Monday, June 21, 2021

Playful Words and Deeds

Supervisors feel obligated to be on call 24 hrs/day, 7 days/week, as an extension of their bullying boss. There’s no time for these supervisors and their workers to ponder their contrived existence, to seek root causes and solutions, or to complain.

"Now this relaxation of the mind from work consists on playful words or deeds. Therefore, it becomes a wise and virtuous (person) to have recourse to such things at times." -- Thomas Aquinas 

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct


Sunday, June 20, 2021

Happy Father's Day!

 “At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” – Albert Schweitzer

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Friday, June 18, 2021

Pace and Inspire

Bullies tend to require excessive paperwork. This overwhelms workers and undermines production, so the bully can further critique workers for not doing their jobs. 


"When you're at the top you have to know how to delegate without putting the fear of God into people." - Ainsley Harriott

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct 

Celebrate Talent

 All workplace bullying is rooted in a bully's great fear of being exposed as an incompetent fraud. 

Celebrated in healthy workplaces, the most talented, decent, and well intended workers are targeted in abusive workplaces.  Their gifts trigger a bully's fears.

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thursday, June 17, 2021


Bullies demand useless reports they often don't read, yet they claim to be essential.  The reports often must be completed on time, forcing supervisors and workers to work excessive overtime.  #LeadersArentBullies

"I'm a tyrant that you should trust, and you should let me run your life, because I do know what is best for you." - Vermin Supreme

"More harm was done in the 20th century by faceless bureaucrats than tyrant dictators." - Dennis Prager

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct 

Wednesday, June 16, 2021

Love of Free Speech and Freedom

"(We) must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

"We should not have to experience the fear of intimidation or retaliation in the United States." - Mercedes Schlapp

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct


Monday, June 14, 2021

Miss Iris unloading lobster filled crates.

“The only thing worse than training your employees and having them leave is not training them and having them stay.” – Henry Ford

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces

Training is informal and not procedural so any mistake or misstep can be blamed on the worker. Bullied workers are set up to fail and often entrapped to knock their confidence.


Embrace Talent

"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius." - Arthur Conan Doyle

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Sunday, June 13, 2021


 "It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up." - Vince Lombardi

"You can do anything as long as you have the passion, the drive, the focus, and the support." - Sabrina Bryan

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces

Bullied workers are blamed, held accountable, and punished for not meeting irrational and unrealistic goals.   They are undermined with poor training, limited resources, and belittlement. They are not allowed to succeed or to address root causes to prevent similar problems.

Saturday, June 12, 2021


 "There are three things in the world that deserve no mercy, hypocrisy, fraud, and tyranny." - Frederick William Robertson

"Rather fail with honor than succeed by fraud." - Sophocles

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Thursday, June 10, 2021

Make A Life.

 Kitchen window views.

“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.” —Dolly Parton

“No one on his deathbed ever said, ‘I wish I had spent more time at the office.’” — Paul Tsongas or Harold Kushner

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

In bullying organizations, workers are expected to sacrifice their life balance and be dumped on, while supervisors are pushed into the corner with no way out.


Listen and Disarm

 "When people express opinions that differ from yours, take it as a chance to grow. Seek to understand over being understood. Be curious, not defensive. The only way to disarm another human being is by listening." - Glennon Doyle Melton

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Wednesday, June 9, 2021

Please Review My 30 Years of Service

 If you are interested in exploring, in a condensed version, my posts and my 30 years in helping organizations uplift thought and conduct, please consider linking to my, "Matt Paknis Leadership Development's Blog" at:

Thank you for your consideration and on going encouragement!

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #dignityatworkact

Tuesday, June 8, 2021

Conquer Fears

Individuals in bullying organizations display PTSD symptoms. Like a deer in headlights, they freeze when bullied. It’s a fear-based, fight or flight, response, where criticism evokes memowries of a critical and abusive parent or bully. 


"Extreme fear can neither fight nor fly." - Shakespeare

"(They) who are not everyday conquering some fear have not learned the secret of life." - Emerson

"Avoiding danger is no safer than outright exposure.  The fearful are caught as often as the bold." - Helen Keller



 "Your mind shines brightest when you enlighten others; your heart, when you encourage others; your soul, when you elevate others; and your life, when you empower others." - Matshona Dhliwayo

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Monday, June 7, 2021

Calm Under Fire

"When adversity strikes, that's when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on." - LL Cool J

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullying managers leverage email, voicemail, text, cell phones and fellow bullies to communicate unclear and accusatory messages meant to put the target or recipient on defense and focused on the bully instead of production and healthy performance/functioning. 



Sunday, June 6, 2021

D-Day, June 6, 1944

The U.S. 2nd and 5th Ranger Battalions were given the task of assaulting the strong point early on D-Day.  The initial Ranger landing force of 225+ was reduced to about 90 fighting men who made it to the top of the cliff and, broke through the German held fortification, initiating the Allied Victory. 

Thank you for preserving our freedoms!

Smile Today

"They hate (and bully) you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you." - Shannon L. Alder

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Friday, June 4, 2021

Achievable Expectations

 "There's strong data that, within companies, the No. 1 reason for ethical violations is the pressure to meet expectations, sometimes unrealistic expectations." - Stephen Covey

#healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies create and either heroically put out their own fires, or they expect others to solve these problems, but a bully only passes on impossible problems, so those beholden to the bully fail to meet these unrealistic expectations. 



 "The tyrant grinds down his (subjects) and they don't turn against him, they crush those beneath them." - Emily Bronte

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Wednesday, June 2, 2021


"Give to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself." - Thomas Paine

#leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces
#leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies interrupt. They lack respect and consideration and fail to practice appropriate boundaries with their workers.



Critique Self

“Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” – M. Scott Peck

“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” – Karla Grimes

#leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct