Matt Paknis Leadership Development

Controlling bullies will attempt block transfers to a safe and better job. They find sick pleasure in making targets so miserable they quit.  Bullies will also attempt to impair a target’s health until the target must quit to alleviate their great stress. "Rightful liberty is unobstructed action according to our will within limits drawn around us by the equal rights of others. I do not add 'within the limits of the law' because law is often but the tyrant's will, and always so when it violates the rights of the individual." - Thomas Jefferson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"Wise (people) speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something." - Unknown "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." - Epictetus #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Choose to focus your time, energy and conversation around people who inspire you, support you and help you to grow you into your happiest, strongest, wisest self." - Karen Salmansohn #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullied workers often admit to doing the bare minimum. “I do just enough to not get fired, and nothing else.  It's my way of getting back.” says one bullied worker.

 "Few love to hear the sins they love to act." ― William Shakespeare "I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked and being good all the time. That would be hypocrisy." ― Oscar Wilde #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

It’s about twice as likely as getting struck by lightning; about a 1 in 7,500 chance during your lifetime.  Your chance of knowing someone who knows someone whose shower door exploded is slim to none.  Now, you do!  Last night, one of my shower doors exploded!  Bizarre!  It took 3 hour to remove 100+ lbs. of glass pebbles. It's happens enough to be written about: https://www.thespruce.com/glass-shower-door-shattered-by-itself-3972517 Be safe!

“Motivation comes from working on things we care about. It also comes from working with people we care about.” —Sheryl Sandberg “If the motivation is gone, then I am finished.” —Marit Bjorgen #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct Bullied workers are ambivalent about doing a good job because their efforts “don't matter.” These workers learn they will be abused regardless of how hard they try.  When workers sense they have no control over their performance results, they lose motivation.  #DignityAtWorkAct 

"Empathy, humanity and support for each other is more important than revenue, than growth." - Eric Yuan "Empathy begins with understanding life from another person's perspective. Nobody has an objective experience of reality. It's all through our own individual prisms." - Sterling K. Brown #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

 Rooster guarding his peeps. Workers recall and re-experience, as with PTSD, negative events with intense emotions. In bullying workplaces, unremitting interactions and negativity damage performance and can derail organizations, careers, and people. #leadersarentbullies "Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence." - Peter A. Levine #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Bullying is never fun, it's a cruel and terrible thing to do to someone. If you are being bullied, it is not your fault. No one deserves to be bullied, ever." - Raini Rodriguez "Bullying is killing our kids. Being different is killing our kids and the kids who are bullying are dying inside. We have to save our kids whether they are bullied or they are bullying. They are all in pain." - Cat Cora #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 

"When resolute (people) step up to the great bully and take him boldly by the beard, they are often surprised to find it comes off in their hands, and that it was only tied on to scare away timid adventurers." - Ralph Waldo Emerson #healthyworkplaces #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Executives who believe bullying behaviors benefit worker performance and organizational outcomes are mistaken. #LeadersArentBullies

 "The first step in solving a problem is to recognize that it does exist." - Zig Ziglar #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct #8 Mediate only if parties are willing and able

Supervisors feel obligated to be on call 24 hrs/day, 7 days/week, as an extension of their bullying boss. There’s no time for these supervisors and their workers to ponder their contrived existence, to seek root causes and solutions, or to complain. "Now this relaxation of the mind from work consists on playful words or deeds. Therefore, it becomes a wise and virtuous (person) to have recourse to such things at times." -- Thomas Aquinas  #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #Digni tyAtWorkAct  

 “At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” – Albert Schweitzer #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies tend to require excessive paperwork. This overwhelms workers and undermines production, so the bully can further critique workers for not doing their jobs.  #LeadersArentBullies "When you're at the top you have to know how to delegate without putting the fear of God into people." - Ainsley Harriott #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct  #DignityAtWorkAct

