Matt Paknis Leadership Development

 

  "Negotiation is empathy. If you can't put yourself in the seat of the other person you're speaking with, you're not going to do well. It's not about being a bully." - Marc Randolph "We believe that economics does not necessarily have to be a zero-sum game; it can be a win-win proposition for everyone involved if they have the tools to succeed." - Ron Kind #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Once people sense their own power, no authoritarian government can stand against the people who are determined to be free." - Tsakhiagiin Elbegdorj “I juggle both work and parenting by ensuring my team feels ownership and entrepreneurship in their job. I always look to hire people who can do what I can’t, better than I ever could.” – Rebecca Minkoff #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #happymothersday #transparency #selfless #selfawareness #innerpeace #MentalHealth #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

 

"Were you bullied?  I’m guessing yes because of your sheer focus on it …. Serious question" A clueless contact wrote me this question.  As written, in my young childhood I was abused and assaulted for several years.  Thanks to my size, I was not  targeted by schoolyard bullies. However, I specialized in addressing corporate bullies throughout my consulting career. This  Ied to my being asked to write my book.   Between 2018 and 2024, Toray Plastics America, with colluding and complicit RI Federal Court Justices, bullied me with a frivolous lawsuit, in an attempt to silence my book and to destroy me.   Until passive by-standing ends, and intervening to stop bullying and abuse is normalized and laws protect defenseless children and employees from bullies, I will keep posting.

"Sensing control in life and having realistic expectations about day-to-day challenges are  to managing stress, a critical ingredient to a happy, healthy and rewarding life." - Marilu Henner "Never permit the pressure to exceed the pleasure of the moment, ever." - Joe Maddon #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #transparency #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct Bullied organizations and individuals display PTSD like symptoms. Like a deer in headlights, they freeze when stressed by abusive and bullying behaviors. It’s a fear-based response, where criticisms and threats evoke memories of a critical parent or a bully or of being abused. #mentalhealth #innerpeace

"But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea." - Matthew 18:6 "Like a physical body, the church has many individual members functioning together as one, all directed by the head." - I Corinthians 12-13, 27 The saying "a fish rots from the head down" means that leadership is the root cause of problems in an organization or society.

"Narcissism is not about self love. It's a clinical trait that belies a deep sense of emptiness, low self-esteem, emotional detachment, self-loathing, extreme problems with intimacy." - Drew Pinsky #leadersarentbullies #honest #selfless #selfawareness   #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

Bullies try to "fill your mind with meaningless stimuli in a world preoccupied with meaningless things, to steal your peace." - Marianne Williamson "Live life to the fullest, and focus on the positive." - Matt Cameron "When it's darkest, focus on the light." - Aristotle Onassis #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #innerpeace Bullying managers leverage email, voicemail, text, cell phones and other bullies to communicate unclear and accusatory messages meant to create fear.  These threats make the target defensive and preoccupied with the bully and not with production and healthy performance / functioning.

"Sir, my concern is not whether God is on our side; my greatest concern is to be on God's side, for God is always right." - Abraham Lincoln "If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter." - George Washington "Do you mind if I sit back a little? Because your breath is very bad." - Donald Trump #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Bystanders are present in over 80-85% of all workplace bullying incidents, but only intervene about 15% of the time." - Sara D. Anderson "What hurts the victim most is not the cruelty of the oppressor, but the silence of the bystander." - Elie Wiesel "Bullies may be the perpetrators of evil, but it is the evil of passivity of all those who know what is happening and never intervene that perpetuates such abuse." - Philip Zimbardo #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Courtrooms are battlegrounds where society’s bullies (corporations, institutions, universities, government entities, justices) and the oppressed (employees, customers, suppliers, citizens) clash." - Kilroy J. Oldster "A lawsuit can be a weapon.“ - Bari Weiss "When I got tied up in a big lawsuit filed by my previous (long term client and employer, Toray Plastics America), I seriously thought my career was over." - Park Bo-young #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #maliciousprosecution #TortiousInterference #frivolouslawsuits #justice #truthwins #metoo #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"There's strong data that, within companies, the No. 1 reason for ethical violations is the pressure to meet expectations, sometimes unrealistic expectations." - Stephen Covey "People striving for approval from others become phony." - Ichiro Suzuki #LeadersArentBullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact To play the hero, bullies create and put out their own manageable fires. They create and expect others to solve absurd problems, to chastise and control those beholden to the bully and who fail to meet these unrealistic performance expectations.