Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"A great person is always willing to be little." — Ralph Waldo Emerson "Insecurity is loud. Confidence is quiet. True leadership is calm, steady, and secure in its purpose." — Unknown "Do not let other's behavior destroy your inner peace." — Dalai Lama #greatness #confidence #calm #steady #secure #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #peace ##psychologicalsafetyatworkact #maturity  Bullies target gifted and decent people whose talent and goodness infuriates the bully. A bully's greatest fear is being seen in comparison as an incompetent fraud. Bullies loathe, and are frustrated with, themselves. They attack people who trigger this fear and self hate.

"The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants." — Thomas Jefferson  "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." — Alice Walker "Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding." — Albert Einstein #liberty #power #peace #freedom #beacon #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #hope #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #NeverGiveUp

Toray's frivolous lawsuit against me was based in revenge.  They shopped friendly judges who conspired with Toray's false claims to bully me.   "Revenge involves taking the law into your own hands. Justice is the opposite of revenge. Justice means handing over your cause to an impartial tribunal..." — Lord Jonathan Sacks #justice #truth #impartial #honorable #character #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #life #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #liberty #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #happiness

“A bully's cruelty is not a show of power — it's proof of emptiness.” — Unknown "No one is born hating another person. People must learn to hate..." - Nelson Mandela #perceptions #observations #opinions #facts #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #truth #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #justice  A bully’s mental models, perceptions, criticisms, and insecurities can foster fear for, and prejudice against, for example, people of different races, religions, or sexual orientations. Leaders are comfortable in their own skin. They aren't threatened, and rise above with facts.

"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader." - John Quincy Adams "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." - Walter Winchell  Thank you Joe!  Love the pic! #friend #mentor #coach #leader #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct

The root cause of workplace bullying is driven by a bully's greatest fear; being exposed as an incompetent fraud.  Talented employees trigger this fear. "The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things. They are the one that gets the people to do the greatest things." – Ronald Reagan" "None of us, alone, does great things. All of us, together, can do great things." – Mother Teresa #elevate #talent #greatness #others #together #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #inspire #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #uplift

 

"Judge shopping is where litigants exploit quirks in the structure of the federal judiciary to hand-pick judges who are sympathetic to their ideological goals... [It] involves strategic filing in courts with few available judges." — The Brennan Center for Justice "When public men deny others a fair trial then our democratic society is outraged, and democracy is baffled." - J. William Fulbright #FairTrial #justice #liberty #truth #honor #dignity #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #democracy #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #NeverGiveUp

“People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.” - Theodore Roosevelt "Only a tiny percentage of surivors choose to abuse, yet almost all perps and predators were abused.  Hurting others is ultimately a choice." A person’s capacity to be aware of others’ feelings and the ability to manage these feelings, allow people with emotional intelligence to manage healthy relationships. Bullies don’t care about others’ feelings. Bullying bosses, like pedophiles and psychopaths, lack empathy. #LeadersArentBullies

"Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We didn't pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same." - Ronald Reagan "If freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter." - George Washington #freedom #FreeSpeech #FairTrial #democracy #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #liberty #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #speakout

"All cruelty springs from weakness." — Seneca "The malignant egoist is like the dyer's hand, subdued to what it works in." — William Shakespeare "A wolf is no less a wolf because he's dressed up in a sheepskin." — Aesop "Falsehood is easy, truth is so hard." — Henry David Thoreau #truth #transparency #character #integrity #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #respect #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #authenticity

My book was released around the world in September 2018.  In December 2018, with no evidence, former client Toray Plastics' vindictive American executives sued me, angry I addressed a valid shooting threat and jealous of my book. Eight years later, the saga continues..... "A lawsuit can be a weapon." — Bari Weiss "The purpose of [a lawsuit] is to harass and discourage rather than to win. The law can be used very easily to harass..." — L. Ron Hubbard #freespeech #FairTrial #justice #truth #liberty #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #truth #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #freedom #psychologicalsafetyatworkact

"He that is humble, ever is striving to be trusted. He that is proud, ever is hiding his weakness." - Friedrich Nietzsche "People who shut their eyes to reality simply invite their own destruction, and any-body who insists on remaining in a state of innocence long after that innocence is dead turns himself into a monster." - James Baldwin "To be proud and inaccessible is to show us a pride that is not our own, but a weakness that we would fain conceal." - Thomas Fuller #LeadersArentBullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #humility  #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #strength  This admiration and worship of power is what facilitates bullying in the workplace. Incompetent and insecure people place inordinate importance on being in charge and powerful to compensate for their lack of talent. 

Happy Sunday!  Overjoyed to announce the birth of our Grandchild (and Granddaughter!) #2! All are well!  Best wishes for a great week!

"A bully's/narcissist’s criticism is a confession. They accuse you of what they do, or what they ." —are Shannon L. Alder "Denial is not just a river in Egypt; it is the primary defense mechanism of the bully/narcissist." — Unknown "Pathological bullies/narcissists can never apologize. To them, an apology is an admission of weakness and total defeat." — Sam Vaknin "Blaming is the easiest way to solve a problem because it locks you in the role of the victim." — Elizabeth Gilbert #ownership #accountability #maturity #rationality #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #decency  #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #honesty

"A democracy cannot function effectively when its constituent members believe laws are being bought and sold." - John Paul Stevens "...moneyed interests seem to enjoy an easier road to relief in this Court than ordinary citizens." - Ketanji Brown Jackson "It is a shocking thing when a judge of your high office is shown to have betrayed the truth and his / her honor..." - Florence Ellinwood Allen (First female U.S. Circuit Judge) #democracy #justice #truth #liberty #honor #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #speakout #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #FreeSpeech

"Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely." — Lord Acton "The surest way to work up a crusade in favor of some good cause is to promise people they will have a chance of maltreating someone. To be able to destroy with good conscience, to be able to behave badly and call your bad behavior 'righteous indignation' is the height of luxury, the most delicious moral treat." — Aldous Huxley #power #good #selfless #love #capitalism #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #protect #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #community People who push others around are often driven by the need for power. It takes a conscious choice to bully and to derive pleasure in having power and control over others. #LeadersArentBullies

"Japan is a good friend and ally.  Whenever and however we can help them, we will." - Donald Trump "Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe, in order to assure the survival and the success of liberty." - John F. Kennedy #friends #allies #help #support #success #liberty #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #peace #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #freedom

"Strong people bring out the best in others. Weak people build themselves up at the expense of others." — Unknown "War grows out of the desire of the individual to gain advantage at the expense of his fellow man." — Napoleon Hill #strength #best #peace #sacrifice #humility #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #multisum #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #teamwork

"Our team has found a way to create a great culture and environment for winning." - Tom Brady "Talent wins games, teamwork and intelligence wins championships." — Michael Jordan Let stated values, beliefs, and behaviors define and reflect an organization’s culture. Let positive behaviors and outcomes reflect the quality of the psychosocial work environment.  #winning #modeling #values #beliefs #behaviors #LeadersArentBullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #culture #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #goodhabits

"The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself; to be conquered by yourself is of all things most shameful and vile." - Plato “When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” - Jimi Hendrix "The main ingredient of stardom is the rest of the team." - John Wooden #conquerself #power #love #peace #team #give #leadersarentbullies #HealthyWorkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #sacrifice #psycholigicalsafetyatworkact #humility