Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"Building up expectations, creating unrealistic time frames, feeling like our end goal is the end all, can all lead to frustration or anxiety." - Gretchen Bleiler "Sensing control and having realistic expectations are the keys to stress management." - Marilu Henner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies create and either heroically put out their own fires, or they expect others to solve these problems, but a bully only passes on impossible problems, so those beholden to the bully fail to meet these unrealistic expectations.

"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." - Laurell K. Hamilton “Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods.” ― Peter A. Levine #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Being a nice person is about courtesy: you're friendly, polite, agreeable, and accommodating. When people believe they have to be nice in order to give, they fail to set boundaries, rarely say no, and become pushovers, letting others walk all over them." - Adam Grant #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies interrupt. They lack respect and consideration and fail to practice appropriate boundaries with their workers. #LeadersArentBullies

"We see the world not as it is but as we are. Most of us see through the eyes of our fears and our limiting beliefs and our false assumptions." - Robin S. Sharma "Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others clearly to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama and you can transform your life." - Don Miguel Ruiz #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important." - Vikrant Massey "There are two things people want more than sex and money... recognition and praise." - Mary Kay Ash #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Given the following three choices—lack of recognition, lack of money, and lack of challenge—85% of employees who’ve left an organization state it’s because they didn’t feel appreciated or recognized. #LeadersArentBullies

"The purpose of [a lawsuit] is to harass and discourage rather than to win. The law can be used very easily to harass, and if possible, of course, to ruin (them) utterly." - L. Ron Hubbard "Frivolous lawsuits are booming in this country. The U.S. has more costs of litigation per person than any other industrialized nation in the world, and it is crippling our economy." - Jack Kingston North Kingstown, RI’s Toray Plastics, which is suing a former employee over a book he wrote, ‘Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies’ By:  Eric T. Berkman   August 26, 2022 A U.S. District Court judge has found that a company could bring nondisparagement and defamation claims against a former employee who wrote a book on workplace bullying even though the book never referenced the employer by name. Defendant Matthew Paknis, a veteran management and leadership consultant who briefly worked in the HR department of Toray Plastics, authored a book entitled “Successful Leaders Aren

"One of the tests of leadership is the ability to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency." - Arnold H. Glasow #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Ken Blanchard "By creating a feedback culture within your office, you ensure that people continue to learn, grow, and challenge themselves." - Neil Blumenthal #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #DignityatWorkAct Good managers don’t #micromanage, and they are not overly critical of subordinates. Employees need to know when they perform below or above expected levels and how to correct or sustain this performance with constructive feedback based on observations and facts.

Yet, only 13% of these targets and witnesses  address this abuse.  "Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." - Mark Twain "The purpose of whistleblowing is to expose wrongful acts by those in power in order to enable reform." - Glenn Greenwald "Education is the movement from darkness to light." - Allan Bloom #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"In order to excel, you must be dedicated to your chosen (field). You must work hard, accept constructive criticism. Without one-hundred percent dedication, you won't be able to do this." - Willie Mays "To undermine a (person's) self-respect is a sin." - Antoine de Saint-Exupery #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Effective managers must commit to providing constructive and objective performance feedback to improve outcomes. They must  demonstrate rational behavior and respect for their employees in the process. #LeadersArentBullies

"Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you." - Walter Winchell #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence." - Martin Luther King, Jr. "The simple act of paying positive attention to people has a great deal to do with productivity." - Tom Peters #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Brutal bosses harm entire communities at work and beyond by robbing citizens and institutions of their dignity and productivity. Such losses cannot be tolerated for long. There is always a cost down the line. #LeadersArentBullies

"Retaliation is related to nature and instinct and not to law.  Law, by definition, can not obey the same rules as nature." - Albert Camus "I think the first duty of society is justice." - Alexander Hamilton North Kingstown, RI’s Toray Plastics, which is suing a former employee over a book he wrote, ‘Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies’ By:  Eric T. Berkman   August 26, 2022 A U.S. District Court judge has found that a company could bring nondisparagement and defamation claims against a former employee who wrote a book on workplace bullying even though the book never referenced the employer by name. Defendant Matthew Paknis, a veteran management and leadership consultant who briefly worked in the HR department of Toray Plastics, authored a book entitled “Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies.”  During a dispute following Paknis’ departure, Toray learned about the book, which had not yet gone to print, and had Paknis sign an agreement that he would make no de