 All workplace bullying is rooted in a bully's great fear of being exposed as an incompetent fraud.  Celebrated in healthy workplaces, the most talented, decent, and well intended workers are targeted in abusive workplaces.  Their gifts trigger a bully's fears. #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies demand useless reports they often don't read, yet they claim to be essential.  The reports often must be completed on time, forcing supervisors and workers to work excessive overtime.  #LeadersArentBullies "I'm a tyrant that you should trust, and you should let me run your life, because I do know what is best for you." - Vermin Supreme "More harm was done in the 20th century by faceless bureaucrats than tyrant dictators." - Dennis Prager #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct 

"(We) must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love." - Martin Luther King, Jr. "We should not have to experience the fear of intimidation or retaliation in the United States." - Mercedes Schlapp #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

“The only thing worse than training your employees and having them leave is not training them and having them stay.” – Henry Ford #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Training is informal and not procedural so any mistake or misstep can be blamed on the worker. Bullied workers are set up to fail and often entrapped to knock their confidence. #LeadersArentBullies

"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius." - Arthur Conan Doyle #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 "It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up." - Vince Lombardi "You can do anything as long as you have the passion, the drive, the focus, and the support." - Sabrina Bryan #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullied workers are blamed, held accountable, and punished for not meeting irrational and unrealistic goals.   They are undermined with poor training, limited resources, and belittlement. They are not allowed to succeed or to address root causes to prevent similar problems.

 "There are three things in the world that deserve no mercy, hypocrisy, fraud, and tyranny." - Frederick William Robertson "Rather fail with honor than succeed by fraud." - Sophocles #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 Kitchen window views. “Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.” —Dolly Parton “No one on his deathbed ever said, ‘I wish I had spent more time at the office.’” — Paul Tsongas or Harold Kushner #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct In bullying organizations, workers are expected to sacrifice their life balance and be dumped on, while supervisors are pushed into the corner with no way out. #LeadersArentBullies

 "When people express opinions that differ from yours, take it as a chance to grow. Seek to understand over being understood. Be curious, not defensive. The only way to disarm another human being is by listening." - Glennon Doyle Melton #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 If you are interested in exploring, in a condensed version, my posts and my 30 years in helping organizations uplift thought and conduct, please consider linking to my, "Matt Paknis Leadership Development's Blog" at:  https://lnkd.in/eMNRH3e Thank you for your consideration and on going encouragement! #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #dignityatworkact

Individuals in bullying organizations display PTSD symptoms. Like a deer in headlights, they freeze when bullied. It’s a fear-based, fight or flight, response, where criticism evokes memowries of a critical and abusive parent or bully.  #LeadersArentBullies "Extreme fear can neither fight nor fly." - Shakespeare "(They) who are not everyday conquering some fear have not learned the secret of life." - Emerson "Avoiding danger is no safer than outright exposure.  The fearful are caught as often as the bold." - Helen Keller #stepup  

 "Your mind shines brightest when you enlighten others; your heart, when you encourage others; your soul, when you elevate others; and your life, when you empower others." - Matshona Dhliwayo #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"When adversity strikes, that's when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on." - LL Cool J #leadersarentbullies #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying managers leverage email, voicemail, text, cell phones and fellow bullies to communicate unclear and accusatory messages meant to put the target or recipient on defense and focused on the bully instead of production and healthy performance/functioning.  #healthyworkplaces  

The U.S. 2nd and 5th Ranger Battalions were given the task of assaulting the strong point early on D-Day.  The initial Ranger landing force of 225+ was reduced to about 90 fighting men who made it to the top of the cliff and, broke through the German held fortification, initiating the Allied Victory.  Thank you for preserving our freedoms!

"They hate (and bully) you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you." - Shannon L. Alder #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 "There's strong data that, within companies, the No. 1 reason for ethical violations is the pressure to meet expectations, sometimes unrealistic expectations." - Stephen Covey #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies create and either heroically put out their own fires, or they expect others to solve these problems, but a bully only passes on impossible problems, so those beholden to the bully fail to meet these unrealistic expectations.  #LeadersArentBullies

 "The tyrant grinds down his (subjects) and they don't turn against him, they crush those beneath them." - Emily Bronte #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Give to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself." - Thomas Paine #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullies interrupt. They lack respect and consideration and fail to practice appropriate boundaries with their workers. #LeadersArentBullies  

“Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” – M. Scott Peck “A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” – Karla Grimes #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct