Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"There would be no 'quiet quitting' if people didn’t feel that they are being quietly marginalized and bullied in the first place." - Louis Yako #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Most bullied workers admit they do the bare minimum. “I do just enough to not get fired, and nothing else,” says one abused healthcare industry worker. #LeadersArentBullies

A workplace bully's greatest fear is the truth; being exposed as an incompetent fraud.  Workplace bullies attack those whose competency, talents, decency, status, etc., in comparison to the bully, trigger this fear As a result, the best and brightest employees are often bullied. Employees flourish when the right people with the right competencies thrive in the right respective job for them. #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

  "A leader's most critical task is to pick the right metric to track. This is often referred to as the 'compass metric' because it will be your compass for growth. It's important to note that 'compass metrics' will likely change over the lifetime of a business." - Tobias Lutke #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying bosses often justify their negative behaviors and comments with misleading short term gains. In reality, bullying and abusive management practices create  toxic workplace cultures, capable of destroying organizations.

"Authoritarians have a vested interest in promoting fear." - Susan Sontag "The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress." - Frederick Douglass "Rebellion against tyrants is obedience to God." - Benjamin Franklin #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"When a team takes ownership of its problems, the problem gets solved. It is true on the battlefield, in business, and in life." - Jocko Willink "To feel empowered is to feel free. It's when people do their best work. You can't fake confidence or empowerment." - Amy Jo Martin #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullied workers are unmotivated to do a good job. Work doesn’t matter to them because, regardless of effort, they'll be abused. Their primary goal is surviving. With no sense of control over outcomes, they are unengaged & take no ownership or accountability. #leadersarentbullies

"Evil people hate the light because it reveals themselves to themselves. ... They will destroy the light, the goodness, the love in order to avoid the pain of self-awareness. ... [E]vil is laziness carried to its ultimate, extraordinary extreme." - M. Scott Peck "The mistake is not the problem; the lack of remorse is the real mistake." - Michael Bassey Johnson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas." - Calvin Coolidge May the Spirit of Christmas Bless You and Your Loved Ones Today and Everyday!  Merry Christmas!

The purpose of government...  "is to enable the people of a nation to live in safety and happiness." - Thomas Jefferson " is to protect its citizens." - Arlen Specter "is to prevent other people from harming an individual." - Milton Friedman "is to protect the people, not run their lives." - Ronald Reagan "to protect the people and to promote their common welfare." - Barack Obama Yet...... Yet, US Citizens need protection from abuse at work with the: #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"When you're surrounded by a world of constant lies, manipulation, and deceit, that dark energy is bound to seep into you eventually." - Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman "The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up." - Paul Valery #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Targets try to prevent repeated negative, belittling, and bullying behaviors by striving to meet their bully's unrealistic expectations. For power and control, the bully never expresses satisfaction. Ernest workers burn out with futile attempts to please a manipulative bully.  

"If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people." - Virginia Woolf "All great truths begin as blasphemies." - George Bernard Shaw #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Those who plot the destruction of others often perish in the attempt." - Phaedrus "The care of human life and happiness, and not their destruction, is the first and only object of good government." - Thomas Jefferson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Workers recall and re-experience workplace abuse with intense and destructive emotions. Bullying work environment managers spew unremitting criticism, negativity, and threats.  These actions undermine performance and can destroy organizations, careers, and people. #stepup

"The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward." - Amelia Earhart "There is always strength in numbers. The more individuals or organizations that you can rally to your cause, the better." - Mark Shields #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Let us raise a standard to which the wise and honest can repair; the rest is in the hands of God." - George Washington "Whenever anyone has offended me, I try to raise my soul so high that the offense cannot reach it." - Rene Descartes #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Company executives who believe bullying management behaviors influence improved worker productivity, and respective organizational performance, are misinformed and mislead. #LeadersArentBullies

“The growth and development of people is the highest calling of leadership.” - Harvey S. Firestone "Culture is about performance and making people feel good about how they contribute to the whole." - Tracy Streckenbach #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"We are unlikely to spend our last moments regretting we didn't spend enough of our lives chained to a desk. Instead, we may rue not spending time with our kids, or with loved ones, or travelling, or on cultural or leisure pursuits bringing us happiness." - Owen Jones #stepup #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Supervisors feel obligated to be on call 24 hrs/day, 7 days/week, as an extension of  bullying boss. There’s no time for these supervisors and their workers to ponder their contrived existence, to seek root causes and solutions, or to organize, complain, and boycott.

"Trauma fractures comprehension as a pebble shatters a windshield. The wound at the site of impact spreads across the field of vision, obscuring reality and challenging belief." - Jane Leavy "As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage." - Bessel A. van der Kolk #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Where an excess of power prevails, property of no sort is duly respected. No man is safe in his opinions, his person, his faculties, or his possessions." - James Madison "If you care about other people, you might try to organize to undermine power and authority." - Noam Chomsky #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Another fear based tool bullies use in an attempt to control their workers involves requiring excessive paperwork. This overwhelms workers and undermines production, so the bully can further critique workers for not doing their primary jobs. #LeadersArentBullies

"The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect." - Peter A. Levine "Trauma fractures comprehension as a pebble shatters a windshield. The wound at the site of impact spreads across the field of vision, obscuring reality and challenging belief." - Jane Leavy "I'm still coping with my trauma, but coping by trying to find different ways to heal it rather than hide it." - Clemantine Wamariya #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

 "The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak." - Hans Hofmann "Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things." - Peter Drucker #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct  #psychologicalsafetyatworkact In an attempt to exercise control, workplace bullies demand useless reports they claim to be essential and to be completed on time, often forcing supervisors and workers to work excessive overtime. #LeadersArentBullies

"The purpose of whistleblowing is to expose secret and wrongful acts by those in power in order to enable reform." - Glenn Greenwald "A person may cause evil to others not only by (their) actions but by (their) inaction, and in either case (they are) justly accountable to them for the injury." - John Stuart Mill "The point of journalism is to hold people in positions of power accountable." - Ana Kasparian #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Be extra careful at work with those who maintain their position through charm and being political, rather than accomplishment. They are prone to envying and hating those who work hard and get results. They will slander and sabotage you without any warning." - Robert Greene #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Training is informal and not procedural so any mistake or misstep can be blamed on the worker. Bullied workers are set up to fail and often entrapped to knock their confidence. #LeadersArentBullies

"The ideal of behaviorism is to eliminate coercion: to apply controls by changing the environment in such a way as to reinforce the kind of behavior that benefits everyone." - B. F. Skinner #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

Patience + Persistence = Progress #psychologicalsafetyatworkact https://mployeradvisor.com/blog/new-regulations-for-workplace-psychological-abuse-may-be-on-the-way

    "If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic." - Albert Ellis "I believe the root of all evil is abuse of power." - Patricia Cornwell #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Workers are blamed and held accountable and punished for not meeting irrational and unrealistic goals rather than encouraged to seek root causes to obstacles making their goals unatainable. #LeadersArentBullies

"No legacy is so rich as honesty." - William Shakespeare "It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." - Antoine de Saint-Exupery "Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth." - Henry David Thoreau #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact  

“Instead of being ashamed of what you’ve been through, be proud what you have overcome.” – Dr. Phil "The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma." - Judith Lewis Herman #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullied organizations and individuals display PTSD symptoms. Like a deer in headlights, they freeze when bullied. It’s a fear-based response, where criticism evokes memories of a critical parent or bully. #LeadersArentBullies

"Change the changeable, (acknowledge) the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable." - Denis Waitley "The proactive approach to a mistake is to acknowledge it instantly, correct and learn from it." - Stephen Covey #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control." - Lundy Bancroft "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." - Maya Angelou #stepup #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying managers leverage email, voicemail, text, cell phones and other bullies to communicate unclear and accusatory messages meant to put the target or recipient on defense and focused on the bully instead of production and healthy performance/functioning.

"Doing well is the result of doing good. That's what capitalism is all about." - Ralph Waldo Emerson "The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination." - Carl Rogers "Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you." - Walter Winchell #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Leaders who are kind of insecure or egocentric, they basically sabotage themselves." - John C. Maxwell "Narcissism is a clinical trait that belies a deep sense of emptiness, low self-esteem, emotional detachment, self-loathing, extreme problems with intimacy." - Drew Pinsky Bullies create and either heroically put out their own fires, or they expect others to solve these problems, but a bully only delegates problems with impossible solutions, so those beholden to the bully fail to meet these unrealistic expectations. #LeadersArentBullies #healthyworkplaces #stepup   #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through." - Rosalynn Carter "Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars." - Khalil Gibran #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"There cannot be greater rudeness than to interrupt another in the current of his discourse." - John Locke "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." - Brene Brown #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullies in management roles interrupt. They lack respect and consideration and fail to practice appropriate boundaries with their workers. #LeadersArentBullies Wind farm windmill heading to its permanent site.

"We all have mental models: the lens through which we see the world that drive our responses to everything we experience. Being aware of your mental models is key to being objective." - Elizabeth Thornton "Mental models are deeply ingrained assumptions, generalizations, or even pictures of images that influence how we understand the world and how we take action." - Peter Senge #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." - Voltaire "Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important." - Vikrant Massey #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Given the following three choices—lack of recognition, lack of money, and lack of challenge—85% of employees who’ve left an organization state it’s because they didn’t feel appreciated or recognized. #LeadersArentBullies

"The greatest deception (people) suffer is from their own opinions." - Leonardo da Vinci "Petty (people) are eager to make boasts, yet desire that others should believe them. They  enthusiastically engage in deception, yet want others to have affection for them. They  conduct themselves like animals, yet want others to think well of them." - Xun Kuang #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Trust is built with consistency." - Lincoln Chafee "I believe fundamental honesty is the keystone of business." - Harvey S. Firestone "Trust has to be earned, and should come only after the passage of time." - Arthur Ashe #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Good managers don’t #micromanage , and they are not overly critical of subordinates. Employees need to know when they perform below or above expected levels and how to correct or sustain this performance with constructive feedback based on observations and facts.

"If an organization values innovation, you can assume it's safe to speak up with new ideas, leaders will listen, and your voice matters." - Adam Grant "When entire companies embrace a growth mindset, their employees report feeling far more empowered and committed; they also receive far greater organizational support for collaboration and innovation." - Carol S. Dweck #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Ken Blanchard "When we make progress and get better at something, it is inherently motivating. In order for people to make progress, they have to get feedback and information on how they're doing." - Daniel H. Pink #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Effective managers are committed to providing constructive and objective performance feedback to achieve desired outcomes.  They demonstrate rational behavior and respect for their employees. #LeadersArentBullies

"I dream a world in which each of us walks with the knowledge of how beautiful - and valuable - is each human life." - Jacqueline Novogratz "Things gained through unjust fraud are never secure." - Sophocles "When we live in a world that is very unjust, you have to be a dissident." - Nawal El Saadawi #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." -William James "Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. This frees us from unnecessary stress." - Melody Beattie #leadersarentbullies May Thanksgiving bring you much peace, love, joy, and reduced stress.  When stress goes unabated, it compromises a target’s mental health, and when unseen psychological trauma is caused by unsafe, stressful work conditions, it’s every bit as damaging as physical injuries. #Stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

 

“You cannot solve a problem until you acknowledge that you have one and accept responsibility for solving it.” - Zig Ziglar #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"PTSD occurs following a trauma that was so awful that in retrospect you don't understand how you survived. What that causes is an extreme feeling of vulnerability that you get past but that doesn't go away." - Mark Goulston #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact An early Swedish study among 64 victims of bullying at work attending a rehabilitation program concluded that 65% of the patients suffered from PTSD. #LeadersArentBullies

"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars." - Og Mandino "Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness." - Desmond Tutu "There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." - Edith Wharton #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Don't let people disrespect you. My mom says don't open the door to the devil. Surround yourself with positive people." - Cuba Gooding, Jr. "If you surround yourself with love and the right people, anything is possible." - Adam Green #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullying victims report increased psychological distress: anxiety, depression, negative emotions, and overt anger. In the workplace, high levels of burnout and emotional exhaustion are common. #LeadersArentBullies

"No talent, no self-denial, no brains, no character, are required to set up in the fault-finding business. Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealousy, and envy. Only God can shape a flower, but any foolish child can pull it to pieces." - Og Mandino #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity." - Dalai Lama "Corporate social responsibility is measured in terms of businesses improving conditions for their employees, shareholders, communities, and environment." - Klaus Schwab #stepup #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact A leader who cares about balancing the bottom line with running a respectful  and #transparent enterprise is enlightened.  They value equitable results, processes, and relationships, and understand how eliminating and preventing bullying “contains costs."

"Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work though difficult problems." - Gever Tulley "In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." - Dalai Lama "Hope lies in dreams, in imagination, and in the courage of those who dare to make dreams into reality." - Jonas Salk #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

“When people are emotionally invested, they want to contribute.” - Simon Sinek “Employees engage with employers and brands when they’re treated as humans worthy of respect.” - Meghan M. Biro #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Presentee-ism describes how bullied and abused workers, who cannot find another job with equivalent pay, behave. They stay, show up daily, but present only in body and not in spirit or mind. They are the antithesis of “engaged” workers.

"When there is no sharing of power, no rule of law, no accountability, there is abuse, corruption, subjugation and indignation." - Atifete Jahjaga "This world of ours... must avoid becoming a community of dreadful fear and hate, and be, instead, a proud confederation of mutual trust and respect." - Dwight D. Eisenhower #leadersarentbullies #healthyworplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact