses do more than uplift people, recruit, and breed positive energizers. They eliminate negative bosses.  They know one bullying bad apple boss can undermine and destroy people and productivity." - Robert I. Sutton

#healthyworkplaces #stepup  #DignityAtWorkAct


 "There is no greatness where there is no simplicity, goodness and truth." - Leo Tolstoy

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Saturday, May 22, 2021


Workplace bullying encompasses persistent unwelcome behaviors and comments intended to demean and belittle a target. Workplace bullying often involves unclear or excessive assignments and respective distorted or fabricated allegations of under-performance. #LeadersArentBullies

"I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It's the bully who's insecure." - Shay Mitchell

"Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke."  Benjamin Disraeli

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct

Friday, May 21, 2021

Survive, and Thrive

"Trauma creates one of four types of people: victims, rescuers, or perps - and if you're really lucky and really strong and very willing and brave, survivors." - Allison Anders

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thursday, May 20, 2021

Ripples of Hope

 Jamestown to Newport Pell Bridge

Even today, workplace bullying is still somewhat a taboo subject. It’s akin to how bullying among children at school and bullying in the form of sexual harassment of working women was perceived before 1970. #LeadersArentBullies

"When we stand for an ideal, or act to uplift others, or strike out against injustice, we start a tiny ripple of hope & energy.  Crossing from millions of different origins, those ripples build a current able to sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression." - Robert Kennedy

Wednesday, May 19, 2021


“Responsibility equals accountability equals ownership. And a sense of ownership is the most powerful weapon a team or organization can have.” - Pat Summitt

"The time is always right to do what's right." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Monday, May 17, 2021

Annie loving life after a rough start.

Mental traumas are real “injuries.” Acknowledge them and don't discount or attempt to ignore their impact. #LeadersArentBullies #mentalhealth

"Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence.

The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Courage and Knowledge

"Ignorance is the root cause of all difficulties." - Plato

"There seemed to be endless obstacles - it seemed that the root cause of them all was fear." - Marion Milner

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct


Saturday, May 15, 2021

Stress can Kill

When stress goes unabated, it compromises a target’s mental health, and when unseen psychological trauma is caused by unsafe, stressful work conditions, it’s every bit as damaging as physical injuries.


A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety.”

“It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out; it's the grain of sand in your shoe.” ― Robert W. Service

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct

The Truth Will Set You Free

"The truth will set you free, but you have to endure the labor pains of birthing it.” - Iyanla Vanzant

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thursday, May 13, 2021

Resolve to Change

An early Swedish study among 64 victims of bullying at work attending a rehabilitation program concluded that 65% of the patients suffered from PTSD.  #LeadersArentBullies

“After trauma, the human self-preservation system goes on permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.” - Judith Herman

“Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods." - Peter Levine

“What we change inwardly will change outer reality.” - Plutarch


 "The first step toward change is awareness." -  Nathaniel Branden

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Tuesday, May 11, 2021

Manage Stress


Workplace bullying targets report increased psychological distress: anxiety, depression, negative emotions, and overt anger. In the workplace, high levels of burnout and emotional exhaustion are common, as well. 


"Stress doesn't come from what's happening in your life. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances." - Andrew J. Bernstein

"Exercise training offers an outlet to release stress based energies.  It tones the spirit and conditions the body." - Arnold Schwarzenegger

Healthy Outcomes

"In business, successful people reach goals, not quotas." – Stephen Jermyn

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Monday, May 10, 2021

Moral Responsibility

When people at work, who are employed to have daily intensive and collaborative contact, shun us, it's hurtful and wasteful.  It challenges our assumptions about our world and humanity. 


"Corporate social responsibility is measured in terms of how  businesses create healthy  conditions for their employees, shareholders, communities, and environment. Corprare moral responsibility includes humane factors like inclusion, dignity, and equality." - Klaus Schwab

Sunday, May 9, 2021

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy Mother's Day, to all our Wonderful Mothers!  We wouldn't be here without them!

Confidence, Courage, Compassion

"A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions, and the compassion to listen to the needs of others. He does not set out to be a leader, but becomes one by the equality of his actions and the integrity of his intent." --Douglas MacArthur
#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Friday, May 7, 2021

Invest in Dignity

Vetting and selecting a leader who cares about balancing the bottom line with running a respectful and #transparent enterprise is challenging. If you are graced with this type of leader, request a meeting and propose eliminating bullying as a “cost-cutting initiative."


A handful of international companies are addressing workplace abuse and related  presenteeism problems and the prevalence of their respective  unhealthy worker reactions. Researchers are concluding  presenteeism costs companies billions of dollars a year." - HBR

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct

Seek the Truth

"One believes things because one has been conditioned to believe them." - Aldous Huxley

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct