Matt Paknis Leadership Development

 "Aggression unopposed becomes a contagious disease." - Jimmy Carter #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct To end destructive bullying acts at work, one must recognize the bullying behaviors and aggression are not normal, routine, acceptable, or deserved. #betransparent

....yet only 12% of these 72% report or address workplace bullying.  "Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world...would do this, it would change the earth."  - William Faulkner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Workplace bullying includes, but is not limited to, behaviors such as intimidation, setting unrealistic and unclear performance expectations, public humiliation, offensive name-calling, social exclusion, and unwanted physical contact. "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." - Alice Walker "Personality has power to uplift, power to depress, power to curse, and power to bless." - Paul P. Harris #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 "When you tear out a man's tongue, you are not proving him a liar, you're only telling the world that you fear what he might say." - George R.R. Martin #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Three years ago today, my book was released and distributed worldwide.  All copies from this initial printing and distribution are sold. Three months after its release, a former client sued me, claiming they were mentioned in the book.  No company is mentioned in the book. It's not uncommon for wealthy US corporations and individuals to use the legal system to bully and silence others.  Their final rebuttal was submitted several weeks ago.  My hope and faith remain in the truth.  It will prevail.  Always does. Successful leaders aren't bullies. 9-25-18:  Today is the day! My book, "Successful Leaders Aren't Bullies," was released around the globe by Simon & Schuster! Reviewers claim it is a must read for people suffering in toxic environments and for anyone in a #management or #leadership role. https://www.amazon.com/Successful-Leaders-Arent-Bullies-Organizations/dp/1682617173

Cuttyhunk Island in the distant center from Demarest Lloyd State Park 72% OF ALL US EMPLOYEES POLLED REPORT BEING AWARE OF WORKPLACE BULLYING; they were either bullied or they witnessed another employee being bullied. YET, ONLY 12% OF THESE AWARE EMPLOYEES ADDRESS WORKPLACE BULLYING. Let's shift the shame! #workplacepolitics "He who does not bellow the truth when he knows the truth makes himself the accomplice of liars and forgers." - Charles Peguy "Fear is a disease that eats away at logic and makes man inhuman." - Marian Anderson #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Education is the movement from darkness to light." - Allan Bloom "Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness." - Desmond Tutu #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Bullying does not liberate or inspire. True leaders do both. Good bosses encourage, motivate and value their workers. "It is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" - Audrey Hepburn "It is never too late to be what you might have been." - George Eliot "It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light." - Aristotle Oni9assis #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #DignityAtWorkAct #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct

 "You cannot heal what you will not unveil." - Sanjo Jendayi #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Each of us deserves the freedom to pursue our own version of happiness. No one deserves to be bullied." - Barack Obama #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Bullying violates the basic tenets of the United States Declaration of Independence and the Constitution, namely, each citizen’s right to “Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness.”

 "Employees are a company's greatest asset - they're your competitive advantage. You want to attract and retain the best; provide them with encouragement, stimulus, and make them feel that they are an integral part of the company's mission." - Anne M. Mulcahy #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Successful leaders create safe environments where people trust—where they know people are there to protect them when they are vulnerable, where everyone is committed to making each other safe and better. #LeadersArentBullies "Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships." - Stephen Covey #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

 "Trauma fractures comprehension as a pebble shatters a windshield. The wound at the site of impact spreads across the field of vision, obscuring reality and challenging belief." - Jane Leavy "The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

 Organizations can heal from scandals involving bullying and abuse with leaders who clear out bullies and eradicate destructive values, beliefs, and behaviors.  #LeadersArentBullies "To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart." - Eleanor Roosevelt #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

“After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.” ― Judith Lewis Herman #leadersarentbullies   #healthyworkplaces   #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #stepup   #DignityAtWorkAct  

If company #managers do not have the ethical and moral framework to stop bullying, or if they fail to value their employees enough to stop bullying, the organization is not a worthy employer. #LeadersArentBullies "To force a change, sometimes you need to stand up. You know what you're worth - rather than what your employer is paying you." - Alex Morgan #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

“Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the strength.” — Henry Rollins #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

In America, where each worker's inalienable rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness are captured in the Declaration of Independence, individuals should never allow bullying bosses, or their complicit officials, to abuse anyone. #LeadersArentBullies "You cannot deprive somebody of life, liberty, pursuit of happiness, because that is a right - constitutional right." - Gore Vidal #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplace #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

  "Ignorance is the root cause of all difficulties."  - Plato "There seemed to be endless obstacles - it seemed that the root cause of them all was fear." Marion Milner "The common root cause of business disasters is a predisposition toward endeavors offering immediate gratification." - Clayton Christensen #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." - Edith Wharton #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Great mentors and coaches exude—and infuse others with—positive energy. They achieve their results while building healthy relationships through ethical and appropriate processes. #LeadersArentBullies

"They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself." - Andy Warhol #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

When dealing with a bullying incident, focus on facts. Cite specific observations and behaviors. This helps avoid being hijacked by emotions. #LeadersArentBullies "Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not his own facts." - Daniel Patrick Moynihan #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

  "When you have balanced outcomes, work becomes a fulfilling and thankful experience where passion moves you to do your best... for yourself and for others." - Cara Delevingne "Focus on being balanced - success is balance." - Laila Ali #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

Document, record, and address all bullying and abusive of power incidents.  Workers feel safe and know they are protected when nepotism, favoritism, and passive-aggressive retaliatory behaviors are brought to light and stopped. #LeadersArentBullies "You must get an education. You must go to school, and you must learn to protect yourself. And you must learn to protect yourself with the pen, and not the gun." - Josephine Baker #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #DignityAtWorkAct

“Leadership is unlocking people’s potential to become better.” - Bill Bradley #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

#Emotionalintelligence (EQ) includes self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, social skills, motivation and transparency.  Healthy organizations and successful leaders cultivate EQ and apply it every day. #LeadersArentBullies "If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far." - Daniel Goleman #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Narcissists (bullies) will never tell you the truth. They live with the fear of abandonment and can't deal with facing their own shame. They downplay their behavior, blame others and say what ever it takes to remain the victim. Their needs are always more important than telling you any truth that isn't in their favor." Shannon L. Alder #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

Some employees in the mentioned constructive feedback study stated they also received positive performance recognition.  These subjects claim positive recognition at work increases their motivation to improve performance.  #LeadersArentBullies “Mary Kay knew that when you put people first and then surround them with processes and disciplines that recognize their efforts, performance will soar.” – David C. Novak #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct

"Appearances are often deceiving." - Aesop "Take nothing on its looks; take everything on evidence. There's no better rule." - Charles Dickens #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct