Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"Example is leadership." - Albert Schweitzer "Imagine for yourself a character, a model personality, whose example you determine to follow, in private as well as in public." - Epictetus #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityatWorkAct Leaders’ actions, behaviors, and responses should show employees that bullying is not permitted in the organization; the culture will not tolerate bullying. #LeadersArentBullies

"The chance to profit from corruption is why many authoritarian leaders seize and cling to power." - Tom Malinowski "Rebellion against tyrants is obedience to God." - Benjamin Franklin #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"The single most important ingredient in the recipe for success is transparency because transparency builds trust." - Denise Morrison "We believe that transparency is needed to create trust, and it's also needed to create a dialogue." - Julie Sweet #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Organizations must be transparent and truthful while evaluating whether their managers are bullies. To thrive, employees must trust bullying will not be tolerated in their business and employees will be treated with respect. #LeadersArentBullies

"The (person) who cannot endure to have (their) errors and shortcomings brought to the surface and made known, but tries to hide them, is unfit to walk the highway of truth." - James Allen #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Trust is the glue of life; the  essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the key principle holding all relationships." - Stephen Covey "Few things can help a person  more than to give (them) responsibility, to let (them) know  you trust him." - Booker T. Washington #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  Leaders build trust. They make vulnerable workers feel safe. They generate a positive spark and cycle of effectiveness. They shed light on bullying with transparency and self-awareness. They have integrity. #LeadersArentBullies

"In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King, Jr. "Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence." - Leonardo da Vinci "Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." - Harvey Fierstein #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Life is about perspective; how you look at something... you have to zoom out." -Whitney Wolfe Herd "Empathy is understanding life from another person's perspective." -Sterling K. Brown "Perspective is everything when  experiencing the challenges of life." -Joni Eareckson Tada #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct Moving an organization forward requires everyone to want to learn to listen with respect to influence themselves and others to appreciate varying  perspectives. It requires looking behind appearances to uncover obstacles blocking continuous learning and organizational health.

"The greatest deception (people) suffer is from their own opinions." - Leonardo da Vinci "We live in a fantasy world, a world of illusion. The great task in life is to find reality." - Iris Murdoch #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"When the norm is decency, other virtues can thrive: integrity, honesty, compassion, kindness, and trust." - Raja Krishnamoorthi #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct  A critical difference between thriving organizations and those struggling to survive is the capacity to learn from circumstances, experiences, and the message the environment is sending. #LeadersArentBullies

"It is, after all, the responsibility of the expert to operate the familiar and that of the leader to transcend it." - Henry Kissinger "When an individual is protesting society's refusal to acknowledge his dignity as a human being, his very act of protest confers dignity on him." - Bayard Rustin #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"When it comes to human dignity, we cannot make compromises." - Angela Merkel "When there is oppression and dictatorship, by not speaking out, we lose our dignity." - Asma Jahangir #healthyworkplaces #stepup #DignityatWorkAct #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct Healthy employers treat bullying as if it’s illegal. They demonstrate the right values, beliefs, and behaviors. #LeadersArentBullies

"The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant." - Max DePree "Employee engagement is an investment we make for the privilege of staying in business." - Ian Hutchinson #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"Healthy (people) do not torture others - generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers." - Carl Jung "Great achievement is never the result of selfishness." - Napoleon Hill "Those careless with truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters." - Einstein #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #DignityAtWorkAct Leaders who stop and / or prevent bullying monitor organizational health with 3 performance gauges: organizational results, effective / credible processes, and trusting / healthy relationships. #LeadersArentBullies

"Trauma isolates; the group re-creates a sense of belonging. Trauma shames and stigmatizes; the group bears witness and affirms. Trauma degrades victims; the group exalts them. Trauma dehumanizes victims; the group restores their humanity." - Judith Hermann "A lot of people who have experienced trauma at the hands of people they've trusted take responsibility, and that is what's toxic." - Hannah Gadsby #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

My dad always said I looked like a leprechaun.  Will soon find out if, in fact, I have some Irish Blood in me with my Ancestry DNA analysis, but isn't everyone a little Irish today?  This is Ms. Simister's Nursery School on Greenwood Avenue in Madison, NJ, 1966. Slainte! "Working on problems and self-examination is a sign of strength." - Dana Reeve "There can be no faith in government if our highest offices are excused from scrutiny; they should be setting the example of transparency."  - Edward Snowden #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct   #DignityatWorkAct Great managers and coaches and teachers and leaders are constantly inspecting themselves and their organizations to expose their weaknesses or flaws  to remove or improve these flaws to make themselves and their organizations better. #LeadersArentBullies

  "A person may cause evil to others not only by his actions but by his inaction, and in either case he is justly accountable to them for the injury." - John Stuart Mill "An exchange of empathy provides an entry point for a lot of people to see what healing feels like." - Tarana Burke #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"When you're surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible." - Howard Schultz "You get hit the hardest when  avoiding problems. Like on a football field, if all focus is on one defender, you'll get blindsided." - Criss Jami Healthy organizations share understood and accepted goals, roles, processes, healthy relationships, and shared commitment. They are relentless in their desire to operate without secrets or blind spots. #LeadersArentBullies #healthyworkplaces

"Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune." - William James "Distance gives a clearer view. You can't see the facade of a building while staying inside." - Michael Bassey "Truth is confirmed by inspection and delay; falsehood by haste and uncertainty." -Tacitus #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential... these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence." - Confucius "We are what we repeatedly do... excellence, therefore, isn't just an act, but a habit." - Aristotle #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct Healthy organizations are earmarked by members and associates who are safe, secure, transparent, and self-aware, resulting in performance and production excellence and celebration. #LeadersArentBullies

"Ignorance, the root and stem of all evil." - Plato "I believe the root of all evil is abuse of power." - Patricia Cornwell "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." - Alice Walker #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Any (person/organization) worth (their) salt will stick up for what (they) believe right. It takes a slightly better (person/organization) to acknowledge instantly and without reservation that (they are) in error." - Andrew Jackson #healthyworkplaces  #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct  People and organizations who transcend bullying start the process by identifying, acknowledging, and accepting the truth about bullies and their organizations. #LeadersArentBullies

Toray Plastics America sued me in Providence, RI Federal Court in December, 2018, three months after my book was released. "People who are in a position of power like to throw their weight around, and that becomes abuse." - Jason Stratham A lawsuit can be a weapon. Share this Quote Bari Weiss Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/lawsuit-quotes A lawsuit can be a weapon. Share this Quote Bari Weiss Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/lawsuit-quotes North Kingstown, RI’s Toray Plastics, which is suing a former employee over a book he wrote, ‘Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies’ By:  Eric T. Berkman   August 26, 2022 A U.S. District Court judge has found that a company could bring nondisparagement and defamation claims against a former employee who wrote a book on workplace bullying even though the book never referenced the employer by name. Defendant Matthew Paknis, a veteran management and leadership consultant who briefly worked in the HR department of To...

"The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority." - Ken Blanchard "All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them." - Galileo Galilei "In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." - Dalai Lama #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Goodness is about character - integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people." - Dennis Prager #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityatWorkAct Self-scrutiny, transparency, #honesty, and selflessness are goodness hallmarks. Bullies do not like or practice these things. Embrace them. #LeadersArentBullies

"Without memory, there is no culture. Without memory, there would be no civilization, no society, no future." - Elie Wiesel "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct  

"If you work hard and you work for somebody who empowers you and challenges you, you'll be successful." - Hope Hicks #leadersarentbullies #stepup #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityatWorkAct Placating a workplace bullies’ needs, wants, and moods take precedence over performance and organizational health. The organization’s employees learn how to placate the abuser, often at the cost of performance, health, happiness, freedom, and functioning.

"If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself." - Henry Ford "Treasure your relationships, not your possessions." - Anthony J. D'Angelo "One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." - Bryant H. McGill #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"(A person) who is cruel to animals becomes hard also in (their) dealings with (others). We can often judge the heart of a (human) by their treatment of animals." - Immanuel Kant "Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity." - Hippocrates #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct If a schoolyard bully is not stopped and treated with professional help, the chance of them stopping and becoming a different and healthier person is slim. Their abusive behaviors will continue throughout adulthood, affecting the type of life they lead and lives they impact.

"The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people." - Martin Luther King, Jr. "I can live for two months on a good compliment." - Mark Twain #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconflict #stepup #DignityAtWorkAct

"Through darkness shrouding our prospects, the ark of safety is visible. Despondency becomes not the dignity of our cause, nor the character of our supporters." - Samuel Adams "Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness." -Desmond Tutu #healthyworkplaces #stepup #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #DignityAtWorkAct  A target who is not allowed to address and stop workplace bullying can experience a sense of despondency at home. Bullying can affect everyone in a bullying  victim's life. #LeadersArentBullies

"All cruelty springs from weakness." - Lucius Annaeus Seneca "The best revenge is to be unlike (them) who performed the injury." - Marcus Aurelius A lawsuit can be a weapon. Share this Quote Bari Weiss Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/lawsuit-quotes A lawsuit can be a weapon. Share this Quote Bari Weiss Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/lawsuit-quotes North Kingstown, RI’s Toray Plastics, which is suing a former employee over a book he wrote, ‘Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies’ By:  Eric T. Berkman   August 26, 2022 A U.S. District Court judge has found that a company could bring nondisparagement and defamation claims against a former employee who wrote a book on workplace bullying even though the book never referenced the employer by name. Defendant Matthew Paknis, a veteran management and leadership consultant who briefly worked in the HR department of Toray Plastics, authored a book entitled “Successful Leaders Aren’t Bullies.”  Durin...