Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"When one person makes an accusation, check to be sure (they are) not the guilty one. Sometimes it is those whose case is weak who make the most clamour." - Piers Anthony "Unrealistic expectations often lead to disappointment, while simple unbiased attention and detachment to outcome often lead to pleasant surprises." - Gary Hopkins #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"Transparency is key to reciprocal the accountability, which we use to be both free and smart. It is the miracle tool that enables us to question the lies of monsters." - David Brin "The most important success ingredient is transparency. Transparency builds trust." - Denise Morrison #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent When employees and children are taught how to identify, and choose to affiliate with, good organizations and to report the egregious behaviors, bad organizations and bad behaviors will eventually cease. #Transparency is essential. Evil prospers in the shadows. #LeadersArentBullies

"I've learned to ignore the negative people and just be a living example of confidence and self-love." - Khoudia Diop "If you go deeper and deeper into your own heart, you'll be living in a world with less fear, isolation and loneliness." - Sharon Salzberg "Exclusion is never the way forward on our shared paths to freedom and justice." - Desmond Tutu #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"An offended heart is the breeding ground of deception." - John Bevere "Trust not too much to appearances." - Virgil "You don't have control over your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it." - Chris Pine #Betransparent   #Stepup #Healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psycholgicalsafetyatworkact Bullies and bullying organizations leverage false appearances. They go to great lengths to appear competent or appealing, or they use intimidation and fear to control their followers. #LeadersArentBullies

"Intimidation, harassment and violence have no place in a democracy." - Mo Ibrahim "There cannot be greater rudeness than to interrupt another in the current of discourse." - John Locke "One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." - Bryant H. McGill #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psycholgicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

 

"There is no dependence that can be sure but a dependence upon one's self." - John Gay #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psycholgicalsafetyatworkact #betransparent Bad managers cultivate in constituents a sense of financial dependence to sabotage self-efficacy. Deviant executives and employees with authority can manipulate and leverage worker insecurities and natural desires to affiliate. #LeadersArentBullies

"Leadership is getting players to believe in you. If you tell a teammate you're ready to play as tough as you're able to, you'd better go out there and do it. Players will see right through a phony."  - Larry Bird "Sincerity makes the very least person to be of more value than the most talented hypocrite." - Charles Spurgeon #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"The people's safety is the highest law." - Marcus Tullius Cicero "The groundwork of all happiness is health." - Leigh Hunt "We have no peace  when we forget we belong to each other." - Mother Teresa "A concern for others' well-being, is a source of happiness." - Dalai Lama #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent How many organizations put their quest for profits ahead of their employees’ and society’s safety, health, peace, and well-being? Demand more, as a consumer and as an employee.

"Empathy is the starting point for creating a community and taking action. It's the impetus for creating change." - Max Carver "In a world that places a growing premium on social skills, education systems need to do much better at fostering those skills systematically across the school curriculum." - Jose Angel Gurria #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent  

 

"Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble." - Yehuda Berg "Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured." - Mark Twain "All mankind... being all equal and independent, no one ought to harm another in his life, health, liberty or possessions." - John Locke #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent  

“A person can allow a tyrannical world to bully them. One can kowtow to the demands of petty tormentors; blithely accept being the drummer boy for other people’s private parade. Alternatively, a person can seek to obtain autonomy over their life.” - Kilroy J. Oldster #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #STEPup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #BeTransparent Bullies expect blind obedience, for people to laugh at their jokes (indecent or not), and for their so-called minions to kowtow, comply, and fawn. Don’t be fooled.

"Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity." - Hippocrates "Part of the healing process is sharing with other people who care." - Jerry Cantrell "Sleep is that golden chain that ties health and our bodies together." + Thomas Dekker "The healthy (one) does not torture others - generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers." - Carl Jung #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #STEPup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"Doing well is the result of doing good. That's what capitalism is all about." - Ralph Waldo Emerson "Ethics is knowing the difference between what you have a right to do and what is right to do." - Potter Stewart "Respect for others guides our manners." - Laurence Sterne #HealthyWorkplaces #STEPup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent Leaders should be measured and held accountable for three critical outcomes: an organization’s bottom-line metrics and results, adherence to #ethical and legal processes, and the demonstration of healthy and respectful relationships. #LeadersArentBullies

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." - Voltaire "Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important." - Vikrant Massey #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

 "I believe the root of all evil is abuse of power." - Patricia Cornwell "What I fear most is power with impunity. I fear abuse of power, and the power to abuse." - Isabel Allende "Collaboration is give and take from each other, to create totally new things." - Virgil Abloh #HealthyWorkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent Predatory bullying is more prevalent in organizations in countries with more aggressive cultures, where the perceived power gap separating reporting relationships is wide and top down, rather than collaborative. #LeadersArentBullies

"A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity." - Dalai Lama "Be careful not to mistake insecurity and inadequacy for humility! Humility has nothing to do with the insecure and inadequate! Just like arrogance has nothing to do with greatness!" - C. JoyBell C. Talented people trigger a bully's greatest fear; being exposed as an incompetent fraud. #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

"The consequences of an act affect the probability of its occurring again." - B. F. Skinner "Terrorism is not a sign of courage. It means cowardice." - Kay Kay Menon #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #betransparent Bullying children, unless held accountable with consequences for their abusive behaviors, become bulling adults where they continue to do what they learned to do best to get what they want—terrorize others. #LeadersArentBullies

"(Humans) must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love." - Martin Luther King, Jr. "If you cross me, I will do everything in my power to destroy you." - HR executive #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

 

"There is strength in numbers, but even more so in collective good will. For those endeavors are supported by mighty forces unseen." - Richelle E. Goodrich "Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passions, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." - John Adams #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent Objective bullying evidence is necessary to prove workplace abuse, although bear in  mind there is also strength in numbers with witnesses. 

"People are afraid of things they don't understand. They don't know how to relate. It threatens their security, their existence, their career, image." - Bill Laswell "A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity." - Robert A. Heinlein #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent

  "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." - Alice Walker "Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely." - John Dalberg-Acton "Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence." - Leonardo da Vinci #healthyworkplaces #StepUp #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent Bullying includes exposure to repeated and enduring negative acts in the workplace when an imbalance in formal or informal power exists between the involved parties. #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculture

Rhode Island is steps away from passing a first-of-its-kind legislation that targets toxic workplaces. It looks like the RI Psychological Safety at Work Bill I testified for this week will become law. A similar Bill is on the docket in MA, where I also testified, per this article where I am also  interviewed.  https://www.bostonglobe.com/2024/05/03/opinion/office-bullying-rhode-island-law/?et_rid=156254964&s_campaign=todaysheadlines:newsletter

The RI Senate approved the Workplace Psychological Safety Bill last week. This past Wednesday I testified before the RI  House Labor Committee to pass this Bill into Law!  We are very close!   Please feel free to watch, forward, and post my  testimony to gain momentum to free and print and distribute my book, Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies.   Over five years ago a vindictive former client sued me on baseless grounds and threatened Post Hill Press and Simon & Schuster, locking the book up for five years while the frivolous case festered in Federal Court and keeping the book from distribution while violating my First Amendment Rights. I am hoping public awareness will generate interest and attract a publisher to reprint the book.  Your assistance is most appreciated! https://youtu.be/zrlDN_i54h0

"The collusion of big business, big labor, and big government threaten the spirit of small business that makes America great." - Foster Friess "At the end of the day, the goals are simple: safety and security." - Jodi Rell #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #Betransparent #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact In a bullying environment, complicit, colluding relationships with an executive trumped worker health, safety, and productivity. #LeadersArentBullies #healthyworkplaces

"Rather fail with honor than succeed by fraud." - Sophocles "Some people think that the truth can be hidden with a little cover-up and decoration. But as time goes by, what is true is revealed, and what is fake fades away." - Ismail Haniyeh #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #BeTransparent

"Honesty is the fastest way to prevent a mistake from turning into a failure." - James Altucher "If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people." - Virginia Woolf #HealthyWorkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #BeTransparent Bullies hate to be objective. It requires honesty and truth, unwelcome traits in their distorted power-control universes. #LeadersArentBullies