Control and Expectations


"Building up expectations, creating unrealistic time frames, feeling like our end goal is the end all, can all lead to frustration or anxiety." - Gretchen Bleiler

"Sensing control and having realistic expectations are the keys to stress management." - Marilu Henner

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Bullies create and either heroically put out their own fires, or they expect others to solve these problems, but a bully only passes on impossible problems, so those beholden to the bully fail to meet these unrealistic expectations.

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