Matt Paknis Leadership Development

The most commonly accepted definition to-date of bullying, is when “one or more targets, repeatedly over a period, are exposed to negative acts conducted by one or more predators.”  #LeadersArentBullies "Awareness is the first step in healing." - Dean Ornish #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct  #DignityAtWorkAct

 "I give the victim the benefit of the doubt when it comes to allegations of abuse. I choose to err on the side of caution. I am not  unsympathetic to the wrongly accused, but if there are sides to be chosen, I am on the side of the victim." - Roxane Gay #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

  Greetings!  My book is sold out on "Amazon" and on "Books A Million".  Used copies are being sold by price gougers, on these platforms, for between $44 and $50 per copy. The book is still available, at retail price, on line at Barnes & Noble.  Here's the link.   https://m.barnesandnoble.com/w/successful-leaders-arent-bullies-matt-paknis/1128008745 New copies are not being printed due to a baseless lawsuit filed in 2018 by a bully to block my first amendment rights and to keep the publisher from printing.  The case is scheduled to be heard in Providence Federal Court in June. Any questions, please pm me. Thanks for your on going consideration and support. Will keep you posted.  Peace, Matt

The International Labor Office (ILO), a UN Agency, states “workplace bullying is one of the fastest-growing forms of workplace violence.” #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculturematters "Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent." - Isaac Asimov #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces   #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 “At any given moment you have the power to say this is not how the story is going to end.” ― Christine Mason Miller #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Liberty may be endangered by the abuse of liberty, but also by the abuse of power." - James Madison #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct The sickest work environments have officials who tolerate, and even encourage, bullying behaviors, hostility, and aggressiveness, resulting in an exasperated and deflated workforce.  #LeadersArentBullies

"Truth will ultimately prevail where there is pains to bring it to light." - George Washington "Truth is strong, and sometime or other will prevail." - Mary Astell "A harmful truth is better than a useful lie." - Thomas Mann "Sometimes the truth hurts. And sometimes it feels real good." - Henry Rollins

"Power isn't control--power is giving  strength to others. Leaders don't strengthen themselves with force; leaders willingly give their strength to others so they have the strength to stand on their own." - Beth Revis "People protect what they love." - Jacques Yves Cousteau Workplace bullying destroys effectiveness and #efficiency. It wastes time, energy, and money. It is a de-motivator and a poor human resource practice.  #LeadersArentBullies

 "The difference between a hero and a coward is one step sideways." - Gene Hackman "The coward only threatens when he is safe."- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 "Disengaged workers had 37% higher levels of absenteeism, 49% more accidents and 60% more errors and defects. Employers must strive to help employees feel happy in the workplace; happy employees tend to be more engaged." - Gallup Survey with Queens College #healthyworkplaces Bullied individuals and group members, victimized at work, incur combined lost productivity with respective third party intervention fees ranging between $30,000 and $100,000 per year, per individual, per each bullying case.  #LeadersArentBullies #Bullyingcosts

 "In order to succeed, people need a sense of self-efficacy, to struggle together with resilience to meet the inevitable obstacles and inequities of life." - Albert Bandura #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 Huge Sea Turtle Heading Out of the Sand "Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it." - Hans Selye "The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - William James #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Employees claim harassment and bullying at work, on a micro-level, are more crippling and devastating problems than all other work-related stressors combined. #LeadersArentBullies

 ...And by posting: 1.  How to identify workplace abuse, 2.  How to address and report workplace bullying with safe and effective processes. 3. The consequences and desired healthy  outcomes associated with reporting and stopping workplace abuse and bullying.  #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies https://variety-com.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/variety.com/2021/film/news/scott-rudin-legal-bullying-workplace-1234957085/amp/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/entertainment/theater_dance/scott-rudin-broadway-producer-abuse-allegations/2021/04/17/f3d0ba88-9f0c-11eb-9d05-ae06f4529ece_story.html

Cuttyhunk from East Beach, Westport, MA Workplace bullying in the United States costs organizations as much as $14K per employee per year in lost performance.  #LeadersArentBullies "Clients do not come first. Employees come first. If you take care of your employees, they will take care of the clients." - Richard Branson #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” ~ John Quincy Adams "The magic formula that successful businesses have discovered is to treat customers like guests and employees like people." - Tom Peters #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

“Goodness is the only investment that never fails.” –Henry David Thoreau #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct The emotional and physiological damage induced by workplace bullying extracts great organizational and human costs via  sickness, absenteeism, turnover, ill will, FMLA claims, vandalism, and violence.  #LeadersArentBullies

"Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them become what they are capable of being." --Johann Wolfgang von Goethe "A good leader leads the people from above them. A great leader leads the people from within them." --M.D. Arnold #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"When you see something that is not right, not fair, not just, you have to speak up. You have to say something; you have to do something." - John Lewis #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying in organizations may be tolerated and condoned because it's viewed as the accepted “way he / she gets things done," or it's the way "things have always been done.”  Inhumane behavior can not be grandfathered.  Demand change! #LeadersArentBullies

 "Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be." - Ralph Waldo Emerson "Avoid putting yourself before others and you can become a leader." - Lao Tzu #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Organizational culture demonstrates shared values and beliefs with behaviors influencing how things get accomplished.   #LeadersArentBullies “Culture eats strategy for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.” –Peter Drucker “If you are lucky enough to be someone’s employer, then you have a moral obligation to make sure people do look forward to coming to work in the morning.” –John Mackey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 "As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them." - John F. Kennedy "Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." - Voltaire #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 "A leader creates a positive, high-performance work culture by setting the right tone and acting on it. Day-to-day execution - the tenor and tone - makes all the difference. One deviation - one exasperating meeting - and the CEO legitimizes bad behavior." - Ron Williams #stepup How an organization responds to bullying; how claimants are treated after reporting victimization and how bullies are addressed, impacts workplace bullying recidivism.  #leadersarentbullies

"Low levels of psychological safety can create a culture of silence. They can also create a Cassandra culture – an environment in which speaking up is belittled and warnings go unheeded." - Amy C Edmondson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Quite an interaction with this Canadian Goose who either rushed me to protect her nest or  who is trained to receive treats from misguided human visitors.  She had no fear.  

 "The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak." - Hans Hofmann #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Organizations with safe and reputable bullying reporting processes to address #bullying complaints to intervene and transcend #bullying cases inhibit aggressive bullying behaviors and reduce vulnerable target anxiety. #LeadersArentBullies

 "At the end of the day, the goals are simple: safety and security." Jodi Rell "The safety of the people shall be the highest law." - Marcus Tullius Cicero #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullying prevails in organizations where it is tolerated. 95% of respondents in one UNISON workplace bullying study claimed bullying was facilitated by executives who were aware of the abuse, yet let “bullies can get away with it” while “victims were  too scared to report it.” "There may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest." - Elie Wiesel #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

 "The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Supervisory training is nearly nonexistent. Condoning executives claim there is no budget or time to train. Few good skills taught. On the #jobtraining, in lieu of consistent, uniform, and assessed job skill development, is haphazard and transmits bad habits. #LeadersArentBullies "In the real world, as lived and experienced by real people, the demand for human rights and dignity, the longing for liberty and justice and opportunity, the hatred of oppression and corruption and cruelty is reality." - John McCain #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 

"Unlimited power is apt to corrupt the minds of those who posses it; and this I know, my lords: that where law ends, tyranny begins." - William Pitt "The secret of freedom lies in educating people, whereas the secret of tyranny is in keeping them ignorant." - Maximillian Robespierre #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Bullies often receive a green light to abuse employees from colluding and complicit HR. It's a club, a clique, a veritable wagon train that defensively circles the wagons when one of their “own” is accused. "There are three things in the world that deserve no mercy; hypocrisy, fraud, and tyranny." - Frederick Robertson "Truth will ultimately prevail where there is pains to bring it to light." - George Washington "Education is the movement from darkness to light." - Allan Bloom #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 "You will never get the truth out of a Narcissist. The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain." - Shannon l. Alder #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct