Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"Calm mind brings inner strength and self-confidence, so that's very important for good health." - Dalai Lama "Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition." - Steve Jobs Many victims of workplace bullying are introverts, who are often excellent listeners and deep thinkers. They focus on their assignments and ignore office politics. Their thoughtfulness can keep them from making swift responses to bullying. 

"Turnover can be one of the most expensive problems at a company." - Shawn Achor "Successful business leaders who have helped build institutions of lasting value - all are committed to talent and a culture of excellence. This is usually accomplished by the identification, retention, and development of great people." - Bobby Kotick #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologucalsafetyatworkact

"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." - Franklin D. Roosevelt #healthyworkplaces #Stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologucalsafetyatworkact Bullies misjudge and equate niceness as weakness and go in for the kill. Sincere and unsuspecting targets are caught off guard by a bully’s attacks. They wonder, "Why me?" #LeadersArentBullies

"Trauma fractures comprehension as a pebble shatters a windshield. The wound at the site of impact spreads across the field of vision, obscuring reality and challenging belief." - Jane Leavy "Recovery unfolds in three stages. The central task of the first stage is the establishment of safety. The central task of the second stage is remembrance and mourning. The central focus of the third stage is reconnection with ordinary life." - Judith Lewis Herman #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Every person has a longing to be significant; to make a contribution; to be a part of something noble and purposeful." - John C. Maxwell "Sincerity makes the very least person to be of more value than the most talented hypocrite." - Charles Spurgeon #healthyworkplaces #Stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Victims of bullying are typically honest, ethical, and pro-social. They see their jobs as  more than a means to earn a paycheck. #LeadersArentBullies #workplaceculture

"We need to start identifying the triggers that aggravate mental health issues in our society - bullying, social media negativity and anxiety, gender based violence, substance abuse, stigma around issues such as maternal issues, etc., and we need to speak up about these more and get to the source of the problems." - Sanam Saeed #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"People are afraid of things they don't understand. They don't know how to relate. It threatens their security, their existence, their career, image." - Bill Laswell It is the weak and the threatened who are dangerous to the world and to themselves." - Vernon Howard #Stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullies pick on someone who acts independently and refuses to kowtow—someone  who's typically a veteran worker, highly skilled, and well-liked. #LeadersArentBullies

"Punishment is justice for the unjust." - Saint Augustine "Sooner or later everyone sits down to a banquet of consequences." - Robert Louis Stevenson "Truth is by nature self-evident. As soon as you remove the cobwebs of ignorance that surround it, it shines clear." - Mahatma Gandhi #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong." - Leo Buscaglia "There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it--always." - Mahatma Gandhi #Stepup #healthyworkplaces Workplace victims are not weak, timid, or spineless as often portrayed by complicit and conniving managers who want to hide bullying. Bullying targets are usually highly skilled, ethical, honest, and well-liked. #LeadersArentBullies

"The ideal of behaviorism is to eliminate coercion: to apply controls by changing the environment in such a way as to reinforce the kind of behavior that benefits everyone." - B. F. Skinner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Good manners increase quality of life in the workplace, contribute to employee morale, embellish the company image, and play a major role in generating profit." - Letitia Baldrige "For good ideas and true innovation, you need healthy human interaction." - Margaret Heffernan #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying undermines retention, productivity, goodwill, morale, and innovation. #LeadersArentBullies

"'Beauty is truth, truth beauty,' - that is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know." - John Keats "Liberty, when it begins to take root, is a plant of rapid growth." - George Washington #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

 

"You can only protect your liberties in this world by protecting the other (person's) freedom." - Clarence Darrow "Most people are good, Give them affection and security, and they will give affection and be secure in their feelings and their behavior." - Abraham Maslow #Stepup Strong leaders establish anti-bullying policies to protect  workers. They take maltreatment reports seriously and address & correct demeaning behaviors. Bad companies allow bullying to fester, stating the behavior is based in personality differences and isn't considered illegal.

"When a system of oppression has become institutionalized it is unnecessary for individuals to be oppressive." - Florynce Kennedy "Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable." - Denis Waitley #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." - Dalai Lama "I think a role model is a mentor - someone you see on a daily basis, and you learn from them." - Denzel Washington #Stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact A supervisor’s influencing style plays an important yet complex role in determining  whether bullying is perceived as a workplace problem. #LeadersArentBullies

"A (person)without ethics is a wild beast loosed upon this world." - Albert Camus "Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners." - Laurence Sterne "Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear." - Albert Camus #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"You cannot be a winner without maturity and consistency." - Marco Silva "Trust is built with consistency." - Lincoln Chafee #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Expectations and stress are  correlated. The bigger the gap between expectations & reality, the greater the stress. Workers who experience predictable management behaviors and practices are less likely to see themselves stressed and more likely to say their manager is solid.

"Help People Reach Their Full Potential Catch Them Doing Something Right.” - Kenneth H. Blanchard "Let’s stop blaming and focus more on solving the task at hand. Simply put … attack problems, not people." - Josh Linkner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces   #StepUp #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"When your self-worth goes up, your net worth goes up with it.” - Mark Victor Hansen “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” - Tich Nhat Hanh #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Due to constant belittling, bullied employees don’t feel worthy of better treatment! This lack of self-worth is an effect of, and inadvertently rewards, the bullying boss. #LeadersArentBullies

"We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us." - Virginia Satir "You can't let praise or criticism get to you. It's a weakness to get caught up in either one." - John Wooden #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselebatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change." - Barbara De Angelis #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselebatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Toxic and bullying workplaces are characterized by moving targets; unclear goals, roles, processes.  There are no policies defining rules of engagement or boundaries.  Bullies don't invest in their  employees to help them succeed and grow. They sabotage.  #leadersarentbullies

"Appearances are often deceiving." - Aesop "Repression and intimidation are not - and never should be - the acceptable companions of reform." - Jamal Khashoggi #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence." - Leonardo da Vinci "Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely." - John Dalberg-Actonl #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullies are always seeking ways to create the perception of a power gap to manipulate and take advantage of targets. Don’t let them. Question authority. #LeadersArentBullies

"A noble purpose and healthy culture inspires sacrifice, stimulates innovation and encourages perseverance." - Gary Hamel "What we can control is our performance and our execution, and that's what we're going to focus on." - Bill Belichick #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

" Leadership is a privilege to better the lives of others, not an opportunity to satisfy personal greed." - Mwai Kibaki "Greed is not a financial issue. It's a heart issue." - Andy Stanley #healthyworkplaces #Stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  Life, liberty, the pursuit of #happiness...it’s all manipulated to bestow power and happiness on the few, the misguided, and the bad folks in charge in toxic and bullying workplaces. #LeadersArentBullies

"Psychopaths are social predators, and like all predators, they are looking for feeding grounds. Wherever you get power, prestige and money, you will find them." - Robert D. Hare "The predator wants your silence. It feeds their power, entitlement, and they want it to feed your shame." - Viola Davis #SpeakUp

"In a culture where honest expectations are communicated and shared  accountability is the norm, team members will address poor performance and attitudes." - Henry Cloud #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact When workers do not have concrete goals, roles, or processes, bosses attempt to control and hold these workers accountable with "moving targets," i.e. arbitrary and unrealistic results. Tensions run high and conflict, scapegoating, and trust issues most definitely arise. #Stepup

"Silence is accepting the unacceptable when it comes from anybody." - Dagen McDowell #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"You can't heal what you don't acknowledge." - Jack Canfield #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact When executives look the other way, and allow managers to practice bullying, the organization is toxic. #Management practices are demonstrated in extremes. They are either too aggressive or too casual. These inconsistencies also fuel bullying behaviors. #LeadersArentBullies

"Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness." - Desmond Tutu "As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being." - Carl Jung "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that." - Martin Luther King, Jr. #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #StepUp #psychogicalsafetyatworkact

"Get up, stand up, Stand up for your rights. Get up, stand up, Don't give up the fight." - Bob Marley "We seek the truth and will endure the consequences." - Charles Seymour "Sooner or later everyone sits down to a banquet of consequences." - Robert Louis Stevenson #Stepup #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychogicalsafetyatworkact Bullying is a very durable behavioral style, largely because bullies get what they want—at least at first. Resist their abuse, rally the decent, and find strength, and address the bullying, in numbers. #LeadersArentBullies