Matt Paknis Leadership Development

"Abuse is not a disease; it is a moral choice and a system of beliefs." — Lundy Bancroft "The ultimate tyranny in a relationship is the person who insists that their subjective reality is the only objective truth." — Dr. Ramani Durvasula "The human mind is a narrative machine. When someone wants to hurt another person, their mind will instantly construct a story where the harm was completely justified." — Unknown #choices #reality #truth #rational #maturity #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #objective #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #justice  

"A corrupt judge does not carefully search for the truth." — Horace "Corrupt judges accept secret bribes, and then justice is not done." — Proverbs 17:23 "No man is allowed to be a judge while influencing his own cause; because his interest would certainly bias his judgment, and, not improbably, corrupt his integrity." — James Madison,  "When justice is bought and sold, there is no more hope for society." — Anonymous #honesty #truth #influence #hope #character #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #honor #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #justice

"By submitting to huge hierarchies of power, we gain freedom from personal responsibility... Refuse to participate in this evil; insist on taking part in what is healthy, generous, and responsible. Stand up, speak out, and when necessary fight back. Get down off the fence and lend a hand, grab a-hold, be a citizen – not a subject.” - Edward Abbey “Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” - Lord Acton “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” - Martin Luther King Jr. “Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.” - C.S. Lewis #power #freedom #protect #humanity #citizen #LeadersArentBullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #justice #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #ìntegrity  Bullies pick on someone who acts independently and refuses to kowtow - someone who's typically a veteran worker, highly skilled, and well-liked.

"If you don't talk about peace, you can't achieve it. An end to the war will not be achieved through silence.... Diplomacy matters, dialogue matters, and peace must never be dismissed as weakness. Young peacebuilders are not naïve. They are necessary.... I deal with the world as it is because it helps build a world I wish we would have, a world which we can build together." - Alexander Stubb #peace #dialogue #strength #BuildTogether #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #freedom #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #dignity

 

 "I am a firm believer in the people. If given the truth, they can be depended upon to meet any national crisis. The great point is to bring them the real facts." - Abraham Lincoln  #truth #solveproblems #facts #humility #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #uplift #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #empower #happyhalloween  “The culture of any organization is shaped by the worst behavior the leader is willing to tolerate.” — Steve Gruenert and Todd Whitaker

"God works wonders now and then; Behold a lawyer, an honest man." - Benjamin Franklin "I have seen certain Federal judges controlled or influenced by large corporations..., by large law firms...,  and by special interests... (some) ought to be thrown right off the bench because they are breaking every code of conduct." - Orrin Hatch #conduct #honesty #integrity #character #code #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #truth #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #constitution

"Help one another. It is the only way to survive. No one is as capable of gratitude as one who has emerged from the kingdom of night. I believed that having survived by chance, I was duty-bound to give meaning to my survival, to justify each moment of my life. Nobody is stronger, nobody is weaker than someone who came back. There is nothing you can do to such a person because whatever you could do is less than what has already been done to him. We have already paid the price." - Elie Wiesel  #gratitude #meaning #Survival #strength #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #resilience  Workplace bullying victims are not weak, timid, or spineless as often portrayed by complicit and conniving managers who want to hide bullying. Bullying targets are usually highly skilled, ethical, honest, and well-liked.

"A word of truth can mobilise two peoples looking for the road to reconciliation." - Donald Tusk “A company’s value is closely related to its reputation. We understand reputation as an asset and we take every care to manage this asset with monitoring systems.”  - Miguel Setas "Those with determination will eventually succeed." - Sanders  Takaichi #truth #reconciliation #value #Reputation #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #ethics #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #determination

 ...yet less than 13% of the witnesses intervene or address or stop the abuse. “The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything.” - Albert Einstein "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King Jr. "Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence." - Leonardo da Vinci "I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." -  Elie Wiesel #takeaction #goodness #SpeakUp #liberty #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #empower #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #takeastand

International organizations are susceptible to bullying for several reasons: increased worker diversity, increased global employee dispersion, lack of management experience in new markets, and management needing advanced and consistent skills and behaviors.  #unity #dialogue #corevalues #beliefs #behaviors  #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #humane #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #future  "Bullying is more accepted in short term focus, aggressive cultures. It is less acceptable in long term return, future oriented, humane cultures. Bullying's deleterious long term impact is not worth any perceived short term gains.” - Jennifer Hancock

 

“People don’t just buy products, they buy stories and solutions to their problems. People buy on emotions first and use logic to rationalize it later.” - Brian Tracy “Over 90% of our buying decisions are made subconsciously... emotions rise faster and are more persuasive than logic.” - Gerald Zaltman #products #stories #solutions #influence #power #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #emotions #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #logical  

"The Mafia is alive and well in Rhode Island. It’s just moved its headquarters from Federal Hill to Smith Hill." -  Gerald Carbone "The toe you stepped on yesterday may be connected to the ass you have to kiss today." - Buddy Cianci   "The home of self-serving politicians living off of a self-serving electorate living off of a few unfortunate taxpayers... the Ocean State." - Edward Beaudreau "It’s getting so you can’t tell all the cases without a program." - Mary Ann Sorrentino #honorable #honesty #integrity #transparency #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces  #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #trustworthy  #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #selflessness

"People thrive on accountability and the freedom to act, but they can't do either if they don't know the boundaries." — Ken Blanchard "Clients do not come first. Employees come first. If you take care of your employees, they will take care of the clients." — Richard Branson "To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart." — Eleanor Roosevelt #accountability #freedom #boundaries #heart #LeadersArentBullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #employees #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #satisfaction  Bullying undermines retention, productivity, safety, equipment, goodwill, morale, and innovation.

“He’s one of the greatest business leaders and innovators the world has ever produced... a modern-day Thomas Edison. We have to protect our geniuses, we don't have that many of them.”- Donald Trump “I fully expect to be scrutinized and get a daily proctology exam, basically. Might as well just camp out there.” - Elon Musk #innovations #geniuses #protection #trust #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #success #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #Transparency

"The target is chosen because they possess some strength or virtue that the bully lacks—most often competence, popularity, or integrity." -  Tim Field "Envy is a factor in most workplace bullying. The bully is terrified that the target’s superior skills will make them look incompetent by comparison." - Dr. Heinz Leymann "The problem isn't that you are doing a bad job; the problem is that you are doing a good job, and your success threatens a fragile ego above or beside you." - Workplace Psychology Proverb #strength #virtue #talent #integrity #success #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #skills #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #competence #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #confidence

 

"Bullying consists of the least competent most aggressive employee projecting their incompetence on to the least aggressive most competent employee." - Tim Field "Any anti-bullying scheme, initiative or policy which fails to mention accountability for the bullies is likely to meet with little, and often no, success." -  Tim Field "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor." - Desmond Tutu #competence #confidence #accountability #team #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #SpeakUp #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #justice  Healthy environments and strong leaders establish anti-bullying policies to protect workers. They take reports of maltreatment seriously and address & correct demeaning behaviors. Bad companies allow bullying to fester.  They state the behavior is not illegal.

"It's a victory when the weapons fall silent and people speak up." - Volodymyr Zelensky  "Let's build a country of opportunities, where everybody is equal before the law and where the rules of the game are honest and transparent, and the same for everyone." - Volodymyr Zelensky #victory #SpeakUp #Opportunity #equality #law #leadersarentbullies #healthyworkplaces #leaderselevatethoughtandconduct #honesty #psychologicalsafetyatworkact #Transparency