Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"Denial, panic, threats, anger - those are very human responses to feeling guilt." - Joshua Oppenheimer "It is the habit of every aggressor to claim they are acting on the defensive."- Jawaharlal Nehru #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts." - E. B. White "Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passions, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." - John Adams #HealthyWorkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent Bullies thrive on subjectivity and flawed mental models. Don’t let them get away with it. Insist on transparency and facts. #LeadersArentBullies

"Criticism and pessimism destroy families, undermine institutions of all kinds, defeat nearly everyone, and spread a shroud of gloom over entire nations." - Gordon B. Hinckley “People who feel good about themselves produce good results, and people who produce good results feel good about themselves.” - Ken Blanchard #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"Transparency increases credibility and accountability." - Park Won-soon "Greatness is not measured by what a man or woman accomplishes, but by the opposition he or she has overcome to reach their goals." - Dorothy Height #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent Good leaders and organizations can manage successful outcomes to buck bullying with shared accountability, goals, and healthy relationships. #LeadersArentBullies

"It is not the strong who are dangerous to the world and to themselves. It is the weak and the inadequate who threaten - and sometimes destroy - mankind's peace and prosperity." - Vernon Howard #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"You cannot fix a problem that you refuse to acknowledge." - Margaret Heffernan "When the norm is decency, other virtues can thrive: integrity, honesty, compassion, kindness, and trust." - Raja Krishnamoorthi #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact To end destructive bullying acts at work, one must recognize the bullying behaviors and aggression are not normal, routine, acceptable, or deserved. #LeadersArentBullies #betransparent

"Democratic principles are the result of equality of condition." - Mercy Otis Warren "The Green Bay Packers didn't do it for individual glory. They did it because they loved one another." - Vince Lombardi "Unity is strength... when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved." - Mattie Stepanek #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"The measure of intelligence is the ability to change." -Albert Einstein “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” -Socrates #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Good leaders and organizations recognize the need to change an institutionalized culture of workplace bullying. #LeadersArentBullies #officeculture

"The "person" who cannot endure to have his errors and shortcomings brought to the surface and made known, but tries to hide them, is unfit to walk the highway of truth (and leadership)." - James Allen #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Intimidation, harassment and violence have no place in a democracy." - Mo Ibrahim "How can people feel themselves honoured by the humiliation of their fellow beings." - Mahatma Gandhi "Exclusion is never the way forward on shared paths to freedom and justice." -Desmond Tutu #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Workplace bullying includes, but is not limited to, intimidation, public humiliation, offensive name-calling, social exclusion, and unwanted physical contact (battery).

"Two of the most important, yet challenging aspects to being an Active Bullying Bystander are: 1.Identifying your responsibility to help and 2.Knowing what to do and how to do it safely. There are five steps to being an Active Bullying  Bystander: 1. Notice the event 2. Interpret it as a problem 3. Feel responsible for helping 4. Have necessary knowledge and skills 5. Act." - Rise Above the Pack #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

“Encouragement is like water to the soul, it makes everything grow.” ― Chris Burkmenn "The most certain way to succeed is to try just one more time." - Thomas A. Edison "As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others." - Marianne Williamson #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying does not liberate or inspire. True leaders do both. Good bosses encourage,  motivate and value their workers.

"Dispassionate objectivity is itself a passion, for the real and for the truth." - Abraham Maslow "The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions." - Leonardo da Vinci "There is no greatness where there is no simplicity, goodness and truth." - Leo Tolstoy #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

“To deny people their human rights is to challenge their very humanity.” - Nelson Mandela "Journalism is the protection between people and any sort of totalitarian rule. That's why my hero, admittedly a flawed one, is a journalist." - Andrew Vachss #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying violates the basic tenets of a person's inalienable rights as stated in the Declaration and protected by the United States Constitution, namely, each citizen’s right to “Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness.”

"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead "Together we can change the world, just one random act of kindness at a time." - Ron Hall "Every moment is an organizing opportunity, every person a potential activist, every minute a chance to change the world." - Dolores Huerta #leadersarentbullies #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"At the end of the day, the goals are simple: safety and security." - Jodi Rell "The safety of the people is the highest law." - Marcus Tullius Cicero "Trust is the glue of life, the key to  effective communication, the principle holding all relationships." - Stephen Covey #healthyworplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Successful leaders create safe environments where people can trust—where they know people are there to protect them when they are vulnerable, where everyone is dedicated to making each other safe and better. #LeadersArentBullies

"If you believe, as I do, that your employees truly are your most valuable asset, you will do whatever you can to help them do their jobs as well as possible." - Harvey Mackay "Employers who invest in their workforce have a more productive workforce, a more efficient workforce, a more loyal workforce, less turnover, and, in the private sector, more profitable." - Valerie Jarrett #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Healing is a matter of time, but it is also a matter of opportunity." - Hippocrates "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." - Tori Amos "Awareness is the first step in healing." - Dean Ornish #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Organizations can heal from scandals involving bullying and abuse with leaders who clear out bullies and eradicate destructive values, beliefs, and behaviors. #LeadersArentBullies

"Everyone knows someone who is struggling with a mental health issue, whether it's depression, trauma or substance abuse. It affects everyone, so we all have a stake in making sure good treatment is available." - Cris Carter "It's like any other part of your body - your mental health gets sick, and it needs treatment." - Olly Alexander #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

  “Don’t fight darkness—bring the light, and darkness will disappear.” – Maharishi Mahesh Yogi “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can  do that.” – Martin Luther King Jr. "Light is the symbol of truth." - James Russell Lowell #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact People are afraid of the ramifications of dealing with the dark instead of celebrating the light and truth.

"Many of us feel stress and get overwhelmed not because we're taking on too much, but because we're taking on too little of what really strengthens us." - Marcus Buckingham "Most people are remarkably resilient. Even those who have been through war or great loss often find reservoirs of strength. But the legacy of trauma is a heavy burden to bear." - Christina Baker Kline #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  

"Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold." -  Proverbs 11:27 #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullies seek to find what’s “wrong” with people in their lives, rather than what’s right. They attack people, not problems. #LeadersArentBullies

"Transparency increases credibility and accountability." - Park Won-soon "The consequences of an act affect the probability of its occurring again." - B. F. Skinner "It's very important to choose kindness and stop bullying." - Jacob Tremblay #leadersarentbullies #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  

"Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle." - Napoleon Hill "Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength." - Saint Francis de Sales "Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm." - Abraham Lincoln #stepup #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullies are weak and fragile, whereas good leaders are strong and tough. Strive to be the good leader you want to see. There is strength in kindness. #LeadersArentBullies #begentle

"Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence." - Leonardo da Vinci "With power comes the abuse of power. And where there are bosses, there are crazy bosses." - Judd Rose "People are afraid of things they don't understand. They don't know how to relate. It threatens their security, their existence, their career, image." - Bill Laswell #leadersarentbullies #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  

"When you abuse someone, you limit their perspective, and you trap them in your view of them or your view of the world." - Tara Westover "I'm always amazed that people are shocked when their despicable action causes an equally despicable reaction." - CM Punk #healthyworplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullies plan their sneak attacks. They attempt to immobilize and control their victims with premeditated and unpredictable traps, deadfalls, and tricks. #LeadersArentBullies #stopbullying

"There are no problems we cannot solve together, and very few that we can solve by ourselves." - Lyndon B. Johnson "Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results." - Willie Nelson "The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness." - Lao Tzu #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth." - Buddha "There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or a mirror  reflecting it." - Edith Wharton "Truth will ultimately prevail where there is pains to bring it to light.“ - George Washington #HealthyWorkplaces #stepup   #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Outcomes tend to turn out well for those who strive for good and truth. Taking a stance against bullying shines a light on a abuse so it can't remain hidden. #LeadersArentBullies #transparency

"We can change culture if we change behavior." - Dr. Aubrey Daniels "If you are lucky enough to be someone’s employer, then you have a moral obligation to make sure people do look forward to coming to work in the morning." - John Mackey "Culture changes when the organization is transformed; the culture reflects the realities of people working together every day." -  Frances Hesselbein #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  

"No one deserves more respect than the other person until they prove themselves unworthy." - Frankie Faison "Without integrity, no real success is possible, whether it is on a section gang, a football field, in an army, or in an office." - Dwight D. Eisenhower #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact If company #managers do not have the ethical and moral integrity to stop bullying, or if they fail to value their employees enough to stop bullying, the organization is not a worthy employer nor worth of your time or business. #LeadersArentBullies