Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"When threatened / trapped, the organism reverts to a more primitive way to survive: fight or flight. If this fails, the organism tries to preserve itself by shutting down and expending as little energy as possible, in a state of freeze or collapse." - Bessel van der Kolk #live #PTSD #freedom #LifeIsShort #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #twisted #fearless #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #maturity #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct Bullying fear is like throwing sand in the engine of work. It immobilizes and freezes bystanders. Afraid to act, workers are less productive, yet poor production is the opposite of what bullies claim to demand, profess, and covet.

“To contract new debts is not the way to pay old ones.” - George Washington "Money was never a big motivation for me, except as a way to keep score. The real excitement is playing the game." - Donald Trump “Never spend your money before you have earned it.” - Thomas Jefferson #wealth #balance #fiscal #capitalism #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #power

"(Bullies) are afraid of things they don't understand. They don't know how to relate (talent, goodness, decency). It threatens their security, their existence, their career, image." - Bill Laswell "(Bullies) who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than (and are more apt to attack) others." - Helen Fisher "Whatever triggers you reveals what still needs to be healed, (to stop bullying)." - Tamara Kulish. #competence #confidence #maturity #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #calm  

"A corrupt judge does not carefully search for the truth." - Horace "Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere." - Martin Luther King Jr. "Judges are the weakest link in our system of justice, and they are also the most protected." - Alan Dershowitz #justice #truth #FreeSpeech #freedom #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"(Those) who passively accept evil are as much involved in it as (those) who help to perpetrate it. (Those) who accept evil without protesting against it are really cooperating with it." - Martin Luther King, Jr. #SpeakUp #protection #intervention #truthtopower #leadersarentbullies #fightthepower #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact People who fail to intervene are afraid. They fear being the next target. They fear they might not help correctly and botch it. They fear to be the only ones to act. They fear retaliation and retribution by the bully or their employer. They fear losing their jobs and income.

"It has been my experience that folks who have no vices have very few virtues." - Abraham Lincoln "It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit." - Harry S Truman "Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent." - Calvin Coolidge #persistence #Resilience #determination #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"(People) can fail many times, but (they aren't) failures until (they) begin to blame somebody else." - John Burroughs "All cruelty springs from weakness." - Lucius Annaeus Seneca "Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer. Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility for the future." - John F. Kennedy #encourage #improve #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #feedback #growth #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter." - George Washington "Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." - Harvey Fierstein #freedom #Efficacy #pushback #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #SpeakUp

We can do better than 13%! "When you do nothing you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better." - Maya Angelou #stepup #getinvolved   #protection   #helpingothers #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #SpeakUp #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Coworkers collaborate and rally around their bullied coworker by confronting the bully and reporting the bully’s abusive behaviors to their employer or authorities in about 13% of workplace bullying cases according to a WBI U.S. Workplace Bullying Survey.

"Power is like being a lady... if you have to tell people you are, you aren't." - Margaret Thatcher "Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love." - Mahatma Gandhi #winwin #multisum #collaborate #rational #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

“Silent treatment in a relationship is often a sign of selfishness and weakness!” — Malbro Kingston "You can love people without leading them but you cannot lead people without loving them." - Ty Bennett #inclusion #invite #welcome #valueothers #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Justice consists not in being neutral between right and wrong, but in finding out the right and upholding it, wherever found, against the wrong." - Theodore Roosevelt "A judge must be free from all influences that might warp or sway her judgment." - Alexander Hamilton #failuretorecuse #ConflictOfInterest #Corruption #maliciousprosecution #TortiousInterference #frivolouslawsuits #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher." - Oprah Winfrey “Remove toxic people from your life, & free up space for positive, healthy relationships.” - John Mark Green "Working with talented people  elevates, it feels more like play." - Jenna Ortega #positive #healthy #happy #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Controlling bullies will attempt block transfers to a safe job and to a good boss. They try to make targets so miserable that they quit, or try to impair a target’s health to the extent they must quit lifting the enormous burden of stress.

“We'll do what is best for the people and let politics take care of themselves.” - Ronald Reagan “The purpose of government is the care of human life and happiness, and not their destruction, is the first and only object of good government.” - Thomas Jefferson #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #FreeSpeech

A Most Happy and Safe 4th of July to You and Yours!  Let Freedom Ring! 

"There cannot be greater rudeness than to interrupt another in the current of his discourse." - John Locke “People intimidate only because they are intimidated by your goals.” - Janna Cachola “To say that a person feels listened to means a lot more than just their ideas get heard. It's a sign of respect. It makes people feel valued.” — Deborah Tannen “Of all the skills of leadership, listening is the most valuable — to get word before anyone of unseen problems and opportunities.” — Peter Nulty #listening #Respect #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #FreeSpeech #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"A corrupt judiciary is hardly likely to hold a corrupt executive to account." - Prashant Bhushan #lawsuitsasweapons #maliciousprosecution #TortiousInterference #corruption #collusion #complicity #leadersarentbullies #justice #HealthyWorkplaces #truth #FreeSpeech  #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"If you accept others' negative expectations, you'll never change the outcome." - Michael Jordan “Employees engage with employers when treated as respected, worthy humans.” - Meghan M. Biro “Treat your employees as you want them to treat your best customers.” - Stephen R. Covey #pygmalion #expectations #outcomes #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #psychologicalsafetyatworkact Bullied workers often admit they do the bare minimum. “I do just enough to not get fired, and nothing else,” says one abused and disengaged worker